Last nights support group

Thanks, Jenn!!!  You are very right!!!  I TRY to ask myself if I would say the things I say to myself or about myself to or about a friend - 99.9%, the answer is no.

Hugs,

Tia

I can tell that about you.  :)  I hope you can love and support yourself as much as you love and support us!  :)

After almost 4 years, you'd think I'd learn!!!  I'm trying!!  Thanks, honey!!!

That's another thing I brought home from the support group-  If you are still trying and haven't given up, there's no way you can fail!  :)

Well I will say that we can take Tia's job of beating people away. I know she enjoys the beatings. We could  beat her into submission and make her love herself and we can pick up the support part. What do you think? LOL


                                                                                                                                 Julie

It was great meeting you as well.  I noticed that there were other patients that were over a year out and weren't at their goal.  You still have time.  :)

I noticed that too.  I was actually trying to hear where everyone "was" and eventhough I let Dr. K make me feel bad about my weight or lack of meeting goal, I am not the only one.  I have so many darn issues.  It's just that his physical features remind me of my abusive step-father, who used to weigh me on a weekly basis and tell me that I'm not good enough.  (Sad I know)  I know that Dr. K has our best interest in mind, but there is so much baggage that I carry from having all this weight all my life that it is going to be tough to break old patterns.

Oh Lisa I am so sorry that you were subjected to that treatment. I can remember my mom and Dads friends who always would tell me oh you have a FAT face and I guess that's to match your FAT body. I hate them to this day and wish I could smack their faces. I tell me kids you don't need to get back at someone God will do it for you. In this case 3 of their SKINNY kids are drug addicts and the other two are alcoholics. I also found out recently that 2 kids died from overdoses. So I feel that God paid them back for their abuse. Maybe I shouldn't feel that way but I cant help it. I hope that you can release some of your pain and move on. I know that it will always be with you..
                                                                                                  Hugs,
                                                                                            Julie

Lisa you are not the only one who hasn't reached goal yet.  I am one of them.  I am very judgemental with myself. Comparing myself to everyone else that had the same surgery, the same time as me and lost more is my biggest problem right now.  I feel like a failure (which is why I really don't post much).  I do come and read everyone's posts, problems, joys, suggestions...etc.  I am just very hard on myself and need to stop doing that.  I have turned to food at times, beat myself up over it and swear I am never going to do it again.  Stress is my biggest factor in all of this and it is VERY hard to turn off what I have done for soooooo many years.  Last night's meeting was great and I would love to go to the one at St. Agnes with the speaker.  It was nice seeing you last night.

It was nice seeing you again too.  And just so that you know someone else's opinion.  I thought you looked much slimmer than the last time I saw you.  What did he say, you're never a failure until you stop trying and I vow never to give up.  My problem is that I also turn to food, for stress, failure, joy, and more.