very very upset!

Well when I had gotten there and if I had KNOWN something was wrong with Jilly and something to be concerend for then maybe I would have been able to be concerned but this was my first time attending and I dont know Jilly personally or any of you personally. I was just going off an email that I had JUST gotten the night before from Jilly saying cant wait to meet you too see you tomorrow! So when I got there and waited a half hour asking strangers if they were with OH and the front desk knew nothing about it I did come home and post a irritated board post. I had other plans for yesterday so I could not just spend my entire day down at the harbor blowing money I dont have. It's expensive and my fiance just got laid off. So I kept just enough money aside to be be able to just goto lunch with everyone.
 All of you seem to be in attack mode against me. I have discussed this on personal messages with Jilly and told her I was sorry for what happend to her and that I did not know what was going on. But she also has said that others were still supposed to come and just did not show up. When I posted my blog I wasnt posting it against Jilly because I didnt know the planning and people showing up was all on her shoulders. I thought it was left on a few people for the planning of it and posting about cancelations. I didnt know who was responsible I was just irritated about it.
I feel everyone is coming at me with their life stories like I dont understand about tough things. Everyone has a life story and situation that people dont know about. My family is devistated going through the hardest time because we are dealing with my 25 yr old brother laying in the hospital in vegatative state since March 09 because of a gun shot to the head after surgery and surgery and hospital to hospital and court cases that we have to travel to OC for to because of everything going on. We are trying to put a fund raiser together just to find a way to pay for him to be transported to another hospital. So I know about dealing with tough things in life. Having RNY surgery and finding support before and after surgery has not been easy with alot going on in my life at the same time. I have lost a couple lifetime friends from having surgery. So when I got home yesterday I felt that I had every right to be frustrated and irritated!!

Oh my Gosh first and foremost I am so very SORRY to hear about your brother. That is very tragic and  I know you have to feel so helpless. I know what that feeling is like I watched my brother lay in Shock Trauma for months. Its not a feeling anyone should ever endure and if you need ANYTHING dont you dare hesitate to ask................
                                          In regard to the brunch I dont think anyone is attacking you. I think they have to know how overly frazzled you were and to be honest had it of been ME there in your shoes I would have been SUPER PISSED and then HURT so I cant at all blame you for being upset. You have EVERY RIGHT TO BE UPSET!!! You did nothing wrong by venting that, I am glad you did because I WOULD HAVE NEVER KNOWN!! I really would not have known. So dont sweat it. Like most of the people have said on here 90% of the time these events are perfect but once in a while they fall through. Yesterday was 100% out of my control and despite being where I was I was still thinking of the group and if everyone was meeting new people and having a great time etc. I am very sad that NOBODY showed up besides you and Christie. That just really made me sad last night. I know everyone had their reasons but it does fall on me in the end so please know from me I AM VERY SORRY YOU WENT THROUGH THAT HONEY!!! I truly am (((Hugs))) Please dont let this deter you from anything in the future. Next time we will exchange cell numbers and such.
                                            Again I am not upset with you and I am glad you made your post. ;o)

Shannon, I am sorry about your Brother. We all understand pain, misery and sadness. I am not angry at you at all. I would have been upset as well. This has happened to me before not with OH but other situations. I have learned when this happens to fear the worst. That's just me though. I am watching my Mom dying and it is really heartbreaking. Life is really tough sometimes and we all have so much heartache to bear. I hope you can try to come to another event. Jilly, is a dear and I know she is sorry and she is hurting. Please know that I would never condem you for how you feel. I am not trying to come down on you or be mean at all. I was just voicing how I felt. It has no impact on you. Take care. No one here is trying to hurt you or your feelings.

                                                                                                                   Julie

Oh, Shannon, so sorry to hear about your brother.  He's in my prayers.  Miracles DO happen!  I take it he's in the Eastern shore area hospital?  Hopefully you can get him transferred to the Baltimore area!  People say, "medical care goes downhill, once you cross the bay bridge".  Sure seems to be so!

Please don't give up on OH and doing things with them, a GREAT GROUP OF PEOPLE!

Ginger

Thanks Ginger I would LOVE that!!! Just let me know sweet pea!!

What street are you on?  I would love to come on down to the ocean!! 

We're off 94th St., in Sunset Cove.  PM me, letting me know when you'll be in the area.

Ginger

I certainly will Ginger! 

This is no way Jilly's responsibility or Jilly's fault.  I do agree with you that others who said they were coming should have showed up.  My son and I were also there waiting.  I wish I had known who you were as we could have met and enjoyed lunch together.  Shame on the host who should have realized at this point there were people there for a lunch gathering -- he should have directed us towards each other at this point.  He asked me questions about who I was meeting, had me take a look around the cafe more than once .... obviously, he should have known there were several people there looking for each other who couldn't find their party, and he could have made that known to us.  Agree?

CMABell, I totally agree. The hosts were very well aware we were waiting on people. I was in the lobby from 11 till 11:30 and they were asking me is no one answering the phone? I said no I dont have phone numbers for anyone. I was asking people sitting in the waiting area if they were with OH. So weird we didnt happen to run in to each other too. Barbara showed up with her kids so we all just got a table and ordered lunch. They definitely could have put 2 and 2 together and got us met up. Im glad you enjoyed your lunch. They have a Mos seafood in Glen Burnie which is so good. They have the best seafood and its not too expensive either. I never ate at the one down in Bmore. I will have to try it when our money situation gets better. I havent been to the harbor in a long time. I want to take my daughter to the aquarium eventually too. She just learned how to say the word Fishy. lol