i meet the devil

NO, its not Duken Donuts! well except I did eat on of their new egg white flat breads and a cup of ice coffee with skim and splenda, 275 cal for lunch yesterday.  first of all i just wanted to let you all know how much of a blessing you truly are.  I know this is just a board but you give me strenght and i thank you for all your posts.
I had a really horrible incident yesterday at work. If you don't know I am a physical therapist assistant in a skilled nursing and rehab facility. well I was doing my rounds and i stopped in to treat this one lady. I greeted her with a warm, "hi my name is Sara iam from physical therapy and iam here to do some exercises and get you walking today". She looked at me dead in the eyes and said that I was a disgusting fat slob and that she was not going to take excesses advice from a person that needs to go home and take her own advice. I was shocked and mad, but i keep my professional composer and said, " well that's your opinion, but i am here to make you strong so that you can get out of bed not to make you thin. Then she begain to pinch my fat rolls as i was sitting beside her and said that i should be disgusted in my self and that she felt pitty for me for not doing something about my size. She even went so far as to say that if she was in my shoes she would go home and hang her self. UGHHHHHHHH Then as the devils advocate i said well how do you know that i haven't been trying and was planing on having GBS to fix my problem. then she looked at me in discussed and said that's what i thought you would do you lazy sack of **** take the easy way out .  you shouldn't even be allowed to be a PTA, what do they let any one off the street to work in here.  I looked at her and just said that's your opinion and walked out the room.
My skin is thick and i have delt with this before, but it makes you sick when you meet some one that is so full of hate.  I just prayed that the lord give me the strength to forgive her for she knows not what she does. 

It sounds as though you handled this like a champ.  I would not been able to stand there all stoic and take that verbal beating. I am a very sensitive person and that would have first, started the water works, then it would have eaten me up for a long time.  People are outrageous! In those situations if I don't start out throwing out daggers from my eyes, I would end up crying and crying in front of the offender makes me feel like I've let them win.  People are ignorant.  I get looks all the time in public.  I pretty much just zone everyone out and don't pay attention to anyone until I see a smile then I will interact.  I also have a temper and no tolerance for ignorance and I would have had a hard time biting my tongue with that woman. Usually, people who are miserable have to put down others to feel better, good for you for handling that so well.

Oh My , you are one very strong lady!

You need to report her, she has no right to be saying those things to you and your supervisor should be telling her as such, that is abuse, you don't need to put up with that, but much kudos to you for the professional way you handled it!!!

ok, first of all you said she looked at you dead in the eyes.  Well, if she had said that to me, she would have been dead in brain, cause I would have hurt her.  OMG, some people have NO feelings. I just don't get how they can live with themselves being like that.  was she sick, old, retarded? I have a little spat with someone and I cry for weeks.  Your the better person here and did well.  I'd give you a big hug if you were close by. 

OMG! I can't believe she said and did that to you! That is beyond wrong. I don't care  how unhappy you are it doesn't give you the right to treat people like that. I hope you reported her!

I'm guessing she was elderly as they seem to be the biggest offenders of overweight people. Something about that generation just only sees fat when they look at people. I once told my Grandmother that I could be painted green and ALL she would see is my weight.  I feel badly for you and not for that lady. No one should be that cruel. Can you imagine how she is with animals? babies?  OMG!! 

You hang in there, you are a much better person than she is! 

And like I always say to people like her:
 
"well I may be fat, but your ugly, and I can always diet!"

I can SOOO relate to this story!  It's happened to me too!  You are a much better person than I am in how you handled it though!  Did this lady have dementia or something (the one who made comments to me like that DID....so it was easier for me to "let it go" knowing that she had not much control over what she was saying or thinking).  I'd definitely make sure you don't have to keep her on your patient list, that's for sure!

I'm a PT also, and all my career I've felt that my patients are thinking that about me (Why should I do what this fat chick is telling me when she can't even get off her own duff and get healthy??)  I KNOW it was just my low self-esteem telling me this but, as I said, I did have a few patients, over the years, tell me to listen to my own advice.  It's REALLY hard to listen to this KNOWING how hard we try to lose weight and exercise and it just doesn't work!  

ANYONE who tells you that surgery is "the easy way out" is just ignorant, misinformed, and well, shouldn't open their mouths until they've "walked a day in my shoes"!!!!!!!!  

Don't let this lady get to you!  YOU are important and you are doing what is RIGHT FOR YOU!!!!   KEEP your chin up!  YOU are worth it!!!!!  (and report that "devil" and make sure the next therapist works her "extra" hard!!  haha...JK!!)

Wow what a horrible experience. Nobody needs to put up with that kind of abuse. I do hope you reported this um lady. You should be very proud of yourself though keeping your composure. Awesome I hope you are richly blessed for having asked for forgivness for her.

I might have said "I expect a comment like that coming from a person like you!" And I'd say it with attitude. She sounds old. You have the upper hand. She's still old and you will be thin and healthier in no time and then she'll be dead and you'll have so much to look forward to. What goes around...

I'm Proud of you for handling that sitution so well!  You did a better job than I would have done!