Feeling jealous and hateful

Hi girls - I'm really struggling to keep positive and am feeling like I may take off from OH again.

I've really missed your support, but I'm having a hard time being back. My weight has been the same since early June, and I'm still 10 pounds above my goal weight of 149. No matter what I eat or how much I exercise, my body seems to like being around 160. It doesn't seem to matter what I do!

I'm fine with that (overall****il I see post after post about other people reaching their goal weights. I'm so close but SO far away and I find myself being conflicted between being proud of them and their accomplishments and being really jealous and hateful that it's not me! Know what I mean?

How do I stop the pity party? Is it even possible to get these last 10 pounds off? My body really seems to want to hold onto it!

what are you doing for excersices? and do you eat after 6 pm?

ask yourself does it really matter if you hit goal? if it does u will ,if it does not then be happy with what u have done. life must be better now for you then ever, i dont know if i will ever hit goal or be close too where i wanna be , but with ever pound im changing my life i started so high and so much too lose, i looked and said when i got  and became post op , this would be the first dayof the rest of my life living healthy and happy from this day forward no matter what happens too me

Well I have not net my goal. I started at 470 now am 315 and no matter what I do cannot loose. I think it is because i can't do much exercise and am on so many med's. BUT I am glad I am not 470 and can put my own shoes on and go places with out looking like an extreme freak. I wanted to get down to 250 becuase I weighed 200 in 6 th grade doubt I'd ever get to that But a little dissappointed I am at 315 no matter what I do.
keep your chin up you have done good and enjoy what you have....

OH, Summer, I wish there were words I could share with you and help you feel better. but the truth is, "YOUR SUMMER" ,  I"m me, someone else is someone else and their is no comparison.  You have stopped loosing, that isn't to say those who met their goal aren't going to gain and few lbs and not be able to maintain the way you are.  there are so many different ways people are successful,  you look beautiful and healthy.  Do you feel good?  relax, be happy.  and ENjoy your new YOU.... and we value your input and wish you to stay here.  I"ve taken some time away also,  but do come back a few times a week.  I feel the Same way as you, "well, almost"  if you know what I mean.  PM me anytime,  Cheryl

Perhaps 160 IS your goal weight. It sounds like your body has chosen that as a happy spot after 5 months of food program and exercise.

Are you healthy, happy with your size? Why not make 160 goal and call it good?

Thanks for all your replies!

I wi**** was so simple to just call 160 good. It's FAB, and I know that,  but still I have this insane desire to get the satisfaction of seeing my BMI in the NORMAL range for just ONCE. Even for one day, kwim?

I do realize that this is probably where my body wants to be - and I'm thrilled to be a size 10/12 - but I just wish I could get down to that healthy range.

Dr. Loggins said I've done amazing and that I shouldn't worry about that last 10, because he figures I have that much in excess skin, but that's not going anywhere since I can't afford PS.

I did get the WiiFit for Christmas and allowed myself to have it early and have been playing around with it, so maybe that will help!

Thanks for caring ladies. I'm trying to figure out where to go with this - I've considered the 5 day pouch test, but that just seems extreme!

Hi Summer....I hear ya - this whole process is full of challenges. I sometimes struggle with the whole envy thing - and if it's not one thing - it's another. Sometimes I'd like a break from my own mind. I'm thinking these are normal feelings - we are human after all.

I wish that I had a magic formula to give you for the last 10 lbs, cause if I had that - I'd be a ka-zillionaire. I have read many times how people have upped their calories and little and that is all it took to break the stall. Have you tried something like that? I'm a firm believer we have to shake it up to keep our bodies moving.

Hi Summer....I hear ya - this whole process is full of challenges. I sometimes struggle with the whole envy thing - and if it's not one thing - it's another. Sometimes I'd like a break from my own mind. I'm thinking these are normal feelings - we are human after all.

I wish that I had a magic formula to give you for the last 10 lbs, cause if I had that - I'd be a ka-zillionaire. I have read many times how people have upped their calories and little and that is all it took to break the stall. Have you tried something like that? I'm a firm believer we have to shake it up to keep our bodies moving.

Hi  Summer

I  sure understand   your feelings.   I  am losing  very  slowly the last  three months  maybe  4 months now  i have lost   8 pounds since  August   but at least it is  not  gaining and still going down.

I have had to change the way i eat and stop  grazing.   That i am sure has been  my big problem.  do you   log your   food and fluid intate.   Every  bite of what goes in your mouth  for a week is a good way to  find out what is going on with the food.  I found i was grazing instead of sitting down and eating my protein first.  I still have a protein shake in the morning for breakfast during the week.  But on the weekend i  try to have  food.   I had  3./4 cup  greek unflavored yogurt and  frozen strawberries.   Lunch today  will be  left over  meat ball and  sausage that i only ate half of  last nite.
and a little  pasta  like a third of a cup.   I ate half a meat ball and half a sausage last nite.

Hubby will be home today so i will or should think of something for supper.  But i will try to  think of that later.

Our stomachs  grow  a little bit  at one  year out so  we  can eat more and need to watch  our intake.   But you have done wonderful and i am sure if you keep on the plan you will lose some more it just has slowed  way down.   I  know a lot have made there goal  by   6   to  8 months but a lot of us  are a year or more out and still have not got to goal yet.   But we are still working on it.
You are so positve  for us i hate to see you go.   Take care  and  my thoughts are with you!!!