New Pics...
I just wanted to say HI!! I'm not too active on the site because I work soooo much. I posted 2 new pics of me on my site. I was finally able to get a full body one. Life is good..that's all I can say. I know some of you reading this are upset because you think you are loosing slow or not doing something right..
I think the changes really do start from the inside. Get all that negative self talk out of your head and believe that you will be the healthy person you are meant to be.
Have faith in yourself and honestly..working out does help. It helps raise your energy levels as well as the obvious..weight loss. For the first week I worked out I wanted to poke my eyes out because I hated it and it hurt. Now..I won't miss the opportunity to do something..even if it is just for a little bit..
Switch up the routine and do something different each day. I don't belong to a gym..everything I do is right here at home..
Mondays: I walk around the lake
Tues: Elliptical machine 20 min, arms
Wed: I do my belly dancing DVD work out..WOW THAT HURTS LIKE HELL
Thurs: I walk around the track up the road
Friday: Elliptical machine 20 min, arms
Saturday: I go out dancing..and dance the whole night
Sun: I pray that I'm not going to fall over from all the dancing on saturday..
Monday: I do arms, crunches, etc..
That' isn't written in stone but because I get bored so easy..I really do try to switch it up and it does work..
I wish everyone sucess and motivation to suceed!!
xoxoxoxo to everyone.. 
Diana
Diana 
Hey Girly...
You look absolutely wonderful!!!! I am so proud of you. I am thrilled that everything is going well...see you knew that it would! I will see you on Wednesday. I am bringing my digital to group to start taking monthly photos of everyone. DVR wants us to bring a before picture to group also. See you on Wednesday you sexy thang! Oh yeah...I will bring the soy!
Faye 
Hey I did read your post..but I wasn't sure about this part:
"i know you are very proud of yourself at this point, but maybe possibly you would be doubly so if you knew the envy and sense of yearning that welled up in me when i pulled up your photos. maybe it is something just about everyone has gone through here at some point. i have no idea what it feels like to be my "ideal" weight... and i mean not even my own concept of ideal vs. the ridiculous version of ideal that society throws at us. never been there that i can remember..."
As flattered as I am to read that..I just wanted to point out..there are only 10 lbs difference between you and I..so just know that we are in this together and for as beautiful as you are on the inside to say such kind words to me..I can only imagine the hottie you are on the outside.
Thanks again..
Diana
It is interesting how weight comes in all kinds of packages, and I guess it is all relative to the person telling their story. I don't presume to have it any better or worse than anyone else, but here is why I envy even those pictures I pull up where the person is often equal to or exceeding than my weight. It is always witnessing a transformation I have yet to personally achieve. I even went through a period of "wow... should I really be doing this when there are people up here who are ecstatic to be weighing 10 pounds MORE than I do right now?" The answer I have come to after a good deal of thought is yes, if it is the right thing to do for me... and it is.
Unfortunately, I pack all my weight onto my stomach and chin. So, I start looking pretty bad and get mistaken for pregnant well before I ever reach the category of medically obese. In high school, I suffered through being called "chicken legs" because even though my legs were in fantastic shape... I had this whole big bird thing going on. 
As for my chin, well... I've known downright thin people with double chins who were still perceived as fat, because I guess the eyes of shallow people don't bother to progress past whatever point where they make their "fat" determination. I have more often than not exceeded the "double" standard.
At my current weight, I am barely tolerating a pair of size 24A White Stag jeans with elastic waistband. At your current weight, the 22A White Stags are uncomfortable by the end of the day. I got down to 192 last year and had just barely crammed my stomach into the 18A (elastic waistband) White Stags before I grew back out of them a week later. When sales people used to tell me "Oh, there's no way you need a size [x]!" I always thought they were just trying to be nice and flattering to make sales. This was until I joined karate a couple years ago. When it came time to order my uniform, which was going to be purchased regardless of how good the dojo owner made me feel, I actually had to argue and insist that I required one of the largest male sizes. They had me put on the top from a uniform of one of the more "sumo" built students before they would believe me! Then they were like "oh.. wow.." :D I have to start big and tailor down. I wear big shirts and blouses whose tent-like shapes don't do my figure any favors, but at least it makes my weight look a little more distributed and apparently fools people into thinking I require clothes several sizes smaller. I recently bought a new karate uniform over the phone and for some reason allowed myself to be talked into the "new womens' cut" since it was broader in the hips and bust and blah blah. I can't even close the top let alone wrap it around. I knew better than this.
I don't think I am being too hard on myself when I say I look worse at 225 than many look at 250, and I definitely have friends who weigh 25-30 pounds more than me yet wear the same size or better. I have always been curious to know the average weight of the folks who wear size 24 jeans. The discovery of the White Stags was a fantastic thing for me; Normal looking jeans with elastic waistbands. Up until that point I either bought size 26 Jeans which were comfortable when sitting yet fell off when standing... or I bought the 24s which I didn't have to pull up all the time, but they were uncomfortable to sit in.
A woman we know pulled my husband aside at a restaurant last year to ask him if I was pregnant. She wasn't sure and didn't want to risk offending me. Of course I made him tell me what she wanted to know and he knows I need and want to know the truth when it comes to this stuff. Last summer I bought a pretty "a-shaped" feminine shirt at Lane Bryant with a bow on it, and the first day I wore it some woman offered me her seat on the subway. I wasn't overtly ill or suffering from standing, so I'm sure she thought I was preggers. Not the first time or the last time that mistake will have been made. Never wore that shirt again I can tell you. Some lucky person now owns an all but brand new shirt via Good Will. I was probably 16 or 17 years old the first time I was seriously asked that question. It runs in the family. I am said to favor a particular aunt, and I can remember once at a family reunion when my great uncle said to her "Wow, I didn't know you were expecting again! That's terrific!" She was mortified.
