A BIG thank you to Terri Schember for this recipe!!!!

And my point is they may not know better. 

I'm seeing may posts on this and other boards where doctors are NOT giving good advise, or the people are choosing to ingore it and then expecting to find advise on the boards. Yes each person is responsible for themselves but as you personally have stated, this is a support board.  It is starting to sound more like sabotage if the experienced post ops are not putting some advise or 'warnings' on their poor choice repice posts.

Yes it is a support board and I did state that. But sadly it is not used for  that. It's used to tell Newbies who and who not to speak to and who is trash.  It's used to take what people post and trash them behind the scenes.  All the threads on this board should say "warnings".

No, not all of them.

And the only way to move forward and to return it to a full support board is to stop bringing up the past and move on.  If we all put that thought into each and every post, and sincerely thought about how helpful and supportive our posts are before we post them, then it might again return to a support board.

Of course there will always be some OT posts where people get to know each other more, and support others outside of the realm of WLS, and share excitement about what's going on in their lives, but I've not been on a board that doesn't do that and it would re unreasonable to not expect those types of posts. 

peace,
A

angie, i tend to not saying anything but i would like to say one thing. you say to stop bringing up the past but it really isn't the past. it is happening today, it happened yesterday and it will happen tomorrow. there are people who continue to act the same way, sending pm's to people (newbie's) telling them who they should or should not speak to and talking trash about people. when those people stop, we will stop bringing it up. i know for a fact, someone told a sweet person on the board that i did not like them when i never said anything of the kind and do not appreciate it. so please do not speak of things you do not know the full story of. thanks!

I hate when I go back on my word and reply on a post I said I was done with... LOL

I know when I found the MD board I was 'warned' of an inner clique, of who to talk to and who to avoid, and it's not by anyone that has been accused of it.  It's by someone that no longer posts on the MD board, or maybe OH in general.

Fortunately I like to make my own opinions of people and ignored the 'warning' and went about my merry way.  Just like I was told that everyone needs to decide which recipe is right for them, and in what quantity, everyone needs to form their own opinions of others, huh?  And that would be easier to do if people stopped making implications and innuendos of what's going on and just let it be.

You may think I'm not smart, but I do tend to piece a lot of things together to know the truth.

ETA: if it happens in PMs then I believe it should be addressed there as well. If it happened on the open forum, then that's where it should be addressed.

peace,
A

Angie I think you are very smart.   I don't think anyone thinks otherwise. 

we have very strong personalties here and they clash.  

sadly, Nicole is right, things are being said as we speak.  to people who have not yet formed opinions about others.    I agree we should let them make up their own minds. 

it's just sad that we have to have two camps here and not one united front in trying to help EVERYONE have a successful experience.

Thanks Nessa. The implication was that I'm clueless and yes, I am often perceived as such but that's just because I'm an observer.  I am anything but.  Maybe I should keep that secret to myself huh?  Please don't tell my co-workers because that's my secret tool that I have to make them do their own thinking and jobs appropriately.

HAHA... I tend to keep my skills quiet at work... when asked what I do my response is  "show up and look cute"

your secret is safe with me!

Sometimes it's a great way to manage people without them knowing who is in charge.

Hey cuteness. Same here............when I joined this board I had someone email me and tell me who was sleeping with who and who to avoid and who was poor and needed money sent to them etc etc etc. I STILL HAVE THE EMAILS! I was taken back but thought.......are these people for real? This is so NOT what I came to this board for its for support and I have helped plenty of people and I can sleep at night. And I do follow my own advice I dont give it out but do the complete opposite in my own life. I lead by example. So I can so AGREE with you because I was once the newbie and this happened to me too. Its so Jr High like and I am so not up for that garbage. I let her know that back then and I say it still TODAY!!! I form my own opinions of people and I have NEVER been one to live under dictatorship.........when you look up "follower" in your google search.....you sure as hell wont see my picture!