OT ~ Do you keep in Touch
I'm helping to plan my 25th high school reunion and I'm feeling so guilty that I have not kept in touch with any of my friends from high school. I realized that so many of my classmates married their high school sweethearts, some have lead more exiting lives than I, some are ill and probably could have used my support. I feel selfish and very upset that I do not have more friends (true friends) than I have. While I realize that life took me in another direction, I am hoping that there is still time to reconnect with some of these people.
So, here's the question to you: how many people do you still keep in touch with from high school?
So, here's the question to you: how many people do you still keep in touch with from high school?
Lisa Z.
When we believe, all things are possible!
Hi Lis!!!
I'm sure there are a lot of people who wished they had kept in touch with you, too, but life can get so busy that it's easy to lose track of people. Even the best friendships take work on both people's parts. I was part of the "academically gifted" clique (no, not NERDS), in high school, so while I didn't have a LOT of friends, I did have some great ones. It's actually a theory to which I subscribe even to this day and try to instill in KB - It's better to have two or three really good friends as opposed to five or six not so good.
I still keep in touch with my high school best friends - although they know each other and were in my wedding, they're not friends with each other per se. I've been friends with both Lisas (!) since we were 15 (gosh, has it only been 6 years? LOL!), and try to get together with them periodically. Oddly enough, I get together with the one who lives further away more frequently than I do with the one who lives literally minutes from me!!!
Also, since KB started school, and since I haven't moved out of the area, I've found that I went to school with the parents of THEIR school friends!! Makes me feel kind of old!!! In fact, one of the mothers was my junior year president, and I remember holding her hair as she puked from drinking too much peppermint schnapps!!! And when I ran into the father of one of B's classmates, he told his little boy, "Miss Teresa gave me my first beer!!" OMG!!! Hmmmm....maybe I need to rethink talking to these people again!!!!
So there's my short answer for you!! Two!! And like I said, life is so crazy sometimes, we REALLY have to work at it!!! A good way to do it is via www.classmates.com or another similar website.
Tia
I'm sure there are a lot of people who wished they had kept in touch with you, too, but life can get so busy that it's easy to lose track of people. Even the best friendships take work on both people's parts. I was part of the "academically gifted" clique (no, not NERDS), in high school, so while I didn't have a LOT of friends, I did have some great ones. It's actually a theory to which I subscribe even to this day and try to instill in KB - It's better to have two or three really good friends as opposed to five or six not so good.
I still keep in touch with my high school best friends - although they know each other and were in my wedding, they're not friends with each other per se. I've been friends with both Lisas (!) since we were 15 (gosh, has it only been 6 years? LOL!), and try to get together with them periodically. Oddly enough, I get together with the one who lives further away more frequently than I do with the one who lives literally minutes from me!!!
Also, since KB started school, and since I haven't moved out of the area, I've found that I went to school with the parents of THEIR school friends!! Makes me feel kind of old!!! In fact, one of the mothers was my junior year president, and I remember holding her hair as she puked from drinking too much peppermint schnapps!!! And when I ran into the father of one of B's classmates, he told his little boy, "Miss Teresa gave me my first beer!!" OMG!!! Hmmmm....maybe I need to rethink talking to these people again!!!!
So there's my short answer for you!! Two!! And like I said, life is so crazy sometimes, we REALLY have to work at it!!! A good way to do it is via www.classmates.com or another similar website.
Tia
I really don't think a number is significant here when it comes to friends. I have friends from the different eras of my life. Yes, there are 4 that were my friends in high school. And we have remained friends since then. Over the years different life complications affected each of us, There were fluctuations in the degree of contact we had with each other. In the last year, we have made a pact to get together every 1-2 months. At each get-together, we pick a date for the next one. This way, we don't let time get away from us.
I do think you can renew friendships. Although not from high school, I do have a friend that I met when in my 20s at Weigh****chers. We were good friends for many years and then sort of lost touch. She got married and started having her babies and I was dealing with some all consuming family situations. When my Dad died, I reflected back on people that I missed in my life and she was one of the ones that immediately came to mind. She was shocked to say the least when I called her. Over time we have rebuilt that friendship. It is with her and her cousins that I am traveling to the Keys in October for my big adventure.
I agree with Tia, that it takes a lot of work to maintain friendships. It does seem like the older I get, the harder it is, with time being the major factor. There are some that I only manage to talk to a couple of times a year and see maybe once a year. And there are others that I talk to and see much more often.
Debbie
I do think you can renew friendships. Although not from high school, I do have a friend that I met when in my 20s at Weigh****chers. We were good friends for many years and then sort of lost touch. She got married and started having her babies and I was dealing with some all consuming family situations. When my Dad died, I reflected back on people that I missed in my life and she was one of the ones that immediately came to mind. She was shocked to say the least when I called her. Over time we have rebuilt that friendship. It is with her and her cousins that I am traveling to the Keys in October for my big adventure.
