Does anyone else feel this way

I had my surgery on January 18 of this year and according to the scales and clothes I have lost about 56 lbs but when I look in the mirror I don't always see what part of my body it came off from. I feel that what I am seening is the same as before. I am getting really frustrated with my stomach which seems that I haven't lost anything there. Is it just me or does anyone else feel this way. I know logically it has to be in my mind because I have lost two dress sizes and the scale can't lie to me but there are days that I just can't see it. Also sometimes if I eat the food on my plate and I am able to keep it down without vomiting all or at least some of it up I feel guilty like I have just eaten too much and it didn't make me sick. I don't eat alot like big helpings but if I can clean my plate and leave nothing behind I feel like it is wrong and that I should vomit just in case it was too much. Is this normal or should I seek help. I am scared to restrech my stomach out and my mother who had this done years ago says that I can eat more than she could I am wondering if she just doesn't remember that far back or if I really do eat more than she did. I am also scared because I have a stepmother and two aunts that had this surgery about 25 years ago and they are bigger now than they ever were. I don't know if it is just me being paranoid or if I am overdoing myself. Please Help me Candice Ylonen

Candice, I think the mirror thing is normal. I started out at 296lbs and am now at 156lbs (I am 5' 8 1/2). I STILL look in the mirror and think that I look like I did when I started. I STILL sometimes go to the plus section in stores to look at clothes and there are times when I panic about not fitting into chairs and stuff. The mental part of this surgery is by far the hardest part. As far as eating everything on your plate, a lot of times I eat everything on my plate, but I make sure that I have the proper portion sizes when I start. At about 5-6 months out, I started feeling like I was able to eat way too much and freaked out. I wrote down everything I ate for 2 weeks and took it to my dietician and she said that it was normal and I was eating fine. I still write down everything I eat, everyday--for me it is a way to keep myself in check. I would say if you feel like your eating too much, write it down and talk to your dietician about it. Congrats on your loss! Jill

i had my surgery on the same day as you and i go through the same thing with the mirror and i know alot of other people that have said the same thing one person suggested that take photo every couple of weeks so my measurement chart I take them every 2 weeks so i take a photo to go with the chart every 2 weeks ..and i was scared to about portions . and streching my stomach also . but i did the same thing i wrote down everything that i ate and kept track and took it to the dietitian and she said i was doing fine i think it was all a head thing with me i know that i have always been big and havent adjusted to the change yet i started at 200 and am now down to 162 total 38 pounds and 40 inches .. i think if you keep a diary and take it to dietiatian that you will find that you are doing fine . i use for mine dinnerware the small tv dinner trays that have the small sections and i portion out my found and make sure the sizes are correct and i also use baby fork and baby spoon instead of normal size ones and i also have a few baby snack bowls . and when i put my food on stuff like that it seems to fill it up better than on a normal size plate and bowl and i know that is correct portion size so dont feel quilty about eating it all hope this helps those were a few tips that my dietitian gave me congrads on your loss debby 200/162/105?hopefully