Last nights support group
It was great to see everyone at last night's support group. Even though I really didn't get to talk to everyone. I got cornered after the meeting by someone and was the last one leaving (yeah, like I don't love to talk). Anyway, thanks everyone for sharing.
There were some really good points discussed and here are the ones that really made an impact on me. If you have others, please post.
And, I'm going to para-phrase most of this
Talking about still seeing yourself as you were pre-surgery:
Close one eye. Even though you don't actually see everything in your paripheral (sp?) vision, your mind knows what it is and fills in the voids. Therefore, you recognize what it is in the "corner" of your eye. Same goes with the vision you see in the mirror. Your mind, remembers as it has seen you for most of your life. So even though you may have lost weight, your mind is still trained to see you as you have always been. It is necessary for us to re-train our memory of us. Some suggestions were given to work on balance or to work with weights and to feel your muscles and conect with your body. Or get a massage and really feel the difference in your body. Also to post a before and after picture somewhere that you look frequently to try to retrain your mind to the new you.
Much of the talk about self-destruction was to "all over the place" for me. I couldn't focus on the message and keep my train of thought, but I did get the following:
Our negative thoughts cause a behavior. Eating too much food would be the behavior. We feel, anger, stress, lack of confidence, fear of failure and we "behave" by eating. Here was the analogy that was given. You are on a dark country raod and your car breaks down. Your cell is dead and you have no one to call. You sit for what seems like hours and then finally you see headlights of an oncoming car. You jump out of the car and start waving your arms for the car to stop. The car speeds right passed you. How do you feel? anger? frustrated? scared? Now take into consideration that you are in the same position and you know the oncoming car is carrying a husband and wife that is in labor to the hospital to deliver their first child. Now, how do you feel? More understanding? To enter into recovery we need to change the way we thing about ourselves and our situations with open minds. Change our focus from "judgements" to hard data. Some ways to do this is to : exercise, meditate, sing, art, participate in a group, internet (I think we've got that one down), refocus your energy on positive thoughts.
Sorry it's long, but I hope this makes sense.
There were some really good points discussed and here are the ones that really made an impact on me. If you have others, please post.
And, I'm going to para-phrase most of this
Talking about still seeing yourself as you were pre-surgery:
Close one eye. Even though you don't actually see everything in your paripheral (sp?) vision, your mind knows what it is and fills in the voids. Therefore, you recognize what it is in the "corner" of your eye. Same goes with the vision you see in the mirror. Your mind, remembers as it has seen you for most of your life. So even though you may have lost weight, your mind is still trained to see you as you have always been. It is necessary for us to re-train our memory of us. Some suggestions were given to work on balance or to work with weights and to feel your muscles and conect with your body. Or get a massage and really feel the difference in your body. Also to post a before and after picture somewhere that you look frequently to try to retrain your mind to the new you.
Much of the talk about self-destruction was to "all over the place" for me. I couldn't focus on the message and keep my train of thought, but I did get the following:
Our negative thoughts cause a behavior. Eating too much food would be the behavior. We feel, anger, stress, lack of confidence, fear of failure and we "behave" by eating. Here was the analogy that was given. You are on a dark country raod and your car breaks down. Your cell is dead and you have no one to call. You sit for what seems like hours and then finally you see headlights of an oncoming car. You jump out of the car and start waving your arms for the car to stop. The car speeds right passed you. How do you feel? anger? frustrated? scared? Now take into consideration that you are in the same position and you know the oncoming car is carrying a husband and wife that is in labor to the hospital to deliver their first child. Now, how do you feel? More understanding? To enter into recovery we need to change the way we thing about ourselves and our situations with open minds. Change our focus from "judgements" to hard data. Some ways to do this is to : exercise, meditate, sing, art, participate in a group, internet (I think we've got that one down), refocus your energy on positive thoughts.
Sorry it's long, but I hope this makes sense.
Lisa Z.
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