I'm failing at weight loss.....................

I'm really down on myself today. I had lapband surgery in Nov and have lost 31 1/2 lbs. I'm really happy with what I've lost so far, but I am in a rut right now. Of course we all know that what we eat makes all the difference in our weight loss. I'm not suppose to be eating junk such as candy, chips and soda and those foods are all I can think about right now. I give in to my cravings so quick, its automatic. I know my weight loss would be so much greater if I would behave myself and eat right. My other issue is I feel like my boyfriend sabotages what I eat. I know I am in control of my own mouth, but why does he tempt me with pizza, fried chicken, ring dings. He knows I cant eat these things ( I literally cant eat them, wont go through my band) but it seems like he wants me to try. He's makes alot of comments about me losing weight and leaving him, so Im thinking maybe he is trying to keep me fat (maybe he doesnt realize what he's doing). Am I making any sense to anyone? I need some advice and alot of encouragement today. Thanks for listening.

There you are! I was just at Curves today and your name came up. Chances are your bf is trying to sabotage you, but might not even know he is doing so. It is such a struggle even without someone doing that. You really need to stick to your guns and not eat the crappy stuff. I know, easier said then done, I am an example of eating wrong lately. Well, more like eating too much. :hide: I find tha****er loading helps. Keep yourself stuffed with water during the times that are the hardest for you. Right now I will not eat with my children because I tend to eat more or icky things. Tonight I was soooooooo busy here online and ate at the PC, I ate and ate and ate. I am in wicked bad pain now. I want to toss it up but am afraid it would hurt too much, havent done that in a while. Working out will help you also, but remember, you do lose slower with the band, but your window of oppurtunity is much longer then with the rny or other types of wls. For me the band would not have been enough. I am into quick gratification. I wanted to see it coming off quick to keep me motivated. I know you can do it! You have always had the determination to go where you wanted and your loss is not so little. I think it is pretty darn good. I would love to get together sometime. Let me know when you go to Curves, maybe I can go in at that time. Of course the next 2 weeks are hectic. Busy here at work then I am off to Cali from the 18th to the 21st. We are going to DisneyWorld in April!!! You and your bf go camping I think......you all should come down to Acres of Wildlife in Steepfalls. We have a seasonal down there and would love to spend some time with you. Hugsss Theresa Aka TeCo

Cindy, Personally I think you are doing great for having had the banding. If you really, really want to have candy, chips and soda have sugar free candy, fat free chips or pretzels and diet soda. Try working on the feelings that make you want that food. See a counselor or someone who can help you to get through it. Of course there are healthier alternatives to the things I mentioned and I am not trying to encourage bad eating habits...I hope you are able to eat what you know you should. The boyfriend thing sounds pretty complex...I wouldn't want to overstep any boundries but I would offer him a choice: work with me or step off for a while. You had a life altering proceedure for a reason not just for fun. You can't let outside forces get you to a point where you feel like a failure. You are in control of your life, food, and everything else. Email anytime, Casey

Cindy, I agree with evrything Theresa has said. Your BF may not realize he is doing this but is so afraid of losing you. Did you talk to him? I am going through a period right now that hubby and I have been talking about a lot of things for about a week now. Things are much better and a big weight was lifted off both of our shoulders. I heard relationships can be rough after wls. Hang in there. Is there a support group meeting you can get to? I KNOW!!! Since you don't live far from Theresa, go see her. Get together for lunch or something. I, and many others would agree, I don't know what I would do without that woman sometimes. Maybe if you and your BF did go camping with Theresa and her DH, maybe him seeing that other people make it through this would help, and let him know that you can make it through also? I don't know just what to give you for advice, thats why I haven't posted before now, but I think Theresa said it all! You did this for YOU and if your BF is PURPOSLY doing this then you need to let him know you aren't nuts and you know what is going on. If he doesn't realize it, maybe talking to him will give you the strength to go on with this.. and give him the strength to support you!!! I don't know that I helped any but I sure hope so!!!!!!! Kell

THank you all for the replys. I knew it would help me just to put some feelings down and have nice people listen to me and not judge me. Teco-I havent heard that nickname is years. Takes me back to the avenue days LOL Lets get together soon. I could come up some evening for a visit. I would love to see Nic and meet your kids. I remember the oldest but have never seen your twins. YOu wouldnt recognize my kids. (maybe you would) Thank you everyone.........this is so helpful. ~C~