O/T.....Just need to vent!
Ungrateful teenagers!!!!!!!!! Need I say more?
Ughhh......my oldest, Lizzie, totaled her truck over a month ago....well, her friend totaled her truck for her! This boy was supposed to give her money each month when he received his monthly pay from the Army since he wrecked her truck. The night of the accident my husband talked a MSP Trooper out of arresting this boy, and then talked the Trooper out of over $2000 in fines....so the boy should be grateful! Well, since then, no money has came her way. And she has the audacity to yell at me! First off, I did not wreck her vehicle....secondly, she knew the rules for allowing others to drive her vehicle, and thirdly, an hour before the accident I told her " I dont want him driving your truck....if anything happens its on you". Now.........she has put a down payment on another car and is trying to pay it off so she wont have to use my truck anymore......I pay for her gas since she is struggling with car payments. But instead of flipping out on this boy, who has the money and who is now buying his own car, she flips out on me! I have about had it!
We just moved, which as we all know, isnt cheap......I am not working due to a layoff over a year ago.....my hubby works for a piece of sh** trucking company....and its Christmas! Where in the he** does she expect me to pull all this money out of?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? To top it off, her father, is the biggest waste of space I have ever met! I dont get child support for her, he doesnt take care of anything related to her, and again, instead of letting loose on him, I get the wrath of Lizzie!
I have raised both my girls to be respectful......but here lately she is not showing it! I am the one person who has always been there for her and is always doing for her. I know as a mom, I have responsibilities....I am not complaining about this.....but damn! She is about to turn 18, she graduated at 16, and has had a job since she was 14......shouldnt she be getting lighter on my purse strings????? Should I be held accountable for her stupid decision to let this boy drive her truck? Should I be the one getting the all the snide remarks & crappy attitudes about her not having a vehicle or having the money to make a car payment?
Personally, I think I should just let this boy get the brunt of my anger today! I already have let her have it.....which hurts me to my soul. Am I over reacting? Am I being an a**?
Help!!!!!!
Ughhh......my oldest, Lizzie, totaled her truck over a month ago....well, her friend totaled her truck for her! This boy was supposed to give her money each month when he received his monthly pay from the Army since he wrecked her truck. The night of the accident my husband talked a MSP Trooper out of arresting this boy, and then talked the Trooper out of over $2000 in fines....so the boy should be grateful! Well, since then, no money has came her way. And she has the audacity to yell at me! First off, I did not wreck her vehicle....secondly, she knew the rules for allowing others to drive her vehicle, and thirdly, an hour before the accident I told her " I dont want him driving your truck....if anything happens its on you". Now.........she has put a down payment on another car and is trying to pay it off so she wont have to use my truck anymore......I pay for her gas since she is struggling with car payments. But instead of flipping out on this boy, who has the money and who is now buying his own car, she flips out on me! I have about had it!
We just moved, which as we all know, isnt cheap......I am not working due to a layoff over a year ago.....my hubby works for a piece of sh** trucking company....and its Christmas! Where in the he** does she expect me to pull all this money out of?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? To top it off, her father, is the biggest waste of space I have ever met! I dont get child support for her, he doesnt take care of anything related to her, and again, instead of letting loose on him, I get the wrath of Lizzie!
I have raised both my girls to be respectful......but here lately she is not showing it! I am the one person who has always been there for her and is always doing for her. I know as a mom, I have responsibilities....I am not complaining about this.....but damn! She is about to turn 18, she graduated at 16, and has had a job since she was 14......shouldnt she be getting lighter on my purse strings????? Should I be held accountable for her stupid decision to let this boy drive her truck? Should I be the one getting the all the snide remarks & crappy attitudes about her not having a vehicle or having the money to make a car payment?
Personally, I think I should just let this boy get the brunt of my anger today! I already have let her have it.....which hurts me to my soul. Am I over reacting? Am I being an a**?
Help!!!!!!
Starting weight 301 Current weight 127
No Matter How I May Change, I Will Still Be ME!!!!
Heather if he is still in the military all you have to do is call his commanding officer and you will get the money for the truck! They do not mess around. I have some "connections" so if you get me his name I'll try to find out the info for you if you are interested. Sorry you are having issues. I have teen girls too!
crabbyKelly
crabbyKelly
Beginning wt 286/ CW 279/GW135 
Kelly.....
Thanks so much! I just sent you a message!
Thanks so much! I just sent you a message!
Starting weight 301 Current weight 127
No Matter How I May Change, I Will Still Be ME!!!!
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That is a huge hug from me to you because I can totally relate to the stuff that you are going through. Unfortunately our children (teenagers and even older) think they know it all at this age and also they think we are obligated to do things for them even when they mess up big time. I tell you from experience girl. My three older kids do not live with me but when stuff does not go right for them for some reason they expect us to make it right for them.
Ungrateful is what they are and we must put our foot down and be firm. That boy needs to pay for her vehicle and you probably need to have a long talk with his parents and let lose on him.
Your daughter has to learn that there are repercussions for her actions. You are not being an a** you are being a Mom and she will learn one day,
I hope everything gets better for you.
Hugs girl!
Cira
That is a huge hug from me to you because I can totally relate to the stuff that you are going through. Unfortunately our children (teenagers and even older) think they know it all at this age and also they think we are obligated to do things for them even when they mess up big time. I tell you from experience girl. My three older kids do not live with me but when stuff does not go right for them for some reason they expect us to make it right for them.
Ungrateful is what they are and we must put our foot down and be firm. That boy needs to pay for her vehicle and you probably need to have a long talk with his parents and let lose on him.
Your daughter has to learn that there are repercussions for her actions. You are not being an a** you are being a Mom and she will learn one day,
I hope everything gets better for you.
Hugs girl!
Cira
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Those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind.
Cira 249/144.0 current/goal 154/ 5'3" 10 lbs below my Dr's goal
Cira......
Thank you so much. I know I am not the only parent that has these issues, but sometimes you just need assurement that you are not an evil parent! LOL
How have you all been? I havent had a chance to call you lately, but I do think of you! I hope all is well with your family!
HUGS!!!!!
Thank you so much. I know I am not the only parent that has these issues, but sometimes you just need assurement that you are not an evil parent! LOL
How have you all been? I havent had a chance to call you lately, but I do think of you! I hope all is well with your family!
HUGS!!!!!
Starting weight 301 Current weight 127
No Matter How I May Change, I Will Still Be ME!!!!
Oh Honey, I feel for you. I have 2 sons one 26 and one 17. I think I have always been hard on them but it has been for their own good. Knock on wood I have not had any problems with either of them. My oldest has a good job but is still here with his girlfriend. I asked him does he want his own place and he said he wants us all to stay together so he can provide for my hubby and myself when we get older. My 17 year old is just learning about girls. I am sure you have raised them right but all kids take us for granted to some extent. As for the boy I would make him pay and maybe you could take him to small claims court. You have all reason and rights to tell him you need the $$$$$$. I am sorry this is causing conflict between you and your daughter. This is so sad. I do hope that you and your daughter can get some resolution and soon. Try to talk to her but remain calm.
Julie
Julie
No sweetheart you are so not over~reacting. Your under a hell of a lot of stress for this time of year and its not fair to you. You are such a wonderful person and I know your a great Mom. You stand your ground and if they dont respect and appreciate you now................I PROMISE YOU they will when they look back a few years from now. Your doing all you can to give them what you can and for that you should be proud. I am so sorry your going through so much stress. STAY STRONG!!!!
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