Mini Debate

Thanks Lisa- I really appreciate it-  You are wonderful. By the way I was going to send you a PM I will let you know later today no later than 4 whether I will be able to go on Sunday.  I really want to!!!  I will send you a PM.,

I really hope that you can go!  I am supposed to meet Deb in Hebron at 11:00, so if you can go, we could meet in Cambridge at 10:30.  Let me know!

Like everyone has stated this is difficult situation. But if the person is my good friend I would tell her since I would want for her to tell me if she knew.  Thank goodness I have not been put in that situation.

Cira:
I would want to be told too.  Hope the babies feel much better SOON!  I get the grandkids a lot too when they are sick.  This week one of them came over with burns on his ear and down his back from someone cooking with grease on the stove.  Then when the smallest one was in pampers, there were never any diapers sent with him.  I used to send things home with them and now I don't do that.  We don't even get clothes for them now.  They just get dropped off.  I have clothes that I keep for them at our house, but I make sure to launder the ones that they have on when they are dropped off and try to send them home with those clothes on.  Funny how they have come to expect things from us.

Thank you Lisa!

Isn't unbelievable how our kids think that they can take advantage of us. The thing that really upsets me is that my daughter does not have her priorities set straight. This little girl has been diagnosed with asthma and she didn't even bring me the nebulizer & meds, The other night my granddaughter has an asthma attack and at three in the morning I was rummaging through unpacked boxes in my garage looking for the nebulizer her milk, medsnd more pullups she left and never left the key. I am just livid and she hasn't evwe have and aalbuterol. Then she was supposed to leave her key under the mat so I can pick en tried calling to see how Janiyah is doing. I was never like that with them I have no idea why she is this bad. I hope your grandson is better from the burn poor kid. I can totally relate about the clothes too.   ughhhh My daughter me one day that since I was her mother I am suppose to help her  always. She has a big surprise coming to her.

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! There is no thinking about it. Yes it may hurt your friend but you in the long run are doing them a FAVOR! They may more then likely stay with the cheater but atleast its out in the open. I love my friends and I have to look out for their well being because it would EAT ME ALIVE if I knew something like that and let it continue as if it wasnt going on. I would want someone to do the same for me. I mean being a good friend is not always easy. (((Hugs))) ~Jilly~

I've seen it where the cheating person actually turns it on the friend to make it look like they are trying to ruin the relationship.  I would most likely tell, and I would want to be told, but I would think very hard about it before I did.
Thanks for your input.

Honestly,  I would be careful because your firend may not believe you and you will end up losing.  I think we can all say we would want to know, but would we really believe it, or would we put ourselves into denial and then take our frustration out on the person who told us.  If you actually saw the cheating with your own eyes, then yea, I would tell, but if it is rumor, I would not say anything. just my 2 cents

Jen:
Thanks for your reply.  Thankfully, I'm not in this situation.  I heard this conversation on the radio this morning.  I would have to think long and hard before I told and I may even confront the person that I saw cheating.

Ah, ethics! Our Friday AM training session was on just that subject. I would only ask myself if I would want to know, then let that answer guide what I would tell my friend. Penny