sad wow...

I took my son to the fair in Lewiston this past weekend. We spent a long time just walking around (and then he got a braclet for the rides so we were running lol)... We did get a fried dough (it used to be my fav but i would only get it at the fair...i ate 2 small peices and he ate the rest....) and the rest of the time we were there we drank water/diet ice tea with ice.... that was fine.. the sad wow comes in with all of the people that i saw there that were stuffing their faces with the greacy fries/sausages/fried dough/cotton candy.... AND giving it to their kids.... Now, I am NO ONE to talk about eating, i got to where i was because of the bad choices that i made.... but i wanted to run up to these parents and shake them and show them what they were doing to their kids (who were already very heavy).... I wish that someone had done that for my mom/family, maybe i would be a little better off... I am not saying that we don't do some "fun" foods... but it is limited (fried dough at fair, cotton candy at the circus, popcorn at the movies.... but it is all shared by the family and kept at a minimun., and our fun does not revolve around the food... PLUS  i know what my kids are eating and if they have had too much, not to mention that their doc's say that they have a great diet.... )

I guess I was just wondering if anyone else has had to urge to shake someone else and tell them to wake up before it's too late... or if you had wished someone had said something to you before you got into "food trouble"???

No, I dont pass judgement on anyone.  I see it, I dont agree with it and I am sad for those children but those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones and I am guilty of giving my son jun****asionally. I do not think, however, that just because I am fat that I should pass that on to my child.  He is 16 and is perfect weight. I never fed him the same garbage that I chose to eat with the exception of his occasional goody. I was always vigilant about not letting him suffer as I have. I had a terrible childhood because of weight. My parents fed me treats and whatever to make me feel better.  Wow what a horrible example that I did not want to pass to my child.  Live and let live I say. Its up to parents to care for their children appropriately and they need to be aware.  Education and awareness are key to healthy kids in my opinion

The only thing that comes to mind was recently my BFF's DD wanted some cake/candy at my house and she ended up not liking it. Her Mother said "you asked for it, you should fini****" and I said "WHOA, let's not get her in that trap!" I said its junk food, who cares, throw it away if you don't want it. She quickly realized what she had said (out of habit and our own upbringing) and threw it in the trash.  WHEW!  That little girl is only four.

we have the kind of rule too... but its for almost every food... I try to give the kids small portions and let them decide when they are full (a little more if they are hungry still is better then over stuffed I figure... ) it's taken my bf a long time to get used to that, he had eatting problems when he was a kid  and i just don't want to see the our boys that way... I want them to know that we have yummy (good for you, and sometimes treats)foods available if they are truely hungry but that bordom does not equal hunger and that they don't have to "hored" the food, it'll be there another time...



its a new behavior for me too but we are all learning...

Absolutely... and i wasn't trying to pass judgement at all, I hope that isn't what it sounded like... I was hopeing that everyone knew what i was saying but may have come out wrong... I just wish that I would have learned differntly as a child and I try (not always correctly im sure) to show my kids that... and I would have NEVER gone up to a stranger and said anything, nor was I rude to anyone... (I don't know their situation...maybe genetic/medical.... not my place) it was just a thought that ran through my head at the time and i think it was more thinking about our culture as a whole and not the people that i saw....i hope that i didn't offend anyone and if i did i'm truely sorry

I know how you feel.  Our best friends are over weight.  They have a son and a daughter.  They are over weight.  Their son breaks my heart.  he is 11 and weights over 200lbs easy!  They let him eat whatever he want and when ever he wants.  The mom is diabetic and eats a lot of sugar free and carries that through to the whole family but his portions are unreal.  I know what you are saying.  It is sad.