Not a Happy Camper.

I'm till not thrilled with my WLS. It seems like no one really notices I have lost weight, or for that matter even cares that I have lost it. I never hear my sister say anything like "you are really getting smaller" I don't even hear it from my husband, I will be the one to mention it first and then he will say something. I did see a friend a few weeks ago that told me that I was looking good and she hadn't really seen me since before surgery. So that made me feel good. At work I have one co-worker, she is the Co- worker that is trying to get approver for surgery now and every now and then, she will tell me she notice a difference in a certain part of my body but that is it. I have heard other co-workers mention it to my co-worker tht had the surgery 6 weeks before me, that she is loosing weight but they never say anything to me and I don't understand why. I have almost lost as much weight as that co-worker so I don't know why they don't say that stuff to me. She has lost a total of 86 pound and I have lost a total of 81 pounds. Really I'm feeling that I went through the surgery for nothing. I don't feel any better and only notice that I have lost the weight by my cloths and measuring, but it doesn't seem to really make any difference to my in the way I feel about it. I keep telling my husband that maybe once I have made it to my goal weight I would be happier but I don't think it will make a difference. Yesterday was a support group meeting and I didn't go to it because I don't feel I have lost enough weight. I know that 54 in about 10 weeks is pretty good but it doesn't feel like it isn't good enough. I just feel kind of let down by the whole thing.

Hi Jennifer, Positive self talk - it makes me feel much happier. I no longer let my feelings depend on what others think or say to me. I started my journey at 460 lbs and I'm at 375 lbs now and I'm still waiting to have the surgery. I have been on Dr. Cobean's list for 13 months. I started weigh****chers last spring and have lost almost 100 lbs before surgery. People are just now saying something to me - did you change your hair? new glasses? and a few "you look like you've lost weight". At my highest weight I was dying slowly and kept on eating. I found that peace within comes from caring about how I feel and what I tell myself. It's amazing how much happier I am and my family does notice that I'm coming out of my shell again. Give yourself a boost everyday with some morning meditation - I do mine while getting ready for work in the morning. I choose my attitude for the day and tell myself what I like about myself 100 lbs lighter. I look forward to the day that I have surgery and can use that as a tool for an even brighter future. I know we all love to have others look at us and recognize our accomplishments and it is hard when we don't get what we need. Be strong and love yourself for who you are right now! Teresa

Hi Jennifer...I am proud that you even had the strength to complete this whole process...I am waiting to finish the grunt work before the surgery and I am getting discouraged from that...But you have already had the surgery and you are on your way to a happier life...Maybe everyone is noticing your disappointment and don't want to say anything to you in fear of hurting your feelings in some way...Please don't give up or feel discouraged...It's people like you who encourage people like me who haven't gone through it yet...You're my hero!!!!!...I will pray for you and things will get better for you...You will be ok....Helen Koehling

Hi Jennifer! I am truly sorry that you are having some bad feelings regarding your weight loss surgery. It sounds to me as if you are doing FANTASTIC! Your weight loss has been awesome and your exercise regime sounds impressive! I find it hard to believe you don't feel better. I know they say we are all different and have different experiences, but I had surgery July 28th and have not realized significant weight loss as you have - but I feel like a new person after losing just 30 pounds! No more diabetes - no more bright red face, no more sweating from walking to the mail box - my blood pressure is normal! Don't you notice any differences like this? I do not care what anyone else thinks of my personal weight loss - I feel like Dr. Cobean gave me a second chance at a wonderful life! I am praying for you, Jennifer. I hope you start feeling better about yourself and caring less what others think and notice about you. It matters how YOU feel! Try to stay positive - sounds to me like wonderful things are happening for you! Love, Jo

Jenn, Hang in there!! When I saw you at the last support group meeting I went to I told you how great you were looking! You are doing a great job, but I understand how depressing it can be. We want results overnight and it doesnt happen that way. Wi**** did!! lol Keep doing what you are doing, it will happen! I have to learn to stay away from the darn chips, those will be my downfall!! Told the kids no more in the house, I will make them cookies, chocolate ones since I wont eat them. LOL Hugsssssssss

Jen.... Look at what you have accomplished so far. I agree with the previous posts you are a HERO to me too!!!!! My surgery is coming up on the 16th...i only hope i can do half as good as you have. Yanno what im thinking is you don't feel you have lost as much as you should at this point...im thinking maybe you hit one of those stand stills everyone talks about. Where your body has to catch up with what you have lost. Major surgery after all takes alot out of a person. Im going into my surgery heavier then most everyone i have read about in here and thats scarey. I haven't found anyone to compare with as of yet...but at the sametime im *Begining with the end in mind*. Remember also you did this for YOURSELF first, to get your health back and your life back. So who cares what others might not notice...YOU notice and thats all that counts. Your on your way and you are a HERO like it or not !!!!! I hope all these posts have made a difference for the way your feeling...they sure have helped me. I can't wait to be a looser and join you on your journey. Take care and keep the faith Sally keep smilin

Hi Jenn I was there Friday and if you had come you would have been one that lost the most in a short period of time. Most folks are so tied up in their own little world they don't notice much until "thier world" comes crashing down. If it doesn't affect them they don't give a rat's behind. Keep up the good work Jenn. We are all rooting for you. Most of our self image is in our mind and we often let others mold our self image. Why do we let others mold us when WE are doing ALL the work? Gotta, got company