okay, okay, slap me now!

I deserve it! I really do, I was talking to a woman I work with, and she had the RNY a while back and has lost a whole bunch of weight and looks great but I found myself staring at her as she walked away and thinking, well, she has lost a lot of weight but she still needs to lose more in her rear...and then I immediately felt awful....someone slap me please!

OMG, Char!!  You have just verbalized my worst fear!!    Even though I've done an amazing job, and I know I look better than I did, I still get the feeling that when I tell someone I've had wls, they're looking at me like, "You did?"  What a horrible feeling!!! 

I will acknowledge that, even at 3 years post-op, I'm still a work in progress and may always be, I know that in many people's eyes, I'm NOT a success.  I have to let my progress and achievements speak for themselves, but when I imagine people thinking things like this, it hurts SO much. 

Tia

Ummm, post your pre-op pics and everyone can see how far you've come!  Some of us KNOW!  Don't make me do it myself! lol

That's an empty threat - cause you KNOW I CAN'T do it!!!! 

T

I'm sorry, I feel just awful thinking something like that because she looks amazing! My mind went there for like 10 seconds and I slapped myself for even thinking something like that because she really does look awsome, maybe it's just jealousy....you look fantastic dear!

Char, I think you already slapped yourself! lol  You aren't the first and won't be the last person to think like you did, even as being a wls patient (soon to be) yourself.  It's human nature.  One of my girlfriends was also banded and even though she's lost over 100 pounds she still has the same shape she did prior to surgery; small upper body and larger lower body (out of proportion).  It's just not something that can be helped, she could lose all the weight and still have the same shape.

Hi Char,

Hopefully you will not let yourself think like that again.  
It is a fear that many of us have when people look at us.  There will be times when you (as a WL patient) will be very self conscience of how you look and what people are thinking when they look at you. I know I have had that fear.

Oh god I know all, I know how awful it is to think other people are thinking about how you look...but I am feeling so bad...I had to confess this....and like I said, she looks absolutely amazing....not sure why that awful thought passed in my head....because she looks fantastic, she really does!

sometimes our thoughts about others are really just an extension of our internal fears. 

pam, you could be on to something there....you really could..thanks....and I know I should be slapped for this...because it really was not true....she looks great....maybe like i said i was just jealous....I feel so awful for this...