OT - my craziness
My 2 cents- Not everyone has to make babies. It's a choice. You are not being selfish, you are being realistic. My parents complain because I never had another kid. My first was a BC surprise. I was on the pill, but he was meant to be here. If he didn't surprise me, I probably would never have had a child. My husband and I decided we don't want a child. There's nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy your life and your time with your husband. You have to decide what's best for you. Good luck! :)
Hi Sylvie,
Not surprisingly, I agree with everyone else. You have to do what is best for you and your husband and do not worry about how other people feel. Been there...done that! I used to struggle with everything that you've said. Add to that, my parents are very religious and believe that the reason you get married is to procreate. I've gone through years of my mother making me feel guilty because I didn't want kids. I did when I was younger but I wasn't married and it was obviously not meant to be. She has finally stopped talking to me about it...I guess she realizes that at 40, it's not the optimal time to start. I'm content to be a mommy to my 4 dogs and one cat and aunt to my 4 neices and 3 nephews. I'm also a stepmother but that's a totally different story! LOL!
You are young and you still have time...even more than 3 years, I'd think. Enjoy your life!! You aren't crazy...at least in this regard!
Heather
Not surprisingly, I agree with everyone else. You have to do what is best for you and your husband and do not worry about how other people feel. Been there...done that! I used to struggle with everything that you've said. Add to that, my parents are very religious and believe that the reason you get married is to procreate. I've gone through years of my mother making me feel guilty because I didn't want kids. I did when I was younger but I wasn't married and it was obviously not meant to be. She has finally stopped talking to me about it...I guess she realizes that at 40, it's not the optimal time to start. I'm content to be a mommy to my 4 dogs and one cat and aunt to my 4 neices and 3 nephews. I'm also a stepmother but that's a totally different story! LOL!
You are young and you still have time...even more than 3 years, I'd think. Enjoy your life!! You aren't crazy...at least in this regard!
Heather
I'm coo' with that. Thank you Heather! 
sylvie:
you are not crazy in the least. Have a child if you and your husband want one and are comfortable with it. Like everyone else has said you have to do what is right for you. Having a child is a life long commitment.
My mother never wanted any children but had three of us. She had me to hold on to my dad, didn't work and my two brothers, "just happened to be by-products of the second marriage" her words.
A child needs to feel wanted and loved. If you have one for any other reason than that then everyone suffers for a life time.
So enjoy life for now and it happens when/if it happens and the two of you are ready.
HUGS
you are not crazy in the least. Have a child if you and your husband want one and are comfortable with it. Like everyone else has said you have to do what is right for you. Having a child is a life long commitment.
My mother never wanted any children but had three of us. She had me to hold on to my dad, didn't work and my two brothers, "just happened to be by-products of the second marriage" her words.
A child needs to feel wanted and loved. If you have one for any other reason than that then everyone suffers for a life time.
So enjoy life for now and it happens when/if it happens and the two of you are ready.
HUGS
I don't think I could have said that better. I don't want to have a kid because everyone seems to think I should.
Thanks for sharing; I sometiems feel I was an accident but my parents never outright made me feel that way. But, how my mom talks about not working then and then waiting 6 years to have my sister just points to that. If I have a child, I want him/her to feel like they were very wanted and not an intrusion. Whih is how I think of a baby right now, an intrusion!
Thanks for sharing; I sometiems feel I was an accident but my parents never outright made me feel that way. But, how my mom talks about not working then and then waiting 6 years to have my sister just points to that. If I have a child, I want him/her to feel like they were very wanted and not an intrusion. Whih is how I think of a baby right now, an intrusion!
Sylvie....I say if you and hubby are not ready then don't have a baby to make someone else happy. Are they going help you raise the child? NO. If you really wanna be sure you don't want kids right now......I can lend you my kids for the weekend. Trust me you will not want kids EVER!!! 
You are not crazy! You have time to have kids on your timeclock not your families. Take your time and enjoy life. You will feel in your heart when it is the right time for YOU. 
You are not crazy! You have time to have kids on your timeclock not your families. Take your time and enjoy life. You will feel in your heart when it is the right time for YOU. Most Active
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