I need to vent!!

Well, it started earlier this afternoon. I had mentioned this morning things that we had in the house that we could eat for dinner this evening. I knew that I couldn't eat a lot, but at least something. Well, my dad started complaining about my brother may not eat certain things and that I hardly eat anything...in a LOUD voice. I asked him nicely to stop complaining, but he didn't. Well, that's when I reverted to my old way of sulking and just went to my room. I got in the bed and realized that I couldn't use food to comfort me like I had done years ago. I mean, why did I do this in the first place?? I'm happy that I had this surgery (and no regrets), but now it seems that I'm being blamed for having this. I didn't have a lot to eat tonight (not like the plate that my dad had loaded). I ate sensible, but not stuffed. Things are not good as far as HAP is concerned. I got a bill on Friday from Henry Ford saying that I owed them $250.00 !! I figured it was a billing code error, so I called them on Monday and they said those items were pending; it was an admission to the hospital for my surgery! I was because NO ONE told me about this expense (I have Medicare & HAP). I can't afford $250.00 because I'm on Social Security and it would be half of what I get in a MONTH!! The only thing I can about is the fact that last week I got into a size 14 pair of stretch jeans!! I'll get off my soapbox now, but I reserve the right to get back on it at any time...

Rhonda, Vent...........please. I know how you feel. I really do. I've been told 1. "YOU TOOK THE EASY WAY OUT" by having this surgery 2. "YOU ARE COPPING OUT" on dieting 3. "THIS IS TOO RISKY AND IF ANYTHING HAPPENS DON'T CALL US" By my own parents. Of everything I have done in my life, out of anything I have tried to do, I have been badgered down to "You'll never amount to anything because of your weight"......"you have such a pretty face, if you'd only lose that weight"......It gets REALLY OLD REALLY FAST. I had NO support nor should I say I've had NO SUPPORT from my parents since I had surgery and my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. He is the center of the universe to the world and people he knows, and to hell with me. "SO AS NOT TO CONFUSE ANYONE, THIS IN REFERENCE TO MY OWN FAMILY ONLY:::" No one cares, no one calls me, no one compliments me, no one has supported me through this entire journey. I had to nearly cancel because I couldn't find anyone to take me to the hospital. Or to take me home after surgery/discharge. I spent three weeks alone. With NO ONE to care for me, pick up for me, shop for me, cook or clean for me. I had to do it all alone. But...........in the long run: THIS IS WHAT I WANTED THIS IS WHAT I SEARCHED FOR ALL MY LIFE THIS IS MY CHOICE THIS IS FOR ME ME ME ME ME AND I WOULDNT LET ANYONE GET IN MY WAY OF SUCCEEDING NOW. So don't let your family run your motivation into the ground, and don't let anyone make you feel guilty because YOU DIDN'T DO IT FOR THEM, YOU DID IT FOR YOURSELF. YOU. AND NO ONE ELSE. There comes a time when you have to just say "thank you for sharing" and ignore what people in your family do or say. I have had to do that lately. Just vent all you want, and I'll listen. As so will many others. I do understand. Wholeheartedly. Honest. All my best to you..... Stacey

WOW! I am so proud of you Stacey. To make the decision of WLS and then to stick with it with no support is just awful! You should be so proud of yourself. You really inspire me. Best of luck to you hun.

I just want to clarify something: The father I speak of dying is my step father. I believe that he took my mother away from me when I was 11, and I never had a normal childhood from that moment on. I also do not have blood siblings, nor any family nearby me. I have stepsisters but they have lives of their own and we were never close. I was an only child by my mother and her first husband. (my biological father) I am simply stating this because I received an email that made me feel like I need to clarify this information. I do not nor have I ever had much support or love from my Mother or Stepfather. I am the black sheep of the family and always have been. Cinderella if you please.

Hello Stacy, I would like to say that you look fabulos and I hope you feel it too!!! I am sorry to hear you had no support I wish I had known you I would have been you friend and support system. I have half of my family for and half against and all my friends are for it. I have to argue with my godmother/aunt all the time who argues that I can loose the weight with out surgery and that I just need to stop eating what I eat. I have learned to let her comments go in one ear and out the other. I am doing the sugery for several reasons health , longer life the chance to safely have children and to have a better life one that is not consumed by constant pain of carrying around 350 lbs on a 5'4 body with back, neck and knee problems. You are so strong and it takes one hell of a woman to stand up and do what you want and not what others tell you to do. If you ever need a friend I would love to have another friend. You can never ever have too many. You have done a great job and I look up to you to be as successful Congrats on your success. I hope to be just as successful when I get to the other side. Angie waiting for sugery with Liv Lite. [email protected]

My dad and my Aunt Dot were black sheeps at times. It's sad when you don't get the support and love that you need. I guess my dad was probably just venting and I can't blame him for that. I just didn't want to become like my cousin Jimmy and balloon to 578lbs and die... I know my parents are supportive of me, but it's time like those that I just feel they aren't, and I resent that!

I just want to apologize if by stating what I did about my family upset anyone. I'm not mean, rude or a rotten person by any means, I have just lived a tormented life since I was 11 years old and had enough. I'm sorry. I just wanted people to understand why I feel the way I do. Not to cause upset. We are all survivors of something in our lives and I don't believe that anyone who is overweight is treated fairly in this world. I know I wasn't. I just felt like me saying that my parents don't care perhaps was harsh, I'm sure somehow, someway, they do and that they do love me. It's just hard to battle this alone without family support. That's all. I am very proud of where I am today, and perhaps deep down in my heart, I couldn't have gotten where I am without any of their guidance or support in my life somehow. Post op has been the most difficult for me because of it. It's just that simple. You hope for someone to be there for you in your family and if they aren't you feel alone. That's how I feel. Again, my apologies if I offended anyone by speaking my mind, or the truth. Stacey