Debate Part 2

Jen L.
on 8/20/08 5:29 am - Frederick, MD

Ok.....so how do you stop someone from bringing their prior relationship into the new one and to stop comparing you to them?????

(deactivated member)
on 8/20/08 5:41 am - FL

RNY on 09/10/07

Tell them to shut the hell up about it!

(deactivated member)
on 8/20/08 5:42 am - Middle River, MD

RNY on 08/02/05

Hold the pillow tighter over their face!!!! LOL!!!

Seriously, Jen, I am sooooooo not liking your train of thought today!!!

Hopefully, I'll be able to pm you in a bit or tomorrow a.m. in response to YOUR pm!!!

Tia

(deactivated member)
on 8/20/08 5:50 am - FL

RNY on 09/10/07

Hold the pillow tighter over their face!!!!

AGREED!

Heather M.
on 8/20/08 8:36 am - Rosedale, MD

Revision on 06/11/09

Jen!!! Welcome back from Disney! Okay so here's what I would do. First of all, you have a VERY serious conversation to this person about it happening. Maybe they don't even realize they are doing it. Secondly, are they OVER the prior relationship? Third, if they don't stop making you feel badly, maybe it's not a good relationship to try to nurture.

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Jilly Durbin
on 8/20/08 9:43 am - Pasadena, MD

RNY on 12/04/08

WOW! That is a good one. I didnt have to deal with that because my husband didnt have any girlfriends before me and I was his first so there was nothing to compare me to. PHEW THANK GOD! hehehe And I didnt compare him to any of my previous relationships. They all ended for good reason.

THERESAMARIE
on 8/20/08 10:02 am

RNY on 05/23/08

Squeeze down on the pillow harder!!

Taking the Journey One Day at a Time!Terri

(deactivated member)
on 8/20/08 11:18 am - FL

RNY on 09/10/07

Love it, Terri!

wolfcallsldy1969
on 8/20/08 12:06 pm - Glen Burnie, MD

RNY on 02/28/08

Its one thing if they compare the other person to you but if they are comparing and you are the better then the other person.."KEEP THE COMPLIMENTS COMING!!!!" I have an ex husband, but don't bring him up much at all unless he ****** me off (bring me a big big pillow) . Now my hunny brings up his ex all the time because he has children with her. I have to say, when he talks about her and brings up prior things from their relationship, its not all good and its always about how much better things are with me. If it was the opposite, he would be getting the cast iron pan to the back of his head and she would get the pillow (maybe the pan too...lol)

~~ Terri ~~ www.myspace.com/wolfcallsldy