need suggestions

ok, I'll try to keep this short so here is a little history:  every year we take a limo ride to Boston to see the Sox.  We usually are 8 people, we drink, and We all bring snacks (lobster finger rolls, chips, dip) you got it right.  Well, my sister in law and husband come and we are good friends also, BUT, I refuse to let them know about my surgery because they are health freaks and are so annoying and also do alot of preaching.  So if they ever knew I"d never hear the end of it. OK?? well here is my delema... if I have my surgery pre sox game, I will most probably still be on liquids... How do I go without being noticed??? drink water all day? can't bring broth?? hope to be on protein shakes, but if she sees that she will ask? what do I tell her?  anyway, thanks for any suggestions, I like to plan ahead. hehe and NO DRINKING< yak!  beer is a clear, hehee j/k....

Have fun on your trip and make sure you bring lots of bottles of water. You don't want to get dehydrated and I'm sure water there cost a lot. You should also bring your protein drinks and/or your broth. If anyone asks just tell them your eatting healthier now or that you're doing a liquid fast. You wouldn't be lying. It's up to you who you tell about your surgery. It's to bad they wouldn't understand.  Sounds like you're going to have a blast. ~dori~

lets just hope they drink alot of beer and dont notice you are on clear liquids.. hopefully if they are health freaks they will understand that you are trying to get healthy and wont say to much. I would tell her the truth(but that is justs me) I would tell her ahead of time if they are great freind she should undersstand and be willing to help you..hope it works out it is just my opinion tell her the truth

well, I actually was going to, but the funny thing was we were at a local restaurant around xmas time adn they started talking about dr. Loggins (my dr) and how he had decorated his house to xmas, it was amazing, but anyway, they started talking about what kind of dr. he was and it wasn't good.  My dh and I sat there with our tail tucked in and couldn't wait to go home.  I didn't say a word and havn't since.  She isn't real supportive like that, she is spoiled rottin and its all about her.  so right now, Its gonna be a secret or lie whatever I call it.  But your right with them drinking and not noticing, hehe, I'll keep passing her the beer, hehe

well if she is like that i would not bother to tell either, i would go and just have plenty of water and protein drinks premade. and pass them alot of beer,  I would hate to think you dont go that wouldnt be any fun staying home

Thanks Dori, we always do have a blast, I'm just nervous about a slip up cause 1/2 the people going know about the surgery.  Liquid diet, good idea, I know I'll get a sermon about that too. hehe  I can hear it all now.  You know that isn't good for y ou, you need fuel for your body?  blah blah blah... why don't you just run the boston marathon and  you will not have a weight problem....  I will be bringing lots of whatever I can have cause the food will be very tempting...

Oh I was gonna be a little mean but ooof just can't do it Hope you figure out how to handle that situation.  There are still a ton of people I have not told yet and they may never know. I look at it this way it is my business and if I want someone to know I will tell them. I had a point in time before I got excited at what this surgery could help me accomplish where I was really mad angry frustrated you name it I had mad at me for not being able to do this on my own. It was hard giving up that control, bit at least I am in control of who knows about my decision. Don't feel bad about not wanting to tell them. Maybe after you have your surgery and are feeling way better about you you won't give a flying fig about what they think and just out and tell them lol. You will do just fine I know you will.

haha, yes I will be fine.  I'm 50 years old and I think a pretty fine person with no help from them, so I'm ok, I just don't want to be in their line of fire when they see me not eating all day.  Hey, now you got me curious, what would you have said that was mean????  Thanks for your support.

I guess not actually mean but totally blunt. I would have said " To be totally honest with you it is none of your business" and leave it at that .