ENOUGH, PLEASE!!! I'M SORRY!!!

TIA...being one of the sorta newbies I'll say that you haven't scared me away at all.  In fact, quite the opposite.  Your presence was definitely missed while you were at the beach so STAY!!

i tend to be the type to back off when things get too complicated so i don't know the whole deal. and i try not to be nosy enough to ask alot of questions so i don't totally know what has happened. but i would miss you dearly and you have been a great support for me. you let me cry on the phone so that is a pretty great accomplishment. i hope that one day i can be there for you like you have for me. i really care about you so let's keep the party going!

wow, i knew something was brewing strongly off the main board, but i didn't know it had reached a point where people were thinking about leaving.  if it's any consolation, i've been posting on message boards for ten years now and most of them are male-dominated boards because they are sports and politics related.  this shyte happens all the time.  i'm sure the fact that we are women makes it all a little more emotional though especially since most of carry a lot of emotional baggage anyway.  clique is just a dumb name for people that hang out together.  and we're all in cliques in different aspects of our life.  as a newbie, i have never, ever felt not included in anything on this board.  in fact, quite to the contrary, i am extremely impressed with how welcoming everyone is.  i will be the first one to tell you that i do not have many women friends because i typically cannot live up to their expectations.  women demand more from us and i'm not a great giver.  anyway, i would hate to see anyone leave this board with their feelings hurt... especially those that have been here the longest because i feel that you have the most to offer us newbies.

Ok I must have missed something. I don't post alot but I do read most posts. Tia I agree with Heather me being a kind of Newbie I don't see anything wrong with being you. You seem to always go out of your way for others and always have something encouraging or at least a good laugh for everyone on here. Hope you stay.

Candie

And I love you and you and you and you! AND so on and so forth! (((Tia))) my fruit roll up buddy to the end....my stalker of men...Oh wait, that's me! LOL You know where I stand and you know how I feel. Yes, I agree each and every person who posts or lurks on the MD board is an important part of our WLS world. For the people who don't post but lurk they are hopefully getting the good that is on this board every day. As was stated in I believe Darla's post....we are family, dysfunctional at times but family just the same. I do care for each and every person on this board, even if they don't think I do. Friendships begin, friendships end, it's all part of the circle of life as are fights, making up and moving on.

If any of my pork, chicken or steak comments offended any vegetarians in the room for that I am sorry. It was not intended that way...was just in good fun. Aaron is right, the tone in a post does not always reflect what the author means...we all need to remember that when it comes to the written word.

Things like this are going to happen occasionally and on a public forum it's bound to happen a little more and be a little more dramatic. I too am glad that it happened, that some things have been vented, brought into the open and settled....for good. At this point I think I will burst into song and Kumbaya my way through my jog tonight! Boy, now that I can't access OH from work anymore seems I'm gonna miss all the good stuff! LOL Hope everyone has had a wonderful day and yes, tomorrow IS a new day!!!!

Okay, I haven't been around long. But, I have been a member of other forums and this happens everywhere. There are groups of people who just click (not clique) and become good friends. There is NOTHING wrong with that! On the flipside, there is always going to be someone on a forum who might rub you the wrong way. Again, there is nothing wrong with that! Things can be taken the wrong way, especially in written context. There's that lack of body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice. I notice tensions can really get high when there is talk about sex, drinking, or partying.

I don't really know what happened, but I figured I'd throw my 2 cents in.

BTW, I'm the LEAST judgmental person you would ever find. I don't know if that makes me apathetic... but that's just how I am. As long as what you are doing is not affecting me personally, then I really don't mind. In fact, it's fun to read!

Amen sister!!!!

Hello Tia,
There was drama and I missed it? I miss a lot since I work too much and only get on here before bedtime or on weekends.  I hope whatever happened has been worked out by now.  I won't be nosy and ask what happened or who was involved but I am wondering, since you posted this.  I can see from your posts that you are a fun, caring, supportive outgoing and exuberant person. 

I like that..."to find men!"
I have lurked on the SBAAWL board too, LOL!  I do not think I can flirt the way they do, so I do not try!  I still cannot tell whether they are only talk or if they are for real and hooking up.   

I like that you describe it as a circle of trust. I only have time to be part of the entire outer circle and get on OH during evenings and weekends.  I see that some of you talk throughout the workday and get together outside of here, which is something I have not had time to do if I had the energy.  But I do enjoy the time I do spend here and each and every one of you all.

I agree that some of us do not know each other in real life just by chatting in this forum.  It would be wrong to make any snap judgements about disliking anyone here, because we only are seeing part of the person, and whether they can write and spell, LOL.    There is so much more to each and every one of us.  We all do not have to be best friends to support one another in our WLS journey. 
I have not yet participated in any of the in-person support groups or social gatherings you have had due to my work hours and because I have been struggling with physical exhaustion from carrying this weight around, and I do not get up for a LONG time on the weekends.  Soon after I have my surgery and drop some weight, I would hopefully get to come meet some or all of you OH  folks at one of the gatherings that are frequently planned. 
Take care
Hugs,
Jennifer

Well, when I woke up this morning, on thankfully a much needed day off, I read a lot of crazy posts. I was going to respond in the other thread, but it's gone now, which I'm sure is a good thing. I lived through an almost identical situation a few years ago. It's not fun, and I'm so very sorry that two dear friends of mine had to experience this pain.

Now I know why I adore you both Tia and Kristin. Because you are adult, compassionate and caring women and they are smart, funny and gorgeous.

It took a little bit of pain, and that is sad... but through the pain they came together and resolved their differences. Differences they wouldn't have even had, if it wouldn't have been for a person who needs no further recognition.

I'm thankful that most of this is in the past. I pray that both of my friends will work through the emotional wreckage, and become even stronger women because of it.

Thank you Tia and Kristin for being great sources of support and inspiration to me. I'm so lucky, I can count you amongst my friends!