I have alot of food issues - stress, anxiety etc etc.
Nikki I'm coming in late but you got great advice from everyone.
you are so not alone. I choose RNY for just the reasons you are struggling. I love junk. I love sweets. How sad is it that I look forward to my vitamins and supplements cause most are chewables and they are like a bit of candy in my world...
Brian and I just spent over an hour wandering the grocery store. we look at things we shrug we put them back, we mourn their loss... then we treat ourselves to something we an have.
for example tonite I got an alaskan king crab leg portion (3 large legs attached) it cost me less than 3.50. I've started splurging on small things like that since I can eat it, I like the taste and it helps abate that sense of deprivement...(such a poorly constructed sentence)
this is not easy. but things that are worth it never are.
not much help but know my friend you are not alone.
you are so not alone. I choose RNY for just the reasons you are struggling. I love junk. I love sweets. How sad is it that I look forward to my vitamins and supplements cause most are chewables and they are like a bit of candy in my world...
Brian and I just spent over an hour wandering the grocery store. we look at things we shrug we put them back, we mourn their loss... then we treat ourselves to something we an have.
for example tonite I got an alaskan king crab leg portion (3 large legs attached) it cost me less than 3.50. I've started splurging on small things like that since I can eat it, I like the taste and it helps abate that sense of deprivement...(such a poorly constructed sentence)
this is not easy. but things that are worth it never are.
not much help but know my friend you are not alone.
Nessa
Ticker is from Day of Surgery.. weight goal is personal preference as I've MET my doctor's goal
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HG/SW/CW/GW
286/253/150/151
Ticker is from Day of Surgery.. weight goal is personal preference as I've MET my doctor's goal
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HG/SW/CW/GW
286/253/150/151
Nikki,
You made one statement that really caught my attention:
The band has also become increasingly more difficult because it's honestly lots of times easier to just eat what it is easy. With the band it's easy to eat junk food. We have no problem with fat or sugar and those things just go down, but try to eat a piece of chicken - it's just a lot of unpleasant effort, unappealing, so why bother is my attitude.
Why bother? Because you are worth it. It sounds like you are beating yourself up so much. There are enough people out there who will tear you down without you doing it to yourself.
You sound so down and I wish I could just give you a big hug.
But truely, you are worth fighting for.
Be your own best advocate.
You made one statement that really caught my attention:
The band has also become increasingly more difficult because it's honestly lots of times easier to just eat what it is easy. With the band it's easy to eat junk food. We have no problem with fat or sugar and those things just go down, but try to eat a piece of chicken - it's just a lot of unpleasant effort, unappealing, so why bother is my attitude.
Why bother? Because you are worth it. It sounds like you are beating yourself up so much. There are enough people out there who will tear you down without you doing it to yourself.
You sound so down and I wish I could just give you a big hug.
But truely, you are worth fighting for.
Be your own best advocate. ~*~*~*~*~*~*Chel*~*~*~*~*~*~
Believe in miracles and miracles happen.
Believe in yourself and anything can happen! 
I feel for you Nikki, because I've been there in some form or fashion, wanting junk foods and questioning diet choices from time to time. I also identify with Lisa's "clean plate club" - I have that problem occasionally of wanting to clean the plate. I counter act the clean plate club with using a 6" or 8" paper plate, and putting a few things on there, taking note of how much stuff I'm piling on the plate - which isn't much to begin with. I remember having heaps of foods on plates, and trying to eat it all - very uncomfortable. When we eat out, I ask for a doggie bag, and split half the plate between eating out, and the other half goes in the doggie bag.
During the double blizzard and being cooped up in the house - I fought off the toughest demon of boredom hunger - I really mourned the loss of several types of foods, I wanted Doritos so bad, chips and salsa, but I persisted to fight against it. I splurged on some good foods that I truly enjoyed and that helped deviate my mind from the junk food. It in a sense rewarded me for not falling for the junk trap.
I'm a year out, I think I've done well, but that doesn't mean I stop being viligant or stop listening to myself. I am aware of my weaknesses and try to turn them into opportunities to create a strength. My grocery bill has been reduced drastically, so that leaves me with a little more money to spend - so what do I buy? A crabcake from a nearby restaurant to reward myself for fighting strong, or SF ice cream, favorite vegetables, cheeses, lunch meat, crockpot cooked beans/black eye peas, etc.
My trick when shopping is I refuse to go down the cookie and chips aisle - and I walk briskly past the ice cream/desserts, unless I want a SF ice cream. If the cookies / chips/ dessert items are not in my house on a normal day - I won't miss them.
