compliments??

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I am all about the compliments myself.  I mean, come on, I know I am not looking my best at over 250 pounds.  Of course I am going to look better after losing some weight.  I know we primarily do this for our health, but I also knew I would look and feel better as well.  I say bring the compliments on.  It is a tough journey, we are brave to take it...and I think we deserve compliments.  And I don't think it means people are saying we looked horrid before. 

I've never been good at receiving compliments. Period. I don't like to be the center of any attention.

I don't really like the fuss but a good pat on the back would be awesome. Like You are doing an awesome job. Keep up the good work stuff like that makes me feel good about my accomplishments and about myself without them just talking bout appearances.

I love compliments, don't always take them the way I should. but I think people look way into things.  Get over it, people are trying to be nice.  I saw on tv, on some show, don't remember, a dad told his dgt (after she had lost some weight) he said boy your butt is getting smaller, now when you gonna get rid of that gutt.  NOW THAT, is not the compliment I'm looking for.  I am not close to my mom, this is something she would say.  one reason why I chose not to tell her about wls.

I am all for complements as well and I too would be disappointed if nobody said anything.  My goal will put me at less than half of where I started.  Much of my family I only see a couple of times a year because they live in western New York and Pennsylvania.  So I anticipate that they will see a big change by the time I next see them and inbetween  visits.  As far as the friends in Maine that I see more often I expect that they will notice the changes as well but not as drasticly as the see me more often.  Beauty comments are appropiate as well because as we lose the weight our self confidence should improve and the way we carry ourselves will change as well.  Some of us may even take more time on our appearance. All of this will come out in ways that the world call "beauty".  I know that the complements will encourage me to continue what I am doing.  The only complements I do not want are men (other than DH) telling me I am sexy or implying that I turn them on.  That would make me uncomfortable because DH is the only one I care to have that reaction Just my two pennies

You better get ready for them!!  I get them a lot and it is very uncomfortable.  I always say something negative after someone gives me one.  Like, yeah but the scale isn't moving.  Or but you should see all the loose skin......I have learned to just say "Thank You" and move on.