The mistake is made less frequently with me these days. That is one of the "bright sides" to having reached the obese category for me... I start getting fat enough everywhere else that people can pretty much guess that I'm just obese... not pregnant.
I know I am not alone, because though I look at as many profiles on here as humanly possible... I concentrate most on the profiles of people who are/were around my weight and body shape pre-op. This gives me a relatively realistic idea of where I may end up, and I can certainly identify with the trials and tribulations as stated above.
So, even though we are not very far apart in weight... I have a good 30+ pounds to go before I can even dream of getting back into 18s, let alone shopping in the average sections of regular department stores. It is something I have the privelege to live vicariously through you and others at this point. Whatever your story, I'm sure it was as tough for you as mine is for me... and I can tell that right now you are going through a wonderful catharsis and you look great.
Speaking of relativity, I actually googled for "the average weight of people who wear size 24 jeans" and I came across this:
(http://www)girl-mom.com/node/56
Now that really brings to mind all the old cliches... "The grass is always greener [...]" But then the opposite is true as I like to quote it from the movie "The Outsiders".
"Can you see the sunset on the West Side?"
"Yeah... Real good."
"Well you can see it from the East Side too."
As for my chin, well... I've known downright thin people with double chins who were still perceived as fat, because I guess the eyes of shallow people don't bother to progress past whatever point where they make their "fat" determination. I have more often than not exceeded the "double" standard.
At my current weight, I am barely tolerating a pair of size 24A White Stag jeans with elastic waistband. At your current weight, the 22A White Stags are uncomfortable by the end of the day. I got down to 192 last year and had just barely crammed my stomach into the 18A (elastic waistband) White Stags before I grew back out of them a week later. When sales people used to tell me "Oh, there's no way you need a size [x]!" I always thought they were just trying to be nice and flattering to make sales. This was until I joined karate a couple years ago. When it came time to order my uniform, which was going to be purchased regardless of how good the dojo owner made me feel, I actually had to argue and insist that I required one of the largest male sizes. They had me put on the top from a uniform of one of the more "sumo" built students before they would believe me! Then they were like "oh.. wow.." :D I have to start big and tailor down. I wear big shirts and blouses whose tent-like shapes don't do my figure any favors, but at least it makes my weight look a little more distributed and apparently fools people into thinking I require clothes several sizes smaller. I recently bought a new karate uniform over the phone and for some reason allowed myself to be talked into the "new womens' cut" since it was broader in the hips and bust and blah blah. I can't even close the top let alone wrap it around. I knew better than this.
I don't think I am being too hard on myself when I say I look worse at 225 than many look at 250, and I definitely have friends who weigh 25-30 pounds more than me yet wear the same size or better. I have always been curious to know the average weight of the folks who wear size 24 jeans. The discovery of the White Stags was a fantastic thing for me; Normal looking jeans with elastic waistbands. Up until that point I either bought size 26 Jeans which were comfortable when sitting yet fell off when standing... or I bought the 24s which I didn't have to pull up all the time, but they were uncomfortable to sit in.
A woman we know pulled my husband aside at a restaurant last year to ask him if I was pregnant. She wasn't sure and didn't want to risk offending me. Of course I made him tell me what she wanted to know and he knows I need and want to know the truth when it comes to this stuff. Last summer I bought a pretty "a-shaped" feminine shirt at Lane Bryant with a bow on it, and the first day I wore it some woman offered me her seat on the subway. I wasn't overtly ill or suffering from standing, so I'm sure she thought I was preggers. Not the first time or the last time that mistake will have been made. Never wore that shirt again I can tell you. Some lucky person now owns an all but brand new shirt via Good Will. I was probably 16 or 17 years old the first time I was seriously asked that question. It runs in the family. I am said to favor a particular aunt, and I can remember once at a family reunion when my great uncle said to her "Wow, I didn't know you were expecting again! That's terrific!" She was mortified.
The mistake is made less frequently with me these days. That is one of the "bright sides" to having reached the obese category for me... I start getting fat enough everywhere else that people can pretty much guess that I'm just obese... not pregnant.
I know I am not alone, because though I look at as many profiles on here as humanly possible... I concentrate most on the profiles of people who are/were around my weight and body shape pre-op. This gives me a relatively realistic idea of where I may end up, and I can certainly identify with the trials and tribulations as stated above.
So, even though we are not very far apart in weight... I have a good 30+ pounds to go before I can even dream of getting back into 18s, let alone shopping in the average sections of regular department stores. It is something I have the privelege to live vicariously through you and others at this point. Whatever your story, I'm sure it was as tough for you as mine is for me... and I can tell that right now you are going through a wonderful catharsis and you look great.
Speaking of relativity, I actually googled for "the average weight of people who wear size 24 jeans" and I came across this:
(http://www)girl-mom.com/node/56
Now that really brings to mind all the old cliches... "The grass is always greener [...]" But then the opposite is true as I like to quote it from the movie "The Outsiders".
"Can you see the sunset on the West Side?"
"Yeah... Real good."
"Well you can see it from the East Side too." Most Active
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