Some People Have A Lot of Nerve...or Maybe They Are Just Dumb

Normally I would have, but we were a long way from the park and ride and I didn't want to have to hoof it from O'donnel street to White Marsh.  LOL  ;-)

People don't think before they speak anymore.  It's amazing.

Wow- I simply don't get how people think that saying something like that is OK.  I can see someone who has never had to struggle with weight thinking that but actually saying it - has sensitivity for the feelings of others disappeared from the face of the earth.

It was this "feeling of failure" that kept me on the fence for five years  - knowing full well that I would never be able to lose the weight without this additional tool.  If you are all anything like me in the tiniest bit you've probably beaten upon yourself more than any one else could possibly beat upon you over the issue of weight.  Well I know I have and all I can speak for is me.  It's the letting go of the need to control that which I know I can't control that has led me to this place.  Phewey on the insensitive and ignorant.

Sorry - stupid people saying stupid things really get my goat.

I know what you mean...I beat myself up far too long ...I sure don't need anyone else to do it for me.

I've come to realize that through this process, I'm not a failure.  I have my challenges, but this is a way for me to overcome them...and it will be for you too Russel!

Thanks!

Bernice, First I am sending you a big HUG. I have decided that some people just run their mouths and when they do they just don't have a clue what to say. So this decision is yours not hers and what you feel is right for you is RIGHT. She is a stupid B***H and that's that. I am behind you 100%. You are a good kind strong woman. So I say F her. Like Tia said hold your head high be proud and keep on truckin.

                                                                                                        Julie

Whoo girlfriend!  I know who's gonna have my back in a fight!  I totally agree with everything you said.

I know who the bigger person is...er, no pun intended.  LOL

I've heard lots of things pre-surgery and post and while each time it's annoying I try not to argue.  Honestly since my decision to have surgery and actually going through with it, I just avoid people who have negative feelings about overweight people PERIOD! 

Many of them will NEVER know what it is like to be in our shoes.  Furthermore it's so hypocritical for people to constantly be saying that large people just engulf themselves in food if they just stopped that it somehow would be a miracle and we'd be thin.  PLEASE! 

So many things are accepted as diversity in this world but overweight has not made that break through yet. I have always felt and will not change my mind on the fact that we are the most discrimnated group of people - nevermind race or religion and whatnot. Drug addicts get more slack for entertaining their vice than overweight people do.

It does not boggle mind the opinions of us but it merely disgusts me.  I read a personal ad yesterday that this guy wrote about "fat women"  and how why do we think anyone would want us etc. I was inclined to reply but I chose not to.  People are entitled to think what they want even if they are wrong and I wanted to spare myself the argument.

As for your coworker she would be the last person Id share any surgery or progress information.  I'd simply be as a blunt as she was and tell her IT'S PERSONAL and i'm not discussing with you.  Once I have any debated conversation with anyone regarding WLS or their thoughts of how they think it's the easy way out which I am so sick to death of hearing, I immediately sever my conversational relationship with them regarding the topic entirely. 

I think cutting people out sometimes is more detrimental to them than engaging them.  People are nosey and want to be in the know - too bad! You aren't hearing it from me. But keep in mind when people step on my toes I can be a real *****  I'll be damned if you are going to ruin my progress and succes with your ****ty opinion...I generally answer well opinions are like ******** and everybody has one and I walk away  heheh the I feel like I won.  Please also keep in mind I do work with some really ****ty judgemental broads! Just my way of dealing and standing up for myself! 

Besides, you are about to show her how much will power you really have and without saying a word!  Good luck on your upcoming surgery!

I totally agree.  Luckily, I don't see this woman that often.  We ride the commuter bus together, and she moved to a later bus months ago, so I haven't seen her in a while.  I just happen to be working late this week and ran into her, and we struck up a conversation.

I'm quick to cut out negativity in my life.  I don't need it.  :-)

I want her name, address, phone number and email addy please.  That set me off and now I'm in a mood to kick some booty. 

OMG..... I'm just in total shock that anyone has the cojones to make such a comment.  HOW FRIGGIN RUDE!!!

*hugs* i sure hope to Dog that you didn't let that ignorant beyotch get to you!  You are anything but a failure!

No way!  I just couldn't believe someone would have the audacity to actually say that out loud! 

I got tough skin though!

UGH what a dumba$$!!  Some people just have no clue!  Pre-op I would have done something similar to what  just what you did...now?  Watch the F out!  I don't know if it's because I've become more confident in myself with the weight loss, but I won't hesitate to go off on people who speak before they think and who clearly don't know of what they speak!

Again...UGH!  Sorry you had to deal with that!

Hugs,
Heather