Ignorant People!!! Need to Vent

I never cease to be amazed at the thoughtlessness and rudeness of some people!! I am pre-op, waiting for insurance approval, weigh 250 and have a 44 BMI. Tonight I went to the local eatery, and sitting near me was an extended family apparently celebrating the first birthday of their son/grandson/nephew. Toward the end of their time there, I overheard one of the women say in babytalk, apparently to the birthday boy, "We don't want a fat baby! No! We don't' like fat babies!!" I wanted to smack the crap out of her!! Way to start them young on feeling that anyone without a weight problem is better than anyone with one!!! Maybe by the time the little tyke is talking he'll be so advanced that he can fling insults at the overweight with the best of them!

My sister once did that to me. She said she will never have children because she didn't want to end up fat and disgusting looking like me... (I became obese after pregnancy) That was mean

Mad/Embarrasing moments. Last year I wore a feminine shirt from Lane Bryant that had a bow on it. On the subway, a woman offered me her seat... presumably because she thought I was pregnant. I can understand that due to my build, and when I thought about it.. it did kind of look like a maternity shirt. I knew I hated Lane Bryant for some reason. Anyway, it's something a lot of people probably wonder. Whenever I had job interviews I would always find a way to work in that I have no kids and don't plan to have any. A lady who frequents the restaurant up the road pulled my husband aside and asked him if I was pregnant. When he said no, she asked him not to tell me. Well, of course he told me. We're completely open with each other. I guess she tried to spare me embarrassment, but to ask my husband? lol Let's see.. got into a traffic argument with some moron who almost killed me and he called me fat ***** or something. I gave back the old "I may be fat at the moment, but you'll always be a jackass." You can separate the morons from the intelligent people by whether or not they pull out the "you're fat" gem during an argument.

I was just reading a thread similar to this on the main boards where people were talking about the painful stories like this one. In May of 2004 I was getting ready to go to my girlfriends wedding. A very happy time. I had also just gotten engaged too. I was honored that she had asked me to not only attend but also to be a bridesmaid. I had been exercising really hard for a couple years consistently, eating healthy most of the time, had a great summer tan (although did get sun burnt by wedding time) and had lost about 45 lbs. I even liked the size 20 bridesmaid dress for the wedding that I got at Davids Bridal and shocked that it not only fit but looked great too... some pictures here: (http//soramor.homestead.com/bridesmaidsandd.jpg (http//soramor.homestead.com/fixingtrain.jpg (http//soramor.homestead.com/stacyburnt.jpg Anyway, just before leaving for the wedding I went to go get my nails done. I was in a great mood and wanted to pamper myself a bit so I could look my best. Pedicure, full set of gel nails in a french manicure, eye brows waxed, the works! The wait was long and the place was packed. These kids were restless and acting up next to me while the mother just didn't say a word to them. She was drying her nails. About 10 of us were all sitting in the waiting section. The kids were running around, climbing on chairs, throwing magazines at one another. She let them do whatever they want. One of her children comes right up to me in the frenzy and exclaims,"YOU ARE SO FAT!" I think he was about 6 years old. I was so embarrassed and he deflated my whole mood. I was mad that I let it get to me but I just sat in silence and ignored the comment. Then, to make things worse the mother goes on to announce to the waiting room that she is so very sorry and it is all her fault because she plays this game with her kids and always jokes with them telling them they are fat and then in return they yell back at her yelling no... you are fat mom. The mother was like a size 6. So I'm sitting there not saying a word just thinking to myself "...and this is suppose to make me feel better?"

Was thinking even more about this topic....... I remember at age 13 sharing slim fast shakes for lunch with my mother. Weight seem to always be such a huge issue between us. One year I came home from undergrad after not seeing her for many months. She just broke out into tears as soon as I walked in the door when she saw I had put on another 30lbs. All I wanted was for her to ask me how was college? How is Cambridge? How are your classes going? Don't get me wrong, she was and still is a very caring and loving mother. Always supportive in her own way. She was here once again in April to support me with my decision for weight loss surgery and she paid for many expensive diets when I was a teenager. At one point when I was in undergrad she even footed the bill for me to travel across the country to go to Camp La Jolla in Santa Barbara, CA (weight loss camp) for the summer. I grew up with her trying to control my food intake and even over monitor it. I think her fear of me getting fat like her mother or brother caused her to restrict my food and place so much attention on what I was eating that it caused me much more harm than good. Instead of learning about portion control I was taught about bad food and good food. I grew up knowing the importance of 100% whole wheat bread, skim milk, fruits and veggies versus white bread, regular milk, and junk food. Well of course the very rebellious kid I was the first thing I went for was the opposite. Feeling deprived from the Doritos, sugar, and other foods that were considered bad, I had no problem over indulging when I did get my hands on it .. i.e.- fluffernutters at the neighbors house, pizza and Chinese food at midnight during those long study sessions in undergrad, etc. When I have children I know I will also have to really find a balance between educating them about proper nutrition, making sure we participate in sports and activities together as a family, but also not getting so crazy about restricting food intake that I end up causing them more anxiety. I also want to educate them about obesity and pass on what I have learned from my own journey.

I always thought that if I had kids, I would feed them right during the week and then teach them that desserts are for the weekend. Wonder how that would work? I don't plan to find out.

I think those pics are great. You don't look to me like someone that would stun a child. I was wondering about that until I read the rest of the story... the mother-sons game. Do you suppose she has learned her lesson and will start to teach them respect? Sadly, probably not.

Speaking of David's Bridal.... 12 years ago , my skinny friend and I went there to find me a wedding dress. We walked in the Rt 40 Store and they asked to help us. They thought my skinny friend was looking for a dress. When they realized it was me... At that time a size 22 ... they were shocked and told me they had nothing in my size and treated me like crap. I have never forgiven that snotty saleswoman for treating me so bad. We left broken hearted and my Mother ---- dying of sinus cancer at that time --- made me a beautiful wedding gown! Those people can go to He-- as far as I am concerned! Rude sales people need to be fat for a day and see what it feels like to be treated like that! Thanks for letting me vent... Been holding that in for 12 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have lost 115 pounds! Yahoo! Amy

Amy, 115 lbs.!!! That is freaking FABULOUS!!! How much farther do you have to go to your goal?