Nervous nervous nervous

Hi all, I really don't have too much to say. I so glad that everyone seems to be doing well. All of your posts are so helpful to me. I wish I was able to contribute more to the board. I am 5 weeks PRE Op and I am a mess. I am so nervous and excited and I can't seem to concentrate on anything. I think of what will happen if I don't make it through the surgery, what will happen to my little girl, my husband, my mom. Then I think about all the wonderful things that may happen after I lose this death weight. I guess I just wanted to say that I am scared and you guys are the only people I can say that to. Everyone else says to me, "well, just don't have the surgery then." I know I am making the right choice for me, but I am still terrified. Good Night All, I am going to bed now. Sam

Hi Samantha, Hope you are doing well today! What you are going through is so normal. In fact, I'm scared with you, I know how intense the fear is....I'm a post -op, and if I had to have another surgery today, I'd be scared all over again. I have three children, and we moved away from home 2 years ago....I had terrible thoughts pre-op, but I found some peace and comfort in the people around me, their confidence and of course in prayer. Make a resolution to think positive everyday! You'll be ok, just know that the fear is normal. Soon enough you'll be a loser! I'm thinking of you! Lauren

Lauren, Thank you for your post. I find so much comfort on this message board. My husband has been a constent source of support but it is so hard for him. He is so scared. My family just says that if I am scared don't have the surgery. I wi**** were that easy. I am praying everyday to God, my grandmother and grandfather who passed away 4 years ago to watch over me and bring me back for my daughter's sake. I can't WAIT to be a loser. My husband and I are planning a trip to Disney for this time next year and you know what? I WILL BE ABLE TO GO ON THE RIDES!!!!!!! Thanks again. Please keep in touch. Sam

Hi Sam, I understand your concerns and fears of having this surgery. I thnik we all go through those feelings. The best thing to do is get all your paperwork (i.e. wills, etc) taken care of..just in case. In doing this it eased my concerns with my husband and son. I was still scared, but scared even more of not having the surgery. I had complications during surgery, which ended up taking over 4 hours. But, I am now 7 months postop & I can't imagine myself not having the surgery. My life has improved not only physically but emotionally. My husband and I are more romantic, my son & I are closer than ever before. Fear is natural and the best thing to do is to talk about it...even with your husband, then take the necessary steps to prepare for the worse, and excpect the best. Your are in our thoughts and prayers. Cindy

Samantha, I hear ya on the nervousness...I was there just 8 and a half months ago. It's pretty scary knowing that you taking a risk that could kill you. I just tried to always think of how healthy I would be and thinner! Now here I am, at goal and happy with my sucess. You will be there before you know it. Just take the steps neccesary in case something does happen (will, plans for you daughter etc). Anytime someone says don't have the surgery just tell them you are nevous and want to talk about it but you're still going to do it and if they don't want to be supportive don't mention it. I had a little bit of an issue with my Mom and grandparents saying they would prefer I didn't do it. But I never asked anyone's permission, I'm an adult and made this choice for myself, husband and son to have a brighter future...and subsequently healthier future. It's ok to be scared...it's ok to cry about it, just know that thinking about everything going well will make it easier to get through it. Casey

Hi Sam, I have been where you are.. just 3 weeks ago I had my surgery. I was so scared and nervous, but everything worked out, and now I am losing pounds and inches. The 2 nights before surgery I couldn't sleep I was so nervous. On the way to the hospital I cried, and I cried while they wheeled me down the hall. It was just so scary. I hid it very well from my family. They knew I was nervous, but didn't know the extent of it till after surgery. All of us have gone through it and you will be fine. Just think happy thoughts of life after surgery. ~Heather

Hi Sam, I completly understand how you feel. I am nervous just sitting here knowing that my first appointment to talk to the surgeon is tomorrow. When I had my Gall Bladder removed, I was a wreck. I was 7 months pregnant, and all I could think about was my baby, and what would happen. But with out the surgery it would have been even worse, I could have lost him. I just went in to the surgery knowing my facts, and being strong. What else could I do. That is how I am going to be for this surgery. I know the facts, and I will learn more along the way, but I have to be strong, for my self and my son. You will be fine, the nerves will get you, but keep your head up, and know that there are ppl that will be thinking about you, and waiting to hear from you after surgery!! Amber