Green Eyed Hubbies? Or Starry Eyed?

Thank you Gail this is helpful. It sounds alot like my relationship so this is very helpful to me.

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Terri

Mellie,

My husband and I are having the surgery together too.  My surgery is April 7th and his is May 5th.


Melissa

I've heard that WLS can destroy a week marriage or make a strong marriage stronger.  :)


I'm still very early.  I don't know of any changes in my hubby.  But, he has been very supportive.  He's worried that I will leave him when I'm thin, but i explained to him that I'm an independent woman that never had a problem getting a man when I was heavy.  I waited for him.  He's the one I wanted and I don't think me getting thin will changed that.

Thank you Gail for your info.  I am really glad that you guys worked it out.  You Rock!!!!!

Sometimes, a daily "I love you" is an automatic thing but when you have a sit down and say Look - here's what's happening, what's up with you, what can we do - it becomes a great example of teamwork, and I've seen relationships salvaged by long talks because we are not mind readers although we're expected to be.  There is a lot  of misconceptions - maybe it used to be a thing of "there's more of me to love" and now it gets less and less - but they look at it physically and have difficulty grasping the concept that although we are getting lighter on our feet, and getting smaller, there's still that "me" to love.  It's all in the heart, not in the fat. 

Thanks again Gail!

Mine has remained the same.  I don't know whether that is good or bad, because at times I wish he had a tinge of jealousy.  I've never done anything that would lead him to think I would cheat on him, nor him, me.  We have a very trusting relationship.  I believe that if the other person is going to cheat, there is no stopping them anyway.  Harping over it only causes more confusion, animosity and therefore leads to that person wanting to cheat even more.  Nor do I think that weight has anything to do with cheating.  There are women/men that weight any weight that are willing to cheat and find that they need to cheat to have a better self-image. 
Marriage is more than an institution, it is a bond between a couple and unfortunately many people don't have this.  If you don't have trust, you don't have a marriage.