1 THING FOR WEDNESDAY/AND ANOTHER THING...
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on 10/20/09 9:14 pm, edited 10/20/09 10:38 pm - Middle River, MD
on 10/20/09 9:14 pm, edited 10/20/09 10:38 pm - Middle River, MD
Good morning!! I've been MIA this week due to a horribly painful shoulder. I see the orthoped today and I'm about ready to tell him to just lop it off, that's how bad it hurts, even to just sit and type this is excruciating. Worse than any dental pain I've endured this year!!!
That being said, I have a big ONE thing this a.m.:
1. Dad's tests indicate that it is NOT lung cancer, simply an infection!!! WOO-HOO!!! We saw the doctor yesterday and he is optimistic that we are ALMOST out of the woods. Dad will go for another CT scan in about a month and a half and then will see the doctor again in mid-December. Dad has greatly decreased (although not totally stopped) his smoking. Since he's been smoking for 50 years, a great decrease is about the best I could hope for right now, but he's going to continue trying to stop on his own. Thank GOD!!!! And thank YOU for your good thoughts and prayers for Dad, Mom and me. It really means the world to all of us!!
AND ANOTHER THING:
Even though I've been sort of MIA the last few weeks, I am WELL aware that a lot of the comments about the backstabbing, etc., have been about and specifically directed toward ME. And that's okay!! Have I indulged in these childish behaviors? Yes. Was it stupid and wrong? Yes. Am I sorry? Yes. Have I tried to make amends to those whose friendship I value(d)? ABSOLUTELY!! Do I have people here on this board blocked? Yes (and they'll remain so, be this a board for support or not, it's a personal decision). HOWEVER, let me just state that I am NOT the ONLY one who's acted like a high schooler, both in PM's, support groups and via private emails. Do I have a clique? Yeah. We call ourselves the Pink Ladies. Just kidding. I DO have a group of women AND men with whom I've formed a closer relationship than some and I see them IRL as well as talk to them daily via private email and on the phone. I refer to them as my "circle," and the beautiful thing about a circle is that it goes on and on, and there's plenty of room to add to it. That DOESN'T mean I can't support the board as well, which I've tried to do in my 4+ years here.
Again, my long drawn out point is that it's NOT all me - there are others who are guilty of the very same things of which they've accused me (and YES, I've had documentation to prove that, but have since destroyed it. Seriously? What's the point of keeping something like that other than emotional blackmail?). Please note that I will NOT entertain any further PM's, either from veterans of this board or newbies, who want to find out the scoop. If you want to know what's going on, just read - you can figure it out.
For me, my focus will be as it always has been - God first, my family and friends running a close next, and everything else is just s/f icing on the cake!!! This board has been an important part of my life for the last 4+ years, and although I know there are some who would like to see me go, I hate to disappoint - IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN!! I'm here to stay!
REMEMBER, BOB MARLEY SAID, "I'M NOT PERFECT, I NEVER CLAIMED TO BE. BUT BEFORE YOU POINT YOUR FINGER, MAKE SURE YOUR HANDS ARE CLEAN."
Tia
That being said, I have a big ONE thing this a.m.:
1. Dad's tests indicate that it is NOT lung cancer, simply an infection!!! WOO-HOO!!! We saw the doctor yesterday and he is optimistic that we are ALMOST out of the woods. Dad will go for another CT scan in about a month and a half and then will see the doctor again in mid-December. Dad has greatly decreased (although not totally stopped) his smoking. Since he's been smoking for 50 years, a great decrease is about the best I could hope for right now, but he's going to continue trying to stop on his own. Thank GOD!!!! And thank YOU for your good thoughts and prayers for Dad, Mom and me. It really means the world to all of us!!
AND ANOTHER THING:
Even though I've been sort of MIA the last few weeks, I am WELL aware that a lot of the comments about the backstabbing, etc., have been about and specifically directed toward ME. And that's okay!! Have I indulged in these childish behaviors? Yes. Was it stupid and wrong? Yes. Am I sorry? Yes. Have I tried to make amends to those whose friendship I value(d)? ABSOLUTELY!! Do I have people here on this board blocked? Yes (and they'll remain so, be this a board for support or not, it's a personal decision). HOWEVER, let me just state that I am NOT the ONLY one who's acted like a high schooler, both in PM's, support groups and via private emails. Do I have a clique? Yeah. We call ourselves the Pink Ladies. Just kidding. I DO have a group of women AND men with whom I've formed a closer relationship than some and I see them IRL as well as talk to them daily via private email and on the phone. I refer to them as my "circle," and the beautiful thing about a circle is that it goes on and on, and there's plenty of room to add to it. That DOESN'T mean I can't support the board as well, which I've tried to do in my 4+ years here.
