Do you have fat prejudice - I think I do :(
So something happened this morning that made me stop and think about my reaction about fat people and what it means. We have a new secretary working for our group and she is an overweight person. I've noticed this and had thoughts about it, some negative, some wanting to help her. But today I realized that I do not want to be seen as fat like her! Someone asked me if I was going to a meeting today that I had not been invited to. I said no and he then realized that he was looking at the secretary's name and thought of ME! That means in his mind, we are the same. Two fat women.
That made me feel really bad about myself initially. But then I stopped and thought about it. Why is it so horrible to be equated w/ an overweight person. Other than her weight, she seems like a very nice, attractive woman. Why do I discount someone's existance just because they are overweight. That is what I do to myself as well.
I look at fat people, especially women, and see someone who is not really alive and living here but is in a limbo phase of life called fatdome. you can not exist w/ all the normal people until you are a certain weight or size. if you are not, you are separate and not part of the rest of humanity. I guess I'm getting a bit deep here but can't help wanting to feel different not only for myself but for the many people out there who take in my negative feelings about them and reflect it back into themselves, fostering the self hate that so many of us feel.
I wonder how you feel about yourself as a fat person or former fat person and what you feel when you see another fat person. what types of feelings are coming up for you and do you think it affects they way you treat yourself and others?
That made me feel really bad about myself initially. But then I stopped and thought about it. Why is it so horrible to be equated w/ an overweight person. Other than her weight, she seems like a very nice, attractive woman. Why do I discount someone's existance just because they are overweight. That is what I do to myself as well.
I look at fat people, especially women, and see someone who is not really alive and living here but is in a limbo phase of life called fatdome. you can not exist w/ all the normal people until you are a certain weight or size. if you are not, you are separate and not part of the rest of humanity. I guess I'm getting a bit deep here but can't help wanting to feel different not only for myself but for the many people out there who take in my negative feelings about them and reflect it back into themselves, fostering the self hate that so many of us feel.
I wonder how you feel about yourself as a fat person or former fat person and what you feel when you see another fat person. what types of feelings are coming up for you and do you think it affects they way you treat yourself and others?
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