I agree with Tia, that it takes a lot of work to maintain friendships. It does seem like the older I get, the harder it is, with time being the major factor. There are some that I only manage to talk to a couple of times a year and see maybe once a year. And there are others that I talk to and see much more often.
Debbie
Deb:
Some of these girls were my best friends and even the husband of one of the girls. I remember talking to her boyfriend (now husband) every day ~ he was my neighbor. I am going to get in contact with her. I've just been told she has a brain tumor. OMG, I still have love for that girl! She was like a sister to me.
Some of these girls were my best friends and even the husband of one of the girls. I remember talking to her boyfriend (now husband) every day ~ he was my neighbor. I am going to get in contact with her. I've just been told she has a brain tumor. OMG, I still have love for that girl! She was like a sister to me.
Lisa Z.
When we believe, all things are possible!
OMG Tia: I'm going to cry ~ I was just told that my best friend from high school had a cancerous brain tumor and she was in a wheel chair, her son had lukemia. I was told she is "walking" now. I've been thinking about this girl for years now. I've even tried several times to find an address for her or an e-mail, but haven't been able to. I think I didn't keep in touch because I felt inadequate. During high school I was also in the "gifted" clique, but then I had some drama at home. IE a step-father that beat my mother and through us out of the house in the middle of the night and stole the car and smashed out the windows of the house because no one would live in "his" house. I went from a very affluent neighborhood, to one, not so. I felt less of a person, or embarrassed by these things and so I didn't participate in things with my "friends" any longer. I met knew friends (not friends really) that introduced me to alot of new things ~ not always good and I took a new road. I wasn't able to go to the big school that a lot of my friends were going to and again feelings of not being good enough to associate with them.
I do feel like I have something to give to these people now. My friendship. I know I am a good person and anyone who takes the time to see past the fat exterior and spend some time with me will hopefully see that too. I want to be a good friend, it's just that I don't think I know how. I have always kept my distance so that I wouldn't get hurt when someone else rejected me.
I do feel like I have something to give to these people now. My friendship. I know I am a good person and anyone who takes the time to see past the fat exterior and spend some time with me will hopefully see that too. I want to be a good friend, it's just that I don't think I know how. I have always kept my distance so that I wouldn't get hurt when someone else rejected me.
Lisa Z.
When we believe, all things are possible!
Awww, don't cry honey!!! I KNOW you're a good person, and I've only known you for a few months!!! You have SO much to offer a friend - I'm just sorry we don't live on the same side of the bridge so we can get together more often!! :(
The reunion will help you get back in touch. Keep in mind though, that someone else's drama may cause them to feel like they have nothing to offer, so DON'T take it as a personal rejection. Like I said, life is so busy, people have good intentions, but things happen.
As far as not being able to get addresses or contact info - well, you've obviously forgotten your familial connections!!! I'm SURE Z could help you with that!
The best way to have a friend is to BE a friend - so start small. Just send a small "thinking of you" note with your maiden name and contact info. At least you've extended the hand of friendship, and if it's not accepted, TRUST me, it's THEIR LOSS!!!
Hugs,
Tia (who would hold your hair back if you puked from stuck food!!)
The reunion will help you get back in touch. Keep in mind though, that someone else's drama may cause them to feel like they have nothing to offer, so DON'T take it as a personal rejection. Like I said, life is so busy, people have good intentions, but things happen.
As far as not being able to get addresses or contact info - well, you've obviously forgotten your familial connections!!! I'm SURE Z could help you with that!
The best way to have a friend is to BE a friend - so start small. Just send a small "thinking of you" note with your maiden name and contact info. At least you've extended the hand of friendship, and if it's not accepted, TRUST me, it's THEIR LOSS!!!
Hugs,
Tia (who would hold your hair back if you puked from stuck food!!)
Lisa -
Well, thanks for the reciprocal offer!!! LOL!!!! I haven't had food stuck in a while, so keep your fingers crossed.
Heather and I were just talking about you on Saturday, saying how much we liked you and couldn't wait to see you again!!!!
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T
Well, thanks for the reciprocal offer!!! LOL!!!! I haven't had food stuck in a while, so keep your fingers crossed.
Heather and I were just talking about you on Saturday, saying how much we liked you and couldn't wait to see you again!!!!
BIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIG SMOOCHIES!!!
T
I have been friends with my gf Cathy since we were in middle school and are still extremely close. And since we are both 40 this year that makes 28 years as best friends. I don't get to see her as often as I would like but we talk several times a week. Other than that I don't really correspond with others from school.
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