ATTENTION OH SHOPPERS:

                                                                                          
IS THERE A FULL MOON? I really don't understand why all the fighting? I know it's Halloween, but I didn't get the memo, that we were supposed to dress up and become *****y Witches! I truly believe that we are all members of the OH Forum for the same reasons. All of us have either had WLS, having WLS or hoping to have WLS.  So besides all of us having weight issues, some of us share the same emotional issues. We need to come together, not tear each other apart!! Especially now, we have just lost a member of the OH family, so emotions are probably running a little higher that normal. I am not asking or expecting all of us to be friends, but can't we just agree to  disagree, and respect one another! Haven't we all been judged enough? PLEASE, lets all take a huge breath, and a step back, and let sleeping dogs lie. Tomorrow is another day, lets be kind to each other, we need each other, that's  why we are here, This is just one girl's opinion, but I am hoping you all agree. Thanks, Leslie      

(((((((((((((((( Leslie)))))))))))))))))))))))) You are so right my dear. This is a SUPPORT BOARD and I think sometimes a few lose total sight of that. ITS FOR SUPPORT! If you have a problem WE WILL ALL SUPPORT YOU if we have a problem we LOOK FOR SUPPORT that is what this forum is for. I have met some AMAZING people on this board that I will be friends with for life and my door is WIDE OPEN for all the newbies too and they know it. As I stated earlier I graduated in 1993 so I dont go in for all the HS games and drama. Im too old and I dont need the attention. LOL I am a busy Mom and wife THANK GOD!! So I agree with you sweetie 100%...............we cant force everyone to get along but they should just stay away from one another not stir the pot or publically post drama for attention. A NEW DAY................................................. COME ON FRIDAY! LOL Have a great weekend honey. :o)

Well said Leslie!

As I said in the post to Aaron this website is called Obesity HELP, which means we all come here for HELP! As all of us that have encountered weight struggles know, our weight issues go WAY beyond the physical. None of us became fat, just from being lazy. So its nice to feel like you have somewhere to come to and can vent and speak your mind and know that somebody knows exactly how you feel! Its a sad day when members of a board, that is supposed to offer support and encouragement feel they need to leave because of so-called cliques or two-timing people.

Your right emotions may be running high, however I don't think it excuses the acts of some people that act maliciously.

This is a public forum and I agree we do not all need to be friends, but we do NEED to be kind and respectful to one another so that we may actually give support to someone that may be coming here and reaching out for help.

You make a lot of sense, Leslie.  Unfortunately, stuff like this happens on these open forums - glance around at OH - it happens a LOT on a lot of the boards.  We CAN'T all get along - regardless of whether we're here for support.  Yes, it's a support board, but with such diverse personalities, it's not always going to happen.

I'm not getting into the "who struck John's" of it, but I agree, it should stop.  I've apologized in the past for any perceived indiscrections and have been attacked for it, so there'll be no more "mea culpas" outta me!!!

That anyone has a clique in a group of "supposed" adults is ludicrous. However, I say this to all - clearly, mere use of the word "clique" is inflammatory - so stop using it, shall we?  A moratorium on the word, please!!

I've tried really hard, especially in the last two weeks, to avoid posts that bother me or frankly, people that bother me.  We're not all going to get along, and whether or not anyone thinks using the block button is pc or not, it IS there, and I for one, am going to use it to preserve my sanity.

I know who my real friends are, I won't stand by and let them by attacked, and I welcome the newbies, but honestly, I lost a very good friend this week, and life's too short, you know?  This board is a big part of my life, but it's not my whole life and while many would like to see me go, I'm not going anywhere.  I've been here too long, have offered too much good support and have a lot more to say!!!

Thanks for the profound post!

