family sucks some times

I cant stand the attitudes of some people in my family! my husband and i went to Newhampsire to visit the inlaws. to make a long story short my mother inlaw said to my husband that "she should just start walking, if she had the will power she wouldnt need the surgery." well I really dont have much to say about it! Iam just tiered of all the ****!

Some people just don't understand and it's really sad!!!   Sorry you had to deal with her attitude!  Just make the decision that's right for you and don't worry about her!  Keep your chin up!   (BTW, if I could have done this by walking and will power, I sure would have but NOW........I wouldn't trade my RNY for anything!!!)

I cant say it enough if people need heart surgery they have it without question,,what the difference Gastric bypass.. We need help and this is a way to help us.. It works if you work with your tool.. Alot of people just are not educated on the surgery and just think we are lazy and no will power, That is so not true, This isnt the easy way out, For me it was hard for the first 3months learn what you can eat what you cant, then when you think you got it all down what did agree no longer agrees..I could go on for hours.. I dont know how many people told me that I would not do good and I shouldnt do it. NOW LOOK AT ME NOW...90lbs gone..Im so glad I DID IT FOR MYSELF.

This is a decsion you have made for yourself and no one else.

Don't feel bad I think I speak for everyone that we all went through the same negative attitude  that your getting... Even now after surgery they don't understand. Why can't people be happy for us after all we are...I would tell anyone that is considering surgery to do it . It is hard work but well worth it. JUST REMEMBER.....
Hang in their we are here for you if your family is not . 

I have some INlaws like that too, they are all health nuts.  well, all I said to them was "I need your support" and this is why I am telling you.  Please be there for me.  if they say that again, just say "Support"... please.  some people just don't get it, It took me 6 months post op before I told them.  they asked why I waited so long I said I knew how they would feel and I needed "Possitive feedback" THAT'sWHY.... A$$ H#$$.  Keep the faith, you show them how its done. don't let them bring you down.

Hopefully your DH is supportive. Mine really isn't but he knows now that it's not his body and it's not his choice.  My MIL was the same way before I took her to a support group and she learned that it isn't they easy way out and that it is just a tool.  Good luck!

Don't even waste your time on these people...
Ignorance is a horrible thing !!
There's only ONE person you should be doing this for...
and that's YOU...so if you're OK with the decision(s) that you've made...then "GO FOR IT" !!
And all the very best to you !! 

I know their words hurt, but try not to listen to them.

You know in your heart if this is the right decision for you. If you are at peace with surgery, that's all that matters.

If it was simply a matter of walking, not eating, wiring our mouths shut, living on a deserted island with sand to eat  we would have done it a long time ago and succeeded.
Is it any wonder the weight loss products out there are multi-billion dollar industries?? Obesity  is a real problem and not one that is "easily" solved.

Know where your support system is and rely on those people and OH to get you through the rough patches.

I get the same thing.  Just get walking. What are you eating?? All the same crap.  I've stopped talking to those family members about surgery.  If they can't support me then I don't need their input.  I dont need anymore discouragement than what i get from myself.  I completely can relate.  Take it in stride and just continue toward your goal.