At work, I have nuts galore (and I'm not talking about my coworkers); I have almonds, peanuts, cashews to name a few, plus jerkies. When I get hungry, and it's not time to eat yet - I knock back 32 ounces of flavored water. I try to be rigid about when I can or can't eat. Lunch at work is always at 12:00 PM. If I'm hungry at 10:30 - water drinks line up. I won't give in until maybe 11:59 AM. As far as having items around the house or at work, variety works for me. If I were to be stuck with just peanuts, I'd be looking for something else, so why not beat that by having something else, like wasabi almonds :)
I do have issues with chicken thighs and steaks from time to time. If it's tough going down, I just make chicken salad out of it, and it's easier to work with. Or I'll add a soft vegetable to the plate to work together with the chicken, like alternating between a bite of chicken and a brussel sprout or brocolli.
I admit that I do not measure (other than knowing I can only handle 1 thigh, or 1/2 a steak, or two filets of fish), I do not weigh foods, I don't count calories or carbs. I just stick to what I was told I could have, and it seems to have done well considering the amount of weight I lost. I'm down to the last 15 pounds I need to get off according to my doctor's goal weight, and I'm at a major stall - but hey, I did lose a lot of weight, so I'm not stressing about the stall.
I commend you for coming out and recognizing what is happening in your camp, and for the steps you are taking to resolve those issues. I wish you the best in achieving your goals. It appears that it's been a much tougher journey than what I've gone through, and I hope that one day, your journey will be as easy as I feel mine to be.
During the double blizzard and being cooped up in the house - I fought off the toughest demon of boredom hunger - I really mourned the loss of several types of foods, I wanted Doritos so bad, chips and salsa, but I persisted to fight against it. I splurged on some good foods that I truly enjoyed and that helped deviate my mind from the junk food. It in a sense rewarded me for not falling for the junk trap.
I'm a year out, I think I've done well, but that doesn't mean I stop being viligant or stop listening to myself. I am aware of my weaknesses and try to turn them into opportunities to create a strength. My grocery bill has been reduced drastically, so that leaves me with a little more money to spend - so what do I buy? A crabcake from a nearby restaurant to reward myself for fighting strong, or SF ice cream, favorite vegetables, cheeses, lunch meat, crockpot cooked beans/black eye peas, etc.
My trick when shopping is I refuse to go down the cookie and chips aisle - and I walk briskly past the ice cream/desserts, unless I want a SF ice cream. If the cookies / chips/ dessert items are not in my house on a normal day - I won't miss them.
At work, I have nuts galore (and I'm not talking about my coworkers); I have almonds, peanuts, cashews to name a few, plus jerkies. When I get hungry, and it's not time to eat yet - I knock back 32 ounces of flavored water. I try to be rigid about when I can or can't eat. Lunch at work is always at 12:00 PM. If I'm hungry at 10:30 - water drinks line up. I won't give in until maybe 11:59 AM. As far as having items around the house or at work, variety works for me. If I were to be stuck with just peanuts, I'd be looking for something else, so why not beat that by having something else, like wasabi almonds :)
I do have issues with chicken thighs and steaks from time to time. If it's tough going down, I just make chicken salad out of it, and it's easier to work with. Or I'll add a soft vegetable to the plate to work together with the chicken, like alternating between a bite of chicken and a brussel sprout or brocolli.
I admit that I do not measure (other than knowing I can only handle 1 thigh, or 1/2 a steak, or two filets of fish), I do not weigh foods, I don't count calories or carbs. I just stick to what I was told I could have, and it seems to have done well considering the amount of weight I lost. I'm down to the last 15 pounds I need to get off according to my doctor's goal weight, and I'm at a major stall - but hey, I did lose a lot of weight, so I'm not stressing about the stall.
I commend you for coming out and recognizing what is happening in your camp, and for the steps you are taking to resolve those issues. I wish you the best in achieving your goals. It appears that it's been a much tougher journey than what I've gone through, and I hope that one day, your journey will be as easy as I feel mine to be.
Hey chick....I certainly feel your pain and commend you on expressing your feelings openly...Girl, I do know 100% what you are going through and feel your pain and fustration. I broke down the other day and set up a session with a shrink to get me to work through my emotions and fustrations...I am hoping that she can help me put things in perspective and help me deal with everyday situations much better.
Girl, no one said it was going to be easy and if they did, they were straight lying. We all have our good days and bad days and its such a struggle to deal with food before and after the surgery. Weather we had the lapband, DS, or RNY...we still all have our struggles...some more than others....I have been trying my hardest not to run to food when I get mad, sad, or upset and try and make the right choices daily...We are our own worse ememy at times...Girl, I have been going through it to and just trying to find other positive outlets to relieve stress and hope that you can/will too. Girl, hang in there....there is a bright light at the end of the tunnel....
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Girl, no one said it was going to be easy and if they did, they were straight lying. We all have our good days and bad days and its such a struggle to deal with food before and after the surgery. Weather we had the lapband, DS, or RNY...we still all have our struggles...some more than others....I have been trying my hardest not to run to food when I get mad, sad, or upset and try and make the right choices daily...We are our own worse ememy at times...Girl, I have been going through it to and just trying to find other positive outlets to relieve stress and hope that you can/will too. Girl, hang in there....there is a bright light at the end of the tunnel....
