How long does it take to move on...??

I was in the store with my bf getting groceries for the week and somehow we ended up in the alch. isle... (is the same isle as something else i and dont remember...) we were talking and I was thinking about the drink that my brother tought me how to make (its kinda like sex on the beach but not really...) and going through and i couldn't remember one of the things that he told me to put into so i reached into my pocket to text him and ask what it was and almost started bawling. My brother has been dead for 2 1/2 years now... it was SOOO amazing to forget that but HOW could I have forgotten... so after that i felt like someone had punched me in the heart.

Since I got home I just wanted to curl up and cry... depression is part of the reason i havn't gotten as far as i wanted to with wl (my brothers death 6 months after surgery, my cusin almost dieing, my almost death last year, and my dad's almost death all in a short time...) I don't want to fall off the wl waggon again... I know I can and will do it again but man... life could get easier!!

the grieving process takes a long time. i lost my brother at age 6 and that was 37 years ago. i was only 3 years old but i still think about him and wonder what his life could have been. i lost my grandmother - the love of my life- 1 week before my surgery. i think about her all the time. it's not any easier today than it was a year ago. i want to call her and tell her how i'm doing and what's going on in my daily life. i've actually called the number a couple of times. i know it's been disconnected but i still do it. give yourself all the time you need to heal. losing someone we're so close to is hard. but in the meantime, thinking about the drink i'm sure brings back good memories and good times. thank goodness we have those wonderful memories of our loved ones. he would want you to be the best you can be so find the strength to move forward and make healthy choices for yourself.

take care and be strong.

I"m so sorry for both of you, Death is such a lonely thing to get thru.  My heart just breaks thinking of loosing my parents, Dh or kids.  I think of these things when I hear of what others go thru.  Be strong and "always remember those wonderful Memories"...

It's not an easy thing. My little sister died in 1983 at the age of 21. It took me several years, an almost ruined marriage,  counseling and conversations with a good friend to deal with her death.
If your grief is preventing you from accomplishing goals or leading the life you want to lead consider counseling.

It's amazing how and when grief can hit you- sometimes it seems like it comes out of the blue. The length of time and process is so different for people....it takes what you need.