Again, my long drawn out point is that it's NOT all me - there are others who are guilty of the very same things of which they've accused me (and YES, I've had documentation to prove that, but have since destroyed it. Seriously? What's the point of keeping something like that other than emotional blackmail?). Please note that I will NOT entertain any further PM's, either from veterans of this board or newbies, who want to find out the scoop. If you want to know what's going on, just read - you can figure it out.
For me, my focus will be as it always has been - God first, my family and friends running a close next, and everything else is just s/f icing on the cake!!! This board has been an important part of my life for the last 4+ years, and although I know there are some who would like to see me go, I hate to disappoint - IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN!! I'm here to stay!
REMEMBER, BOB MARLEY SAID, "I'M NOT PERFECT, I NEVER CLAIMED TO BE. BUT BEFORE YOU POINT YOUR FINGER, MAKE SURE YOUR HANDS ARE CLEAN."
Tia
Tia:
Wonderful news about your Dad: and I pray you get some relief today!.
As far as " the other thing" I know at one time or another we have all said
things in the heat of the moment that we regret later. Also I know that we can never even hope to get along with absolutley every other person in the world.
We are here to support each other and I hate that at times it seems people use this board to attack other people just because they disagree. I know the post you are speaking of and as much as I wanted to respond I held my feelings in so as not to add more drama to the board.
We are all adults and need to act like it!
That being said: welcome back to the board: I and many others have missed you!
My gratefuls for today:
1. For my friends
2. for my family
3. That I made it too the gym last night : yesterday afternoon was crazy at work
and I was tempted to just go home and let "Calgon take me away"
Peace to us all !
You go Girl!!
Have a wonderful Wednesday.
Robin
Great news about your dad. I had an aunt with lung cancer and had her lung removed. She stopped smoking after that and lived an healthy life since.
Your friend Robin
Have a wonderful Wednesday.
Robin
Great news about your dad. I had an aunt with lung cancer and had her lung removed. She stopped smoking after that and lived an healthy life since.
Your friend Robin
Robin in Annapolis
Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it: Boldness has genius power, and magic in it
Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it: Boldness has genius power, and magic in it
Tia, Great news about Dad and I hope your shoulder is feeling better. As for the other crap I have tried not to say anything hurtful or negative about anyone. If I have I am very sorry that I have hurt or offended anyone. I have seen many people here who are just out for themselves and never say anything nice to anyone. I have been thinking maybe they just think they are better than everyone else. I have noticed that there are a few here that no matter what you say they think they know it all and they condemn what you say. I came to this board to get help making a major life changing event. I did not come for drama and stress. I try to encourage and support everyone here. I am unsure what has happened between people here but I try to accept people at face value. I do not judge or critique anyone as I am not perfect and I don't think I will ever be. I have been hurt here and have learned to be a better person by what has occurred. I have learned about forgiveness and forgiving. As for wanting to know what is going on who cares. Life is to short for all this nonsense. If anyone feels the need to block that is there choice and I say go for it. If you like me fine if not who cares there are more fish in the sea as my son told me yesterday. I will continue you to come here and try to support and encourage but as for the drama I will try to leave it as it serves no purpose. To those who have been praying and sending thoughts to Mom I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Some days I come here to escape from all the sadness surrounding my Mom and to think someone had the nerve to question how I had time to be on the board. Well that is my business and I hope they know that laptops are portable and I can come here whenever I want. I don't need their approval. Tia I know nothing bad about anyone here and I am adult enough to know that I have the ability to pick who I talk to and who I can block if needed. I say to you keep doing what you do if it makes you happy. We all need to take care of each other as well as ourselves. I also am very aware that it takes more than you Tia to keep this mess going and I don't blame you. I think we all need to keep our hands clean.
Julie
Julie
I'll second that FU.
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