Newbie: First post

I viewed the boards for a while but was afraid to join until now. I just jumped on this ship. Made a list of WL attempts for my doctor. Now I wait to hear from her. From what I read, waiting is something I'm going to have to get used to. I hear BCN is difficult to deal with. I'm scared. I haven't told a sole I'm barking up the WLS tree. Not even my DH. I won't even tell him until I know for sure if I'm approved. He thinks I should just jump on a treadmill and all will fine with the universe. I've gained 120# since we met. My marriage is affected by my weight. We're not close anymore. My biggest fear is having complications from surgery and leaving my children w/o a mom.

Hi Dee Dee, Welcome to the Michigan board. The waiting can be a hard thing but it is worth it. Since I'm still preop I can't help with much that happens after surgery. I can help with the wait. It took me over a year to get the approval. Most of that was because it wasn't a benefit until the first of this year. Jeanne

WELCOME DEE DEE Best wishes to you as you begin this jouney.... it truely is a ROOLER COASTER ride of emotions... Personaly I feel you've picked THE BEST surgon on this earth. I never once worried about complications or anythign else with Dr. Webber. He is a truely gifted and caring man.... let us knwo if you need anything.... most of us in here don't bite Erin

Hi all. I too am new to this. I just had my PCP fax my ins. co. to get a referral to go see the surgeon. Waiting is gonna be a big part of this as I can already see. My ins. is HAP, and they drag their feet from what I hear. I hope all goes well. I also haven't told many about my decision, just in case things don't go well. I am positive that I can do this and will wait as long as I have to, but hopefully it will go faster than I expect. Wish me luck.

Hi Dee Dee I too have bcn and had dr. Webber. They are tough to go through, and you will end up going all the way through the appeals process to the in person appeal, but after that they will approve you. It took me a year to get approved. I also had dr. Webber, he is wonderful, i just can't say enough about how great he is. He is a very busy man though, so write down everything you need to talk to him about when you have your appointments. He helped me through the appeals too, he gets very close to his patients. good luck to you Hugs Linda

Welcome Dee Dee! We all know how you are feeling...we've been there. Just know this is such a worthwhile decision you are making...you won't regret it! Best of luck! Theresa

Hi DeeDee, I'm glad to see you've decided to post...if anyone knows what you're going through, it's the people here! And for Dawn, same for you, Hon! As Theresa said, we've been through all the ups and downs, who to tell & when, excited & scared at the same time, recognizing all of the possibilites & concerns...feel free to spill it all here, we'll encourage you, share our stories, and be honest with you, with lots of lovin'! Blessings, Lizzie B