OT: Court with the Grandchildren

As many of you may know my grandchildren continue to be in foster care and I am their guardian.  We had a court date this morning that was continued for another month because the psychiatrist hasn't had enough time with their mother to evaluate her thoroughly. 
I am happy that they will continue to reside with us and I'm trying to take life one day at a time, but there's always that thought in the back of my head, "will this be the last day that I see my grandchildren."  She has repeatedly said that when she gets them back that we will never see them again.  So, I know for today, that they are safe. 
As I was sitting in the waiting room this morning, their mother brought to court with her 2 pastors from her church and her boyfriend.  One of the pastors asked what brought her to light in this situation and she told them that she had a car accident and that after that she was told that the school called in on her, but that she knew it was the childrens grandparents (me) that did it.  It took all I had not to say anything.  Then one of the pastors said that God would make sure that she got her children back and that lies would come to surface and that she was doing the right thing.  They also gave her pointers to stand up straight and don't close her eyes while she was speaking or listening in the courtroom and that god would give her the correct words to say.  This only made me more angry, becuase this girl lies about everything and everybody that comes in contact with her.  She always makes herself out to be the victim and she plays the roll well. 
So I did NOT choke her.  I knew the bailiff was in the other room (LOL).  But I did smile when the judge ruled that she could not have people in the courtroom that weren't directly related to the case and they put out her boyfriend and the 2 pastors. 
I am not a hateful person, but this girl has done more than a little to tear our family apart and I am scared that she will do something that will cause harm to the grands. (or more than she has already done). 
So I want to thank gdd for helping me maintain my integrity today and pray that he will give me the strength to continue to endure as I know this is not the end of this matter.
Sorry it's so long, but thanks for reading.

Lisa,

hopefully the judge and the psych will see past her games and her lies.

one more month with the babies is good.

is there any proof of the threats she's made to you about not seeing the kids?

I have several voicemail messages that she has left me on my office phone and my cell phone.  The worker at DSS was the first one to see through all her lies and now she is being taken off of the case because of the kids mother's "inability to work with" the social worker.  The mother is saying that the social worker has a personal agenda to take her kids.

can you get the DSS worker's statement admitted to the record?

Yes, as a matter of fact the DSS worker was there, her supervisor, the foster care lady, the foster care lady's supervisor and many other "big wigs" in this case.  She has a past, fortunately.  She has always been able to lie her way out of things in the past or run away, but I think she has finally come to light.

Lisa,

So sorry that things continue to be in limbo. I will be thinking of you during this time and hope that the next visit to the court brings you closer to becoming the permanent guardian.

Good luck!

Nicole

Thanks Nic:
I really don't want her to be permanently without the children.  In a perfect world I would like her to be drug free and in the right mind to take care of her children.  I hope that she will get some help at least so the children aren't permanently scarred by this situation.

Lisa, Hold your head up and realize that she is more than likely a great manipulator. My brother is an alcoholic and I have seen him reel people in and play them like they are checkers on a checker board. In the end people always figure him out. I am sure the pastors and the shrink will figure her out to. It is amazing that when people screw up they run to pastors and churches to save them. You are doing right and I was told when you do right you cant be wrong. This will all work out in the end you must have faith. We are here for you and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as well as your Gkids too.
                                                                                                                                      Julie

I definately do have faith and it was very hard today to hear people praying "against me."  But I know that no matter how hard this situation is for me that I am doing the right thing to protect the children.  God love them, they really don't know everything that is going on.

Lisa I am sure God loves these kids he sent them to be with you and thats where they need to be. I will be glad when this is done and over for you. It must be so hard. I am glad the kids dont know everything...
                                                                                Julie