Stop comparing!

I posted a piece of this on a friend's blog where she talked about catching herself comparing her body to other women at her pool and feeling good that she wasn't the heaviest.

I started thinking; just last week I was wlaking behind a woman, maybe a size 6/4, thinking, "I wish I looked like that." I forgot about that till today. I have to mentally slap myself. I am EXACTLY where I wanted to be when I got my surgery. I said I was happiest at 160 and I'll be happy to get to a size 10. Well, I am 160 and size 8/10. so, what's my effing problem? I love how I look in clothes. I love how I fit against my husband when he hugs me and I don't feel the belly in between us. I hate my jiggly thighs but hey, when am I wearing something that shows off that jello to people?

Bottom line, I should compare myself to when I was unhappy. Not to other people. I am where I wanted to be at the beginning of this journey and y jove, it feels GOOD!!!

Sylvie, I think we all compare ourselves to others and it is so crazy. We all need to stop and love ourselves. It is a very hard thing to do but we have had the skinny stuff thrown in our face for so long we don't know any better..

                                                                                                                       Julie

I am hoping if we can just remind ourselves enough times of how far we've come, it might work. For the first time since the surgery, I also took a complement on how muchw eight I've lost and responded with justa  "thanks." not a "thanks but I had surgery 3 years ago and lost about 50 lbs, the next 50 I had to work at ..."

I saw you today.  you look GREAT and you should be darn proud of the work you've done!

Thank you Nessa! Soon I'll be telling you how you are shrinking in font of my eyes!

ONE of the reasons I have lunch with Angie every week that I can is so that I keep recognizing her.  she's MELTING....

Must be a female thing!

See, I forgot the seocnd piece of my post on the other blog.

Men compare too. Maybe not bodies, but cars, golf scores, size of their pool, etc.

Sylvie W. wrote:

size of their pool,




is that what they are calling it now a pool???

I meant the pool, missy :-P