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(((( Nikki)))) Honey dont beat yourself up! We ALL have those issues.........I HAVE THOSE ISSUES and I did have RNY! I went through a 2 and a half month stall early on in this journey and almost threw in the towel I was so disgusted. I kept saying I should have had brain surgery instead because my addiction to food was MENTAL!
Im so GLAD I did NOT give up and nor will you! You CAN DO THIS girl........I know you can and you have the tool to get you through this. I suggest you talk to someone off the board in more detail in regards to the band. I know Candy had the band and she has lost over 100 pounds so she would be a great one for you to chat with. You just need SUPPORT honey!!! YOU HANG IN THERE!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU CAN DO IT NIKKI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Im so GLAD I did NOT give up and nor will you! You CAN DO THIS girl........I know you can and you have the tool to get you through this. I suggest you talk to someone off the board in more detail in regards to the band. I know Candy had the band and she has lost over 100 pounds so she would be a great one for you to chat with. You just need SUPPORT honey!!! YOU HANG IN THERE!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU CAN DO IT NIKKI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
thanks girlie! I am hanging I really am. Just started his new therapy so it will take some time to ramp up but hopefully it will have some good effect.
Ive had alot of personal distractions honestly which I wish I could forget, ignore or make go away but unfortunately I can't. I just hope they don't run me into the ground and force me to food like in the past and also most recently.
I still do wish they did brain surgery though. I have options long term I know I do and I also realize I am not that far out from surgery..honestly the first 3 months were an easy struggle but now its a step up to moderate struggle...i just dont want it to get to major.
I really had to vent...I'm a writer when it comes to expressin myself. I'm printing out my post and taking it the therapist and being like ok now this is where my head is where eff do we go!
I'll keep everyone posted.
(((((HUGS))))) & thanks!
Ive had alot of personal distractions honestly which I wish I could forget, ignore or make go away but unfortunately I can't. I just hope they don't run me into the ground and force me to food like in the past and also most recently.
I still do wish they did brain surgery though. I have options long term I know I do and I also realize I am not that far out from surgery..honestly the first 3 months were an easy struggle but now its a step up to moderate struggle...i just dont want it to get to major.
I really had to vent...I'm a writer when it comes to expressin myself. I'm printing out my post and taking it the therapist and being like ok now this is where my head is where eff do we go!
I'll keep everyone posted.
(((((HUGS))))) & thanks!
Hi Nikki,
I'm not on the MD board as much as the bandster board, so I didn't see your post until this afternoon. I just want you to know that you're not alone. I've been struggling with my weight loss for the last two months. I didn't realize how hard it was going to be with the band. I really have to work hard to achieve my goal. A friend of mine had the sleeve and she said she doesn't have a desire to eat. I secretly wish I had a desire not to eat. My reality, like so many is, I want to eat!!!!!! I have to learn how to deal with life and change the way I view food in order to be healthy for the rest of my life. I'm worth it and so are you Nikki!!! With God's help, I'm taking it one day at a time.
If you need any encouragement, please let me know. I would love to be there for you. Whether you know it a not, when I support others it really helps me as well.
Lisa
I'm not on the MD board as much as the bandster board, so I didn't see your post until this afternoon. I just want you to know that you're not alone. I've been struggling with my weight loss for the last two months. I didn't realize how hard it was going to be with the band. I really have to work hard to achieve my goal. A friend of mine had the sleeve and she said she doesn't have a desire to eat. I secretly wish I had a desire not to eat. My reality, like so many is, I want to eat!!!!!! I have to learn how to deal with life and change the way I view food in order to be healthy for the rest of my life. I'm worth it and so are you Nikki!!! With God's help, I'm taking it one day at a time.
If you need any encouragement, please let me know. I would love to be there for you. Whether you know it a not, when I support others it really helps me as well.
Lisa
Hey Nikki,
I could have written you're post. I also have the band and although I have lost some weight, I am now stuck. I have "figured out" to how go around the band and eat the bad stuff. Now that that's happened, it is soo hard to get back on track and eat the healthy foods that will help me lose. I now know that I am a food addict and am trying me best to get that under control. Let me know if the therapy helps you. I would be interested in doing that as well.
You are not alone on you're journey! :-) I also don't live that far from you.. in Fred. county. Maybe we could meet up one day :-) I could definitely use a support system with someone who is in a similar situation.
Hope you're having a better day today!
Kim
I could have written you're post. I also have the band and although I have lost some weight, I am now stuck. I have "figured out" to how go around the band and eat the bad stuff. Now that that's happened, it is soo hard to get back on track and eat the healthy foods that will help me lose. I now know that I am a food addict and am trying me best to get that under control. Let me know if the therapy helps you. I would be interested in doing that as well.
You are not alone on you're journey! :-) I also don't live that far from you.. in Fred. county. Maybe we could meet up one day :-) I could definitely use a support system with someone who is in a similar situation.
Hope you're having a better day today!
Kim
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