Tia

Thanks Jilly, April and Tia for responding. I am glad that we all seem to be on the same page. Tia, I refuse to believe that this magnitude of B.S. happens on All open forums. When I first went on OH, I was always on the VSG board. I was on that board a lot longer than the Md site. Do people on VSG always agree? no. Do they squabble? yes. Do they get angry? yes, but there is a difference, on this site there have been personal attacks, and behaviors that just aren't necessary. There are people that bother me also, and I don't respond to their post, hell- I don't even read their posts!  The really sad part is the newbies. I think all of us that are post op know the importance of the support that this site has the ability to offer. I would hate for a person to log on for the first time and read some of these posts. I am not even saying that these posts aren't justified, this just isn't the place. Tia, you of all people are so instrumental for people inquiring about WLS, especially RNY. I would hate to think that a newbie would miss out on your wisdom, because we are behaving badly.                                             

I would also like to extend my sympathy to you, and all of Mike's friends and family. I wish you all the strength to get through the next couple of weeks, I know it won't be easy. My thoughts and prayers are with Elana, you and all that knew him in the OH Forum.                       

I personally have never heard anyone say they wish that you would leave. If that is really true, that's their problem, and I would advise them not to hold their breath waiting, if anyone needs to go, it should be them!! I have a feeling that tomorrow is going to be a much better day!!! Leslie:)

Leslie - The bs I was talking about on other forums includes those outside of OH.  I've sat back and watched a few.

Take a poll!!!!

LOL!!

It's all good, and thank you for posting what you did.  I don't have the time or mental energy to deal with a lot of this anymore.

Tia

I, for one, am glad you ain't going anywhere honey. 

MUAH

 

I do agree Leslie:  and Thank you for posting this.

I do come here for support and try and support others.
I have made some dear friends who I know are life long friends and
it tears me up to see others put them down with snide remarks.

I in the past would have posted hurtful remarks back to the people making
the remarks but I am controling that urge to do so.

No one expects everyone to get along with everyone else - its just not going to happen.

I know who my friends are and as to the people I don't care for - I simply don't read
what they post anymore- thats my choice - and I don't express my dislike of people
to newbies - I let them make up their own minds.

I agree with Tia that when the word "C" word is used it only brings up
some images and memories that are in the past and should remain so.

Come on everyone :  as Leslie says lets me kind to one another - This brings
to mind an old saying ' IF YOU CAN NOT THINK OF ANYTHING NICE TO SAY; DON'T
SAY ANYTHING! "

Hello to all, Leslie I am so glad you posted this. I agree and I also hope everyone can put aside their differences. I have tried to be very neutral and not take sides as this is not my nature. I have been offended by a few here and I have made the choice to ignore them. They are not worth my time and granted life is to short as we have all seen this week. We have also seen that what someone does or says can really impact someones life be it positive or negative. Sometimes words hurt more than actions and they stay in you head and run on and on. You know a person can only take so much. We as obese people have been crapped on way to much so please tell me why we are crapping on each other? I have been talked about behind my back and I have been apologized to as well. I have forgiven but I do not understand what is going on here. If I am able to forgive what is wrong with everyone else. This is a place we should be able to come and feel safe and cared for not judged. There is only one judge and we will be judged in the end. I try to remain positive and support and encourage everyone here and that is what I will continue to do. I am by no means a mean or evil person and I won't support this "C" word thing at all. If you like me fine if not I just don't care. There are to many here to worry about a few negative people who never have anything good to say to anyone.

 To Tia, Darla, Candy, Boxer, Cira, Bernice, Leslie,Debbie, Kelly, Nicole,Jilly, Lois, Mo, Heather and any others I might have missed you all are true inspirations and I thank you for the support , encouragement and prayers for my Mom. It is really appreciated. I am sure I have missed some people but it is early am and I can't think of all.

To Mikes friend and family. I will say again I am sorry for the loss and my heart goes out to all of you. This is a pain that runs deep and we all have a hard time understanding these situations.

Please all of you extend your hand make that apology and just remember life is short and we all need each other.

Sorry to ramble and vent but I just needed to let it go.

                                                       Thanks and Love,

                                                                      Julie







                                                             
                                                                

Awww...Love ya girlie!