Stop comparing!

Great post Sylvie. When I read this the first thing I thought to myself is, I never compare myself to others. Then I sat back and thought about it and yes I absolutely do and dont realize it. Sometimes when I see a woman with a cute figure I will think to myself, gee she has a really cute shape, I wish did. You are absolutely right we need to stop this. i see my daughter doing it all the time and I am constantly telling her to stop doing that so why cant I take my own advice?

As women, everything in society tells us our worth lies in how we look. That's the problem. If our eyebrows aren't done exactly right, oh my GAWD! Heaven help us if we have some hair on our legs. And if you don't fit into the 36-26-36 mold, forget it, you just aren't worth it.

I watched the show How To Look Good Naked and it really helps you see how bad we are to ourselves in the way we put ourselves down and in the ways we let others put us down.

Word.  You look fantastic... and I hope to wear an 8/10 some day, too... but I'm not comparing

LOL hope not, you are beautiful!

Sylvie, you know my issue is that I'll ask my husband if I look like people on the street.  The thing is I have no concept of how large or small I am.  I still see a big girl even though I KNOW I'm not.  I just don't have a realistic visual of myself so I need an example in person to relate to.  Does that make sense???  As for people in public that are very heavy.  I can't help but thank God, when I see them, that I'm not that big anymore because of the health factors.  I wish I could just hand them my wls docs business card and tell them how much happier and healthier I am!  Although I know if someone had done that to me before I was ready for it I would have been PISSED!

Heather I do this all the time...

"is my butt as big as hers"
"am I as big as her?"


Brian rolls his eyes at me...  drives him nuts.

as for wanting to 'help them"

when i was heavily in to South beach and it was working  I always had the urge to walk up to big folks and say  "can I talk to you about something"    I managed to restrain myself.

Oh God yes, I have to stop myself from telling people who're having a hard time with weight or not being able to lose it, to just go check out WLS. I think just like I used to gt frustrated when people would foist their latest diet trend onto me, that maybe these people won't understand where I am coming from.

I'll ask my husband, "i look like that woman, don't I?" and he'll say hell no, you're smaller or thinner and I'll have to stop and wonder if that's true. Because that fat girl inside me still hasn'tleft.