Your opinions on a sticky situation
Here's my story.... When I started this WLS journey, I only told a few people (DH, my kids, my mom and dad) just in case something came up that I wouldn't qualify or something quirky. So, this weekend, I am planning on telling my brother, sister and a couple of friends. Here's the sticky part.... my sister was turned down for WLS last year for a variety of reasons (her weight not being one of them). She is still angry about it (not at me, just in general). So, I am just wondering how you all would approach the subject... Should just blurt it out or ?? I just don't know! I love my sister and we get along great. I just don't want to upset her and I don't want to have surgery without telling her (just to spare her feelings). Any ideas??? Thanks everyone!!
Ruth 
"It's never to late to LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER!"
Wow that is sticky. Was it her insurance that turned her down,or the surgeon??
If it were me. I am so anti confrontational that it would be very difficult. I find for me writing things down is the only way I can get what I want to say out without stumbling over my words or saying things not exactly how I want them to come out. You know your sister better than most do you think she will be hurt if you don't tell her til after? Listen to your heart. I am sure you will do the best thing for both of you.
Personally,
I would shout it from the roof tops, and if she feels bad, ask her what youcan do to help her get qualified, to. If you dont' know what happended here is a perfect time to open up that dialog. It could make you closer. What do you know are you doing that she didn't or couldn't.
this is about you not her, or them, or the theys,,,no one but you and all the hard work you have doen,
Rejoice in your hard workd and success!!!
honk honk
It was magic when she realized who she had become...
Kate
Highest Pre-op right after Surgery Current Goal
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96 lbs lost and gone forever!! To God goes the Glory!
Finally it moved!
I was on the opposite end of that the other month.... my sister in law didn't tell anyone here in Maine, just got it done, had to have her parents go to NY to help nurse her back to health, and put me out to find day care (Which wasn't the issue) Finally was able to find out what or why she was in hospital for the four days when hubby asked his mom.
SO long story short I was extreemly pissed that after trying to get it done myself the past two years, and expressing it to the inlaws, which thought wls was absurd.....she went and had it done...with support from inlaws!!!
I still struggle with the feelings daily, I know it is my issue and i am happy for her, as she is on her way to a healthier her. But IF it was me I would have liked to be talked to personally first. Hope this helps! (Congrats on the approve!)
hello, ruth, just quickly, I would call my sister, one on one ask her to meet your for lunch or something private and tell her you have something to tell her, but ou don't want to upset her, and you hope she can support you and be happy for you. I think she would appreciate your honesty and tell her you need her. if she is upset she won't show it and will get over it. good luck
I would 100% definitely tell your sister...especially since you are close. I am sure a part of her will be upset and sad...but for her, not you. I am sure she wants you to get healthy. Is there any way she could qualify? Anyway you could help her qualify? If not, maybe you could work on dieting/exercising with her. Get her to keep a food journal like you (assuming you do), go for walks together. Try to get her to eat the right foods, get lots of protein....almost doing the same things you are, but without the surgery. Although she would still have the hunger part so it might be hard.
Thanks for all the input. It really does help. I will talk to her alone and see what happens. She was denied because of some issues with binging and stuff. Hopefully she will be supportive and still talk to me! See what happens! Thanks for your help ladies! honk!!!!!!!
Ruth "It's never to late to LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER!"
Thanks. She is actually seeing a therapist (not sure if it's for her food issues or not) but she has lost alot of weight at this point (not the healthy way) and I'm not sure if her BMI would even qualify her at this point. I'm nervous but I'm sure it will all work out....eventually!
Ruth "It's never to late to LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER!"
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