Just had surgery on Monday and I'm sad

I just had my surgery on Monday. I feel sad, but I am doing ok. My doctor and his staff have been wonderful. My brother died on Friday and I went ahead with the surgery anyway and I just feel down. I've drinking ok, not getting dehydrated. It takes a long time to get all my pills taken and the liquid postassium and potassium citrate taste awful, but I don't feel any sadness over losing food. I just feel overwhelmed. But I'm dealing. My husband is SO supportive and so is my family. I'm hanging in there!  Hope you all have a wonderful day!

Hello,

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. You're brave to have gone ahead with your surgery. It's a very loving thing to do for yourself. For me it was a celebration of life. It's not surprising that you're sad. You've had two major traumas (one negative, one positive). You're lucky to have a supportive husband and family. Lots of people don't have that. I find when I focus on the positive, the positive grows. It helps me to make a gratitude list of at least 10 things when I'm feeling down. It works every time!!

Have a great day!!

Thank you, Donna.
I'm hanging in there. Each day seems a little better, but it is a struggled. I work from home via a VPN and tried to do a little work this morning, but it is too soon. I'm giving up. I will be so glad when I feel better and can get up and out of the house.

God bless you and yours.....I'm counting my blessings!
pat

Do have anyone you can talk to? Losing a sibling is a big deal.

Yes, I have a good support system. That is what is getting me through.  But I guess posting that online was a way to make it real and tell the world that Mike died. It has been such a tough time in our family. My beloved Uncle died the week before Mike and his wife of 63 years is having a hard time. Just a tough holiday season for us. But I'm muddling through. Thank you for responding.....nice to know there are people out there who didn't even know Mike but that still care.
Have a happy holiday!
pat

I too am sorry for your loss.  It is hard enough to focus on your health and how to take care of yourself and to also deal with your additional emotions of losing your brother.  I wish you strength and peace.

Cindy

Thank you so much, Cindy. I've been very sick since my surgery. The surgery went fine and I'm healing fine, but I am still on broth and decaf tea. Can't really keep anything down. They think I might have a stricture, so I'm going back in to have an endoscopy on Thursday. This has been a nightmare and I'm really sorry I did it, but I'm dealing. I appreciate your concern. I've been too sick to even get onto this site lately. Today I kept a couple spoons of oatmeal down, but I'm 4 weeks out and they say it should not be this hard. 
Thanks so much!
pat

I extend my sincerest sympathy in the loss of your brother.  Please take care of yourself.