Happy??

After weight loss are you still bubbly, happy go lucky? I see a lot of skinny folks that are crabby and alot of fat folks are giggly and smile and happy. So how about you? Yes when we are fat we are often depressed. But skinny folks get depressed too. sooo??? What is going on in your life? Inquiring minds want to know.

Ron, I would have to say from my experience, I am a much happier person since I have had surgery. I still have my bad days when I am a complete ***** but those are few and far between. I have to say that I haven't been depressed since surgery, but lately I have been frustrated. The frustration for me comes from being on a plateau for almost 5 weeks, the scales go down a couple pounds, then up a few pounds, then down a couple again--I have tried increasing protein and water, decreasing carbs, etc--nothing seems to do the trick. I have also been working out 5-7 times a week so I thought maybe I was losing inches and not pounds, but after taking my measurements the other night I was even more frustrated that I haven't been losing inches either. In spite of that, I am still happier. I am down about 82 pounds--and I can do a lot more things than I used to be able to do. I am also starting to come out of my "shyness shell" a lot more now that I have lost some weight. Not sure if any of that answered your inquiry or not--I may have just been rambling. Jill

Hello Jill, I was just re-reading your post and thinking about what you are feeling right now. I think maybe, while it is terrific that you are working out, it might be causing the slow down because of building muscle. When I work out I try to do 30 mins of aerobic stuff and 30 mins of lifting. Have you started at a gym? If so, having one of the workers show you how to get an all over body tone up would be beneficial. When we had our introductory session at the Y they showed all the machines, what they do and which would target areas I was interested in...like legs, stomach, hips, underarms etc. I think I am on a plateau too. I weighed myself for the last Friday meeting I was at 130. Then I went to see Dayna and Clough last Wednesday and weighed the same. Which is ok I guess...and I have been slacking on the exercise so it's no wonder but man is it weird to see that scale stop. To be completely honest...I have been thinking lately I would like to lose another 20 if that's not to outrageous to say. I want a cushion. I don't know if I'd like being so small but over time I think we are going to gain some back. Being down 82 is a terrific accomplishment! And you're so right, the things you are able to do and the self confidence is way worth it. Hope you are doing well. Casey

I consider myself moody and I think hub might agree. But I always try to stay positive and not show others my crabby side. I see no point in it. I said this on the main board the other day. I believe in giving a person a smile, it might be the only bright spot of their day. It makes me feel good that I might have been the one to give them a good feeling. Most of the time only my family can tell if I am down or not feeling very good. I hide my feelings pretty good, but have to admit I think I have felt a bit better since surgery and since having a job that makes me feel terrific! Life has gotten much better this past year. Now if I could just get the girls potty trained like would be just about perfect. Theresa

Ron, I understand why you are asking this. It is a very good question. You are right you do see alot of skinny people with big attitudes. Some of that may be because they chose to ride on their looks which can only take them so far. When you don't have much upstairs or in your heart you wouldn't feel so great about yourself. I had always been happy go lucky because I had to. And over time I was the fat funny one. How cliched is that? How else could I get people to like me? Fat and super *****y all the time doesn't make for a big phone list of buddies. However it is the person that you actually are that will stay no matter what amount of body surrounds you. This is exactly what I have been struggling with lately. I am still me...the same person I have always been, BUT now that I am smaller some of those shallow people I thought I had been envious of talk to me...as if I am like them. I am not. Never will be. Not with the life I have lived, the choices I have made and the person I strive to be. I will not be the thin ***** who walks by when a bigger person falls on the ice, I will help them up. I will not be the self centered person who will ignore her neighbors, I will help them and do what I can to make their life special. I will not be the snotty person who would laugh at a fat joke, I would tell them I am a fat person. Because I always have been and always will be no matter how much weight I have lost. Being fat is what made me who I am. I don't think I can lose that even if I wanted to. Casey

And for having people around like Casey, the world is a better place for us all. Kent

Kent, You're too sweet. Hugs, Casey