work-what did you tell them?

I told my Husband and my mom first then after looking into it and deciding I was going to do this for real I told EVERYONE. I was a Nanny at the time so I wanted to tell them so they knew I why I needed a month off. They were so supportive and even thought I dont work for them anymore they are still part of my number 1 support team and are so proud of me.

If you dont want to tell anyone just tell them you are going in for female medical reasons.........that usually doeesnt get another question......lol

thank you all, the reason I am concerned about this, is if I don't tell them the reason, as you all saw a few weeks ago about the law enforcement officer who got in to trouble for not telling her work the truth about her surgery, I work in law enforcement, so I was just wondering if I should go ahead and tell them the truth...sigh...

Char

I told my immediate supervisor when I had a surgery date and all the prep was done. I also told a few close co-workers- although like most offices word travels fast and before I knew it everyone knew.  Even so it is ok because it makes the parties alot easier to deal with.  As everyone said it is a personal choice however,it is good you are checking around to help you with this decision.

Hugs,
Terri

Char,
I was open about it with my boss first and as the time got closer I started telling more people at work because I didn't want to have issues after with co-workers. I work for a small company owned by Italians so you can just imagine the food that comes through my office! LOL I knew once the weight started coming off, since it comes off so quickly, that people would rumor-mill about sickness, drugs, etc. so I nipped it in the butt before that could happen. I totally understand not wanting everyone to know but for me it was a good decision to be totally open with everyone about it. You do what feels comfortable for you and you'll make the right decision on who to tell and to not tell.

~Heather

wow.. how timely this thread is.  i had a mini-meltdown at work today because i only told about eight people and i can't tell you how many people now know.  people i haven't talked to in a long, long time are coming out of the woodwork to come ask me questions.  i was pretty annoyed this morning because i now have no idea who does know and who doesn't know so i feel like i have to be completely open with everyone or look like a lying fool.  i just wasn't expecting this.  i guess i'm naive.

((((((Hugs)))))))))) I can see how that could get frustrating. People just love stirring the pot which is one of the MANY reasons I am glad I now work from home. When I was teaching all the teachers did everyday was stand around and gossip about everyones size, looks,marriage, affairs, financial situations etc. I HATED THAT!!! Im just not one to start drama or get involved in it but if it is brought to the table I can fini**** LOL
Just know that your info may help someone else at work.
~Jilly~

See I'm in the hiding phase and right now I don't think I want to tell work that I'm having surgery.  My plan is to just tell them I need to be off for medical reasons.  My BF at work knows that I'm doing it but I'm just not comfortable with telling people there yet.  I think I'm afraid they will think less of me.

Hi Char ((Hugs)) I can understand you having reservations in regrd to letting people know but IMO I think the more open you are the better you will feel. You may be shocked at the support you get too. Okay lets look at celebs..when Roseanne Barr and Carnie Wilson had it done they told EVERYONE and cam crews even followed them to the hospital but the nation embraced it. Star Jones took a different route and became an outkast. Still not sure what all went down there but she didnt want everyone to know she had WLS because she said she was ashamed so she lied and said she was having her gallbladder removed.
Privacy is big to a lot of people and if you chose that then that is okay because its your right. But I think if you are more open you will have a much better response from your peers and others around you at work.
I told all of my daycare parents. I was very open with them. They all told me I didnt need the surgery and I told them I had to do this for ME not anyone else. My family all know too. Everyone handles it different though. Im not ashamed at all of the surgery what I should be ashamed of is waiting this long to do it. You will have A LOT OF SUPPORT HERE no matter what. ~Jilly~

I just said I was going to be out for surgery.  I didn't tell them anything else.

Now, have they figured it out after 18 months?  Probably, but, it is none of their business.  I work in the healthcare field and I hear negative comments about WLS everytime we have a patient who has had a less than stellar outcome from it.  Nurses are rough and at times, eat their own.

Now, if someone just came out and asked me, I would probably just tell them.   But no one has.

 

I've been fairly open with many of my co-workers but there are some that I don't feel need to know anything other than I'm having life saving surgery.  I've gotten mixed reactions and have had to explain myself on several occasions...I didn't have to but did.  As others have said, it's a vastly personal issue.  Tell those you feel comfortable telling but don't feel obliged to tell everyone.