Just not doing good!

Hi every one. I am not posting much because I haven't had wls yet and I am not sure I will get to have the surgery. I have not even been able to stay on a diet to lose the 50# I need to lose.  June 11th I have my last apts. ...the nut, and the psych...Lynn will want to see weight off I am sure and Dr. Borkum wants to see proof that I can keep on a program.  For two days I do good, the third I am hungry and allow something I shouldn't have, day four I quit. I am down to 17 days and so far I have 3 good days. I was suppose to do 30 days of dieting. The love and caring on this forum is very overwhelming to me. I am not used to having anyone care and I get scared of failing people who are nice to me, so I keep to myself too much.  I wonder if there are others out there that are as confused as what I am on what to do. I guess I just want you all to know that I am here everyday and I look forward to all your post. I love the closeness that you all have and want to feel apart of that but .....It is really hard for me.  Please keep doing well and sharing and I will try harder to add something too. I need you all ....the good and the hardships.  Sincerely

Hi Cindy!  This journey you are on is not an easy one!  If we were able to lose the weight on our on, stay on a "diet" then this site and surgery may not be necessary.  Do NOT get down on yourself!  Just do the best you can to show the doctors and nut that you are trying.  That's all you can do.  I know our nut wants to see the effort.....  It's really hard to all of a sudden be able to lose just because someone told you that you need to! Keep your chin up!  Don't get down on yourself!  We're here and we DO care!  BTW....2 or 3 good days are better than NONE!  Just keep plugging away!  hugs and huge honks!!!!!  Ruth

Cindy, you never need to feel like your letting us down.  I for one know what it is like to diet 1day or 2 then completely loose it.  I am doing it now.  everyday, I have a hurdle.  I am very surprise there are so many girls who do so well since WLS.  CAuse Im sure they had some moments in their previous life that were less then perfect, that is why they are all here.  I feel the same way sometimes, and feel like i'm the only one have a hard time.  It is more supportive to me to hear i'm not falling into a deep hole all by myself.  while everyone else is so successful.  SO please, come back and lets go thru this together.  Thank you for being here.  give it a try you've still got some days left, drop a few lbs. and they might just move you along to the next step.  Hugs and Honks, cheryl

Hang in there one day at a time.  I actually gained 20 pounds between my first visit to the Nutritionist and the 2nd visit, so they required me to lose that weight or make significant progress in two weeks before I was referred to the surgeon, since I had the winter off from my job, I wanted to get everything done during the winter, but it ended up costing me at least another month or so.  Since it was winter, I walked at the inside track at the YMCA everyday and lost like 13 pounds or so in two weeks and she referred me to the surgeon, it is definitely tough but I knew I did not have the willpower to go it alone.  WIth a 10 month old at my age and my weight, I needed to have the surgery.  I wish you well on your journey to a smaller you.  Small steps will lead to giant leaps.

Cindy, You are experiancing exactly what we all have at one time or another.  If we could've done it without WLS we would have.  Take it easy on yourself, you are human and have a relationship with food.  WE are not "good"or "bad" when we eat the wrong food, we just have made a choice that doesn't get us any closer to our goal.  If you goal is WLS, then think about every thing you do as either getting you closer to that or further away.  You CAN do this, one day at a time. You are a part of our group, never doubt that, we will keep pulling you along until you are a LOSER, too!! hugs, kate

{{{{ Hugs }}}} Sounds like you could use a great big hug. Don't get down on yourself. June 11th is an awesome day it is my daughters b day. It is not an easy road for sure. Let us help you out ok. PM me if need be. Don't think of it as putting yourself on a diet look at it a little differently if you can. It is a lifestyle change. I just ran with the post op diet they gave me eating the protein needed daily and leaving out carbs and trying to stay low fat low sodium. I would love to be able to help you out so just holler.

Cindy.......PLEASE don't be so hard on yourself! I KNOW it may be easier said then done but it's times like this you need the support. As for "being scared of failing people who are nice to you" we are ALL scared at one point or another. Even contemplating this surgery is a scary thing. We are all here because we WANT to be....either gathering information to make the right decision for ourselves or......getting up the nerve to go through with the surgery or.......fighting our own little "demons" even after the surgery has been done. We all need to take this journey "one step at a time" You are not "failing" us by any means. We'll still be here no matter what and we want you to be a part of it too. Life is hard enough. Take care of yourself. We all DO care. Anne

Don't give up! You will get there eventually. We've all been where you are. It can be frustrating. I know I couldn't do it on my own that's why I needed WLS. They will see that even if you don't loose all the weight they asked you too. As long as you try your hardest they will help you, it just takes some of us longer than others. It took me a year from my referrel to my surgery date and my date was moved up because of a cancellation. Just keep at it and you will get there. ~dori~

keep your chin up and just take one day at a time.  That is the best any of us can do.  It is definately not an easy road that we have all chosen to travel.  If you have a couple of bad days, just don't give up!  We are here for you, through the good and bad times.  I don't think that anyone here could let anyone down, we are all just here to support each other not to judge one another.  I haven't always been on the site, when I am alot of the time I just read and not respond and I don't feel that anyone judges me because of that.  Just take the next couple of weeks before your appointment and do your best!  If you feel like you want to eat, just change what you are doing, go outside for a walk or something.  What seems to be your cravings?  Maybe we can help you find a lower calorie substitute of what you are craving.

Cindy,  Dieting is so hard but when someone says you HAVE to it makes it even harder.  As said above...you are doing well.  You can only conquer one day at a time!  We are all here for you and one good day is worth celebrating. Thinking of you!