OT - my craziness
Sylvie, you're not crazy hun, this is a tough call. I'm 39 now and my husband and I have gone back and forth on the kid issue over the 10 years we've been together. Most of the years were 'don't want kids' however this past year we both decided that we DID want kids.
So I put off my WLS and was going down the path of trying to have a kid first. Then my diabetes and health got worse so we have decided to scratch the child idea and work on ME and MY health. In all of this, we realize that maybe kids just aren't for us. We have nieces and nephews and I love them but I love giving them back when done.
We have 2 dogs that we treat as our own flesh and blood. Also, after living on my own for so many years and us not having kids, I'm kinda selfish and spoiled. I'd like to say I could give that up easily, but I'm rather a restless person and not sure I could. I love having the ability to get up and go whenever I want, where ever I want. I'm a very maternal person, but I don't know that I'm meant to be a mom.
Don't let society dictate that because you are a woman, you are meant to bear children. Acceptance of child-less couples needs to change.
Do what's right for you and Jeff and to hell with everyone else!!! :)
So I put off my WLS and was going down the path of trying to have a kid first. Then my diabetes and health got worse so we have decided to scratch the child idea and work on ME and MY health. In all of this, we realize that maybe kids just aren't for us. We have nieces and nephews and I love them but I love giving them back when done.
We have 2 dogs that we treat as our own flesh and blood. Also, after living on my own for so many years and us not having kids, I'm kinda selfish and spoiled. I'd like to say I could give that up easily, but I'm rather a restless person and not sure I could. I love having the ability to get up and go whenever I want, where ever I want. I'm a very maternal person, but I don't know that I'm meant to be a mom.
Don't let society dictate that because you are a woman, you are meant to bear children. Acceptance of child-less couples needs to change.
Do what's right for you and Jeff and to hell with everyone else!!! :)
I don't think anyone is crazy for wanting or not wanting kids. I personally like the ones I can return when they become brats... Aka other peoples children!
Someday maybe I will have them, but right now, like you I am content enjoying what we have on our own. My parents have had to come to terms with that since I was unable to conceive pre surgery - now my mom is back in waiting, and she might just have to keep waiting!
I am going to get on BC... I am NOT getting pregnant in my first 18 months post op, after that, I might go off the BC, or I might stay on it . My decision - I keep telling her to talk to my sister if she needs another grandchild... She isn't buying it since my sister is her step daughter...
No one but YOU and Jeff need to know whether you take your BC daily or not - everyone else can assume what they want... Let them think what they want to think, if you already told them you were trying, let them watch and wonder if you will ever succeed. Secretly you can laugh at their frustrations when you don't get pregant and think if only they knew...
Someday maybe I will have them, but right now, like you I am content enjoying what we have on our own. My parents have had to come to terms with that since I was unable to conceive pre surgery - now my mom is back in waiting, and she might just have to keep waiting!
I am going to get on BC... I am NOT getting pregnant in my first 18 months post op, after that, I might go off the BC, or I might stay on it . My decision - I keep telling her to talk to my sister if she needs another grandchild... She isn't buying it since my sister is her step daughter...
No one but YOU and Jeff need to know whether you take your BC daily or not - everyone else can assume what they want... Let them think what they want to think, if you already told them you were trying, let them watch and wonder if you will ever succeed. Secretly you can laugh at their frustrations when you don't get pregant and think if only they knew...
Angie
All I can tell you is I was just like you. I said no I don't want children for years. Then when I turned 36 I got pregnant, I was horrified! Just so damn scared of everything to do with a child. Well now that she is going on 3 years old I can't imagine my life without her. I wish I had started when I was younger. Now that I'm 39 and couldn't even think about being pregnant until 41 I know that Hannah will be my only child. Don't be scared, life with a child is great. Everyone tells you about this love that you'll feel when you first see you child and it's so true it's just indescribable.
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