Nervous...

I'm having dinner (Rick's Cafe in Naples) with a girlfriend from high school tonight.  She was one of my very best friends and we have stayed in contact, along with 2 others we organized our 10th reunion.  Due to our busy schedules we haven't seen each other since before my surgery.  She knows I had it and I recently sent her a picture of me riding Birdie.  I'm so nervous to see her ~ I was always the FAT friend and she was the SKINNY beautiful one with all the boyfriends.  We met in 5th grade so we have been friends for 20 years...I can't believe that but we have an amazing friendship.  I know she's happy for me and I can't wait to show her the new me but oh my I have a hard time with it still myself.
Okay...just needed to get that out...PHEW...taking a big breath!!

And...my Dad & his girlfriend are coming for dinner tomorrow night.  I invited them...STUPID.  My Dad and I have not had a good relationship.  It got better when I married Sean but it seems to have gone down-hill since he refuses to give me my Mom's Willow Tree Collection in fear that I will sell it.  I'm still not over that; I don't know how I ever will be.  Okay enough said. 

One more thing...my husband isn't speaking to me.  I'm terrible at paying bills and though I usually have the money available pay things late.  The power was shut off on Monday even though I had paid the bill...CMP admitted that it was a mistake on their part.  He's still mad and hasn't spoken to me since.  I've tried talking to him but he just grunts or completely ignores me.  He left this morning and said he wouldn't be home unitl Saturday afternoon.  He works tonight & tomorrow night at the restaurant but he usually comes home Friday night.  When I asked why he didn't respond, kissed the kids bye, kissed me & left.  Now he isn't answering his phone.  What am I to think????

Oh, goodness you have a lot going on. And sound like me in a lot of ways.

You friend knows you had the surgery. She'll be amazed at the change! Yes, take a deep breath enjoy meeting her in your new body. The mind hasn't changed- your friendship is still there.
It's a shame that such rift is caused in families when trying to divide up things. I hate it. DH's sister is constantly bring up things concerning the division of their parent's stuff. She and her grown children took most everything in the house and still has the nerve to complain 15 years later about the dining set DH got. It was a 5 bedroom, huge house, 2 dining areas, casual and formal,  casual and formal living rooms, and she got all the contents except the casual dining set for crying out loud. I have told my siblings I refuse to get into that garbage.  
Can you visit and not have that barrier come up? Just enjoy each other's company?

I'm sorry DH has reacted the way he chose to. Hopefully things will cool down and he will see the error of his behavior. Especially when the electric company says it was their fault. Geesh ! 
Twice I have had to deal with my poor bill paying habits. It sucks for the family to know that the electric is cut off and won't come on until the next day, unless you have a medical reason for CMP to come out in the evening. Or that the satellite dish has been turned off.  It made me feel so low for them to know that I was lazy and just didn't get around to it. I'm working on this and have an auto bill pay set up with my bank for most things.

Things will get better.

Hugs Stephanie. All will be ok. Don't stress over it to badly if you can manage that.

Steph, I wish I had more time to talk but just wanted to show you some love and tell you 3 things:

1. Your friend will give you a huge hug, tell you how great you look and you'll have a great time.  have a beer, good meal and yak away girl...

2.PArents??? we all seem to have one good and one that could be better.  Just give it some time and you'll see, things will be ok, then not, then ok, then not, that's just the way it goes.  I have pearl/diamond neclace and earings that belong to my MiL, she passed and I told my DD it was hers, but she isn't gettin it till she gets married, this way it will have not only a grandma memorie but one for her too and she will be more careful to take care of it.  I know she prob. wasn't happy with me, but, she knows and understands.  I first have to have her neclace resized cause my MiL was 95 lbs.  and dd is my size.  That will be a nice gift / surprise at her shower, what you think?? Even if you never get close, just keep bitting your tongue and live with it, I do with my mom every day.  It isnt' easy...like my DH says "Be the better person"  someday it will be yours...

3. as far as your DH, he'll get over it, just give him a few days.  as for not coming home on Friday, that ******* I'd be all over that one,...  send him some baloons at work with a note, he''ll get all horny and will be home on Friday.  (we hope)

take care have a great weekend, have fun tonight.  Hugs, cheryl

Wow Stephanie....you have alot of stuff going on!!  Enjoy your visit with your friend tonight....you are doing awesome and looking great! If your relationship has lasted 20 years, it will STILL be great!  Relax and breathe!!
Family issues are hard.  I hope all goes well and it works out for the best with your dad.

DH probably just needs to cool off a bit.  I'd be buggin him to death on his cell though if it was my dh!  Especially since CMP admitted it was their fault!!  sheesshh!!   Surprise him at work or something.....he'll come around!

I'll be thinking about you!  Sending honks and hugs and prayers your way!!  Enjoy your dinner tonight!!   Ruth