Need a lift today

Hi all, it has been awhile since I posted anything. I started losing my hair about 1 month ago. now have 2 bald spots. I bought a wig and now am wearing it everyday. The problem is is I dont want to talk about it with people around work. Of course I realize they know but why do they have to mention it. I think I let them know too much about me and they are now entitled to ask whatever they feel like. One fella actually said he didnt like my wig. I didnt even ask first! I am having some real issues with my body image at this point. the sagging skin and wrinkles, No hair etc. I am 4 months out and have lost 72.  I am tired of people saying you look great. I have no idea what to say back anymore. I dont feel like I look great. Dont get me wrong I am happy I had RNY just the self image is a bit off right now. Thank you all for letting me vent this morning.

Lisa

I'm with you on that....I just say Thank you and smile.  I'm having a hard time right now too.  A lot of people I know know b/c either my family has told them not thinking I would mind or they ask how I've lost so much weight.  I'm not the kind of person to flat out lie so I usually say I had wls.  I feel like I'm under a microscope every time I go to a family function and people are analyzing how much weight I've lost or comment on how I look.  I know the mean well but it's like enough already...just let me do my thing.  I know my clothes are getting smaller in size and that's wonderful but but my mind hasn't caught up with my body. I look in the mirror and I still see the person I was before wls.  I despise my lower body right now with all the loose skin....it looks really bad and  I hate to be naked.

Vent when ever you need to that is what we are here for. Hang in there.

When people ask me personal questions I don't want to answer I just look at them and smile. I don't answer them, some are idiots and will ask again, but most get the point. Or they really don't think I heard them the first time but their brains have caught up to their mouths and they realize they shouldn't have asked it to begin with!

Hang in there!  And when they say you look great I would say thank you, I FEEL great.  Maybe you will get your mind to believe your words?

Bless  you all for you encouragement.

I  think one of the hardest things   that we have to contend with is how to say ty to people when they say   that we look  good.   We do look good.  Even with all the saggy skin.  The  big joke i always  say is that i wish i had taken  a naked picture of me before.  Not one to share with anyone but one to remind me how awful  fat i looked.   It would make the saggy skin   look better.   I had  stretched skin after my children were born  i looked like a prune   and  i am sure when all is said and done i will have   the same skin.

I also find a few are  jealous when they say terrible things.  You are doing great and remember that.

We  did this for us and not for every one at home or work.  And we all need to work on self image  We ARE WORTH IT!!!

take care.
have a great day

Hi Lisa,
I know how you feel. When people say that to me..I say.." Thank you...I feel Great!!" Because people only see the outside and dont realize how much more healthy you feel. Hang in there!!

Missy

Lisa,

I think we all have our ups and downs with this and you are right smack dab in the middle of the time that I was most sensitive to it as well. It can be quite overwhelming to catch up mentally with everything with how fast the changes are taking place - add the hormonal roller coaster to it all and we have days that we can be emotional wrecks.

Self image is a tough one, for me it was a problem before surgery and is definately an ongoing issue with different twists now.