Where'd everybody go?

Yes, I think that is why many have stepped away from the board. Indeed it is very sad. I know there were many kind people here.  I just do not understand why people can't get along.

                                                                                                    Julie

Andy -

I had deactivated, but opened a new account so that I could specifically respond to this.  As Julie stated, SOMEONE did talk about her behind her back - and one of those persons was me.  HOWEVER, I did NOT state that she was mentally disturbed or otherwise, but I did state that she was annoying in some of the things she posted.

That was SO wrong of me - and actually, I outted myself to Julie, threw myself on her mercy, asked her to forgive me, and then stepped back to allow her to decide to forgive me or not.  I'm not sure that I would have had the roles been reversed.

HOWEVER, someone continued the bs, telling Julie more and more, some of which I know was lies.

Like I said, there was drama, I was part of it, which I really regret, because, for the MOST part, this board WAS all about support, but I owned it, admitted to it and asked for forgiveness. 

I can't really do anymore than that!!!!

Tia

It is a shame that what I posted annoyed you .Do you think you are perfect?  I was told it bothered you that I did not have surgery yet but continued to stay active on the board. I really would have thought that someone that was not a total success would have had empathy towards someone like me.  I am curious if each person that posts here is annoyed by what others say?  This is an open board and if you did not like what I said why did you continue to read my posts and verbally talk behind my back with others. I had even invited you to sit across a table from me so we could discuss this like adults. You chose to go behind my back and use an open forum.  A place where people came for help with weight issues. You did apologize and I accepted it but you did not stop talking. Not only did you not stop talking you were angry with others who tried to support me.  I think that the next time you go to criticize or judge someone  your 1st stop should be the mirror.

When I joined the board you were supportive and then you decided to become a Drama Queen and you turned the board into your social network.. Once you posted the Shepherd the game started. How immature think about what I have said and even though you posted you really can't do more than that I feel you can and should.  I hope with your new relationship you find happiness & peace and can let go of some bitterness and negativity.

                                                                                                                     Julie

                                                                                                                       

I do not know you but I will say that I never talked bad about anyone on this board. I only tried to encourage and support people. It makes no sense to me why on an open board people can be annoyed by what others say. I saw others post about life, kids, relationships, weight issues as well as many other things.  We are all adults and there is freedom of speech.  I watched people post on a daily basis and I did not see anything that I posted that was so annoying as it seemed everyone was talking about the same stuff.

                                                                                                                       Julie

For your information, I was TOTALLY honest with you.  Once I apologized to you, I said NO MORE.  I suspect, from what I've heard, that people continued to feed you little bits and pieces that were supposedly said by me - not true. 

So YES, I DID stop talking about you.  But you can believe whatever you like. 

Additionally, *I* was not the one who posted the shepherd picture - it was a friend of mine.  And, it was posted after a friend of YOURS made a comment about me on a private message board that was seen by my true friends.

But don't worry, Julie, I'm NOT coming back.  I apologized once to you and have gone on with my life.  There is nothing more that I will say or do on the subject.

T

Okay, now we're getting somewhere.  It might not be where I was hoping, but at least it's somewhere.  From the short time I've been back, I have come to this conclusion through my tireless hours of research.  Ok, just kidding.  Anyway, it is apparent that Tia had some not so nice things to say about Julie and then eventually apologized, which Julie accepted.  Julie claims that Tia's rants continued beyond the apology and sosureofme claims to have had run ins with Tia as well.  They both seem to think Tia ran people off the board.  Andy thinks that Tia was a huge inspiration and support regular on here for a long time and has helped many individuals with problems over the course of time.  Andy thinks it all sounds like a bunch of junior high drama that really should cease if this board is going to get to where it needs to be.  By no means am I pointing fingers, but I am going to ask this:  "Can't we all just get along"?  Please?

Andy -

I just sent you a PM with my email addy.

For anyone that cares, once I apologized to Julie, I did NOT continue talking about her.

And, I have NO idea who this Sandra/Sosureofme is, and as far as I know, I've had no run-ins with it.  It claims to have been a member of this board for years - yet just joined in 2009 - check out the posting history.  Nothing supportive, etc.  Same thing on the Sex Board.

I'm with Heather - I smell a troll!

Tia

Andy, I  have said the same thing can't we all just get along. I did not feel I had any problems with Tia as I gave her support and encouragement and she tried to do the same for me. I then found out about the back stabbing. I was really shocked when I found out it was Tia. It is sad that I trusted her and I felt she was helping others in their journey .I was glad to have her help and others here as well .  I do not blame her as it takes more than one to gossip. That is why I forgave her and asked her to sit down with me. I am a much bigger person than this and do not need this mess. I hope you can understand.   Julie

Hi Andy,

So glad to see you. It's been forever since you posted last.  I am doing great enjoying my family and busy with school work and my kids. 
Yes it is hard to maintain but this is an everyday struggle to keep the weight off.  I had gained a few pounds but I nipped it in the bud quickly and I went back to my weight that I have posted on my signature. I am happy to report that I 3 1/2 years post op and still at 144 lbs.  It's hard work but it is worth it to continue to use my tool.

As for not being around yes a lot of $h*t has happened on this board with certain people and I also decided to stay away some.  I don't read every day but I occasionally come and post an affirmation for encouragement or respond to a post here and there.  It is not a post that gets much attention but I really don't care. It is a post for whoever decides to read it and gets some encouragement by it.  New or old members. I do it because I want to pay it forward. I don't have time for the childish games and betrayals.  I have come to the conclusion that basically this is an open forum and you will meet people and make friendships.  But you will never know who is who until the the mask is taken off. That, I learned from experience and I am truly hurt and disappointed. But I will survive like Gloria Gaynor sang it!  LOL 

Take care and don't give up on your journey and looking for encouragement.

I am sure you will get the support if you post.


Cira

Wow, Cira, I hardly recognized you.  Absolutely amazing!!!  You should be so very proud to be still maintaining after that long a time.  I've played the yo-yo game myself and I am also proud to say I haven't swayed beyond the point of no return.  You're right, this is a battle that will last until we take our final breath.

As for the fiasco that this board appears to have turned into, I am so sorry you had to go through it.  You are one of the regulars I have been referring to and you've NEVER had anything to say that wasn't positive and encouraging.  I say to hell with what happened in the past and get this board to where it needs to be.  Just by this small sample size on a Tuesday morning, it is quite obvious that many people still care around here.  The bad apples will weed themselves out.

It's great to see you on here this morning Cira, don't be a stranger.  I promise I won't.