UPDATE ON NESSA/BRIAN

Well, the self-disgust was pretty evident even through her text.  Nessa said, "Bri lost 11 pounds.  I quit.  I lost nothing."

My only response to her was that she could call me if/when she wants to talk.

I REALLY feel bad for her, but don't want to insult her with a bunch of, "You can do this," kind of talk.  Even though I believe she can, I DON'T want to minimize her feelings.

So send a hug to her!

Tia

Thanks Tia!

Message for Nessa....

I cannot tell you what to do or how to feel. That is not my place. Just know that you have my understanding and support. Sending major HUGS your way!

Debbie

Oh Tia this is so sad. I am not sure what to say but I hope things work out for them. I am sure she is so hurt and is angry. I do understand. My hubbys doc told us last week when we were talking about weight loss that men lose faster than women. I really believe it. I am here for support no problem...

                                                                                                Julie

Oh No !    I well remember the frustration of those monthly weigh ins-

Nessa -  I know its hard but  know that we are all here for you;
I know it seems easier to just give up but as I have said many times over the
last 2 years -  its so worth it in the end  --  Will I ever be a size 2  NO
But I can now buy clothes anywhere - I'm not limited to only a couple stores

Does it take work not to regain?  Yes but isn't that the way it is for everyone - WLS or not

I know the pouch is still working  - I get reminded everynow and then.

Last night I went to dinner with my family to celebrate a birthday:
I ordered the slider Hamburgers -  4 came on the plate  - I ate two
and a couple bites of  the warm apples ( kind of like applepie with no crust)
And I was FULL-  I'll finish the rest tonight after the gym

So take a breathe and  sit back ; just think about all you have already done to become
a healthier person .

Darla

Nessa:

This is so me.  Hence the reason for the WLS.  Maybe there is something medically wrong that prevents you from losing.  With me it was my PCOS and diabetes, both make it very difficult for us to lose the weight.  Remember, you never fail until you stop trying.  And, I don't think you are a failure!!!

Here is my mantra for the day (heard it on RUBY!)  Is food more important to me than reaching my goal?

We love you and we believe in you!!!

{{{Nessa}}}

thanks everyone.

brian has to go for an IVC consult.   and a chest Xray and we have to find out why his sleep study has not been sent in.


i am what I am.

i want to quit but brian says if I quit then he won't have the surgery... and he so needs it.

there are no words. there is nothing.

i'm empty
i'm defeated.

the nurse said I should see the LCSW... I blew up at the NUT.... i'm done.  truly.  just going through the motions now....

As much as you care about Brian and what happens to him.  He cares about you too.  See he's not letting you give up and nor are we.  You are so worth having this surgery!!!  I'm with Boxer Heather.  Can you see another surgeon?  I would get my NUT's notes from the past visits and take everything with me and go to someone else. 

Nessa - please don't quit.  The worst that can happen is you start over for 6 months.  If the doctor hasn't told you no - keep going at it.  It's gonna happen one day!  (((((((((((NESSA)))))))))))

but Candy see we don't have six months.  quite honestly i could have been done already.  my insurance does not care i want it. i'm fat I get it.  very simple for the insurance.   this is the surgeon's requirements.