Divorce after WLS?

Very good feedback!

My hubby worries about the "statistics" too. But he also wants me to be healthier. My husband and I have had many many ups and downs in our 8 years of marriage. I told him that if I hadn't left him yet, I wouldn't leave him if I were skinny either! LOL He can't get rid of me that easy!

I agree with you.  I can't imagine hurting my kids, leaving/selling my home, giving up my lifestyle, splitting our assets and all that comes from divorce just because someone else gives me more attention, etc.  i have no idea how much of it is tied to my weight issues, but i learned in counseling a long time ago that depending on your spouse too much emotionally will lead to an unhappy marriage.  i reallyl try to get my self worth from my job, my charity work and my kid's accomplishments.  my husband and i are very compatible in that we agree on issues concerning the kids and money.  two biggies that people fight about often.  do i wish that some things were different?  yes.  but i also know that i have it pretty darned good in ways that many don't, so i just try to concentrate on those aspects of things.  most people get very hung up on what they perceive they don't have rather than what they do have.

To dispel the fears of DH's around the WLS world - I have lost 125 -130# and gone from a 44DD to a 36 DD - i.e. - they won't go away!!!  They just look bigger cause I'm smaller around! 

On the divorce thing - I agree with what has been posted but wouldn't know first hand. I am just thankful that I was strong enough to end a failing marriage when I did, and then strong enough to chose WLS for ME and MY KIDS!  

I agree with what has been said so far, but thought I'd add my 2 cents, for what it's worth.  Everything changes.  And I mean everything.  No longer are we able to hold on to the feelings we have about food, no longer is it there for our comfort or our joy.  My husband and I used to enjoy going out to dinner together.  It has been a challenge and food is quite overwhelming at times. (Between finding healthy food and food that actually sits in my pouch without having to run to the bathroom to throw up).  He has told me that he misses our dinners together.  I try to tell him that things will get better.  I am no longer found, just sitting on the couch, where he could find me in the past.  I am more "selfish."  I have done this amazing thing for ME and no one else and I intend to make the most of it.  If this means that I have to get up and go to the gym without him, that's what I'm doing.  I am doing more things by myself.  Going to support groups, meeting with new friends, things that I haven't considered in the past due to my weight.  Now is my time.  I am gaining self-esteem but I don't need someone to validate the person that I am.  I am quite capable of doing that.  Yes, it is great to hear from people how they think you have changed, but I don't think a failed marriage is always about cheating.  Marriage has always been work to me and I will continue to work for it.  You can only do what you can do, and if you have never done anything for yourself in the past, the future is a whole new ballgame.