Having a Blue Day

Today I got myself into some sort of funk... just one of those blue days... I talked to my surgeon's office and they have the paperwork from my PCP. That should complete the seek-and-find for all of my medical records, reports, letters, etc. I am assuming since everything has been progressing rather quickly, I should hear back in the next week or so as to the official green light for WLS along with a date. Praise God... this has been one fantastic journey! I'll post as soon as I hear more. Despite it all, my feelings today are kinda weird. Last night my husband suggested I move winter clothes out of the closet to make room for summer clothes and that is when the funk hit me. I probably will never wear these things again. I dare say it is like mourning... someone please smack me. Is this normal? Brandee

No need to be smacked!! This is entirely normal. It's the anticipation and anxiety that is causing these feelings and THEY are SO normal it's insane. Trust me. I know insanity well. What I can offer you are some tips how to get past these moments that I experience pretty much whenever I experience them. No pattern, just "it happens". Ok, take notes here. 1. get the headphones out, put on some of your favorite music and sit somewhere comfy for 1/2 hour. go for a walk if at all possible by yourself with music too. notice the trees, the flowers, the things around you, and focus your energy on those things. 2. take a warm soothing bubble bath, with Lavender, candlelight, and music. 3. GO SHOPPING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4. make something. I mean make something, whether it's dinner, or a craft, or perhaps take on cleaning out a closet of shoes. PUT MY REQUEST IS THAT YOU TURN UP SOME MUSIC!!!!!!!!!!! 5. relax and breathe. that is the foundation for a healthier you. relax, and take a good deep breath. It triggers oodles of little bubbles inside you filled with peace and tranquility. Sounds corny, but it does work! concentrate when you do this! FOCUS! 6. try soaking your feet in warm water with epsom salts. That soothes the very root of your soul, because the feet are the nerve endings to our bodies. care for your feet and you care for your soul. try it just once! 7. go see a movie. something fun. take a bunch of people or no one. and remember to LAUGH OUT LOUD AT THE FUNNY PARTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and last: 8. don't fret about the small stuff. this is minor and normal and it's OK. Anymore questions? I'm on call 24/7 just shoot me an email. I have been through trials, tribulations, nightmares, whatever. Been there done that and I'm here to tell you that it is A Ok. Hugssssssssssssssssssssssss Stacey W

You will get through it and be so happy when it is all said and done. Good luck with the last leg of your finalization! Wendy

Oh you two... thank you so much! I really can't wait to go home and do what Stacey suggested.... but I gotta tell you... you both brought tears to my eyes. It is so touching that we all come from different walks of life... strangers really... and yet you understand me so well! To go with my Blue Day is a boat-full of emotions. You are right. It is anxiety and stress. I can feel it running through me. I honestly can't say there is one thing in my winter wardrobe that I can't live without... I hate my fat clothes. They make me angry actually. WHY is it that I can't put them away?? You gals (and guys) are the best! Brandee

It makes me feel something powerful inside when I try to help someone else..... I can't quite explain it...but we ALL do it....in all kinds of ways. Sharing the experiences and telling what you did is how I started. What moves me to tell more is just if I feel that I should. Brandee, remember this is a caring network of friends that are here all the time.... and I can say that from experience. Stacey W

It's normal, but ya know what? It kinda felt good knowing that I won't feel bad for getting rid of my 'fat clothes' to someone who is losing or just needs a bigger size. My funk came Sunday night. My girlfriend Lynn had promised to come over and I was gonna let her have pick of the clothes I could no longer wear - they were from all seasons. Lynn never bothered to call me to tell me that she couldn't make it, or if we could make it for another time. In a way I was but then I got as I had made sure that the house was spotless when she came. It's now Tuesday night and still no word or apology. I wish I knew what her problem was . Is she jealous of my weight loss or what? I thought I would be doing her a favor by not having to buy new clothes...

Well... my DH was an angel tonight. He sat down and listened to me as I spilled it. I probably made absolutely no sense, but he listened anyway and said he'd be my side to help me work out whatever it is that is on my mind and weighing on my heart. I love him so much. I feel much better now, too. With your kind words and his gentle ear.... I have rid myself of most of my funk. I am looking forward to being able to shop for smaller clothes with my niece and sisters... cleaning my closet so to speak is going to rid me of some old comfort zones, however it is a necessary step in the right direction to that glorious looser bench I hear so much about. I think I got i! Have a great night girls... thanks for helping me work things out. You are the best! Brandee