I'm officially furious.

Ok, so if you've read my previous posts, you know that I am having major issues with eating.  Yesterday marked 3 months since my surgery and I cannot eat solid food.  I have always been behind in the recommendations of what foods I could eat, but now I have regressed to the full liquid/puree stage. I feel sick after eating anything besides yogurt or cream of chicken soup.  If I eat anything solid then I will either be sick for 6-8 hours and end up making myself throw up or I will throw up within an hour.  When this happens I cannot drink anything because it intensifies the pain. I called Dr. Moein's office on July 3 on the advice of my therapist.  I was going to wait until my July 17 routine appt, but she said what I am feeling is absolutely not right.  I had to wait for hours and hours before they called back and at 4:45 they called and told me to have an Upper GI.  Due to the holiday, I was unable to get an appointment until Tuesday morning.

So I got the Upper GI and apparently (according to the NP) it shows no blockage and no leaks.  So the NP says she will speak to Dr. Moein and call me back and let me know how he wants to proceed.  This is Tuesday. 

FF to this morning, still no call, my H calls up and asks he what is going on.  She's like "He's in the office today and he'll call today."  So this afternoon H calls again (because still no call) and she says "Well, he doesn't see anything wrong with the test, so..."  Then she says "Let me ask you a question - why am I talking to you instead of your wife?"  He said I was shy and didn't like making calls (true) and she said she was going to call me directly in a few minutes. That was around 3:30.  It is quarter of 7 and no freaking call back. They have known for a week that I am sick and vomiting and cannot eat and they don't care and obviously won't help me.  I can't even get Dr. Moein on the freaking phone. I'm like enraged here.  I don't care what the f**king UGI shows, I obviously have a problem.  So he needs to get off his lazy ass either speak to or see me and figure it the f**k out. I just left a very terse message on her voice mail.  I'm not that kind of person.  I'm rather shy and rarely speak up for myself, so for me to leave a message like that must mean that I have had it up to here. I have been miserable since day 1.  I have never had the feeling where I think "I love my RNY".  My feelings are usually "Why did I do this to myself?"  I've lost 92 lbs.  I don't need to use a wheelchair anymore and I'm not diabetic.  But I still don't think it was worth it.  I am absolutely miserable and I hate life now.

I am sorry Sweet, could you get all your reecords and go to another surgeon??? Dr Averbach is awesome, after my 2 day stay in the hospital I got this WICKED fever, mom paged Dr A and he called me within 10 minutes, he said if fever did not break after the tylenol to come in the morning.  Well my fever spiked and went to see him, he was actually in surgery when I went in, they called him out of surgery and had me re-admitted to the hospital, after and Upper GI, arterial blood draws and 3 potassium runs done in 12 hours...it was found out that I had C-diff, yucky!!!!! stayed in the hospital for 4 days til my fever broke.  as much s you are a patient you are a customer and have every right to change doctors! Good Luck swetie!

I am so sorry you are going through so much. It is sad that lately all I hear is complints of Dr. Moein.. You know you can leave his practice and go to another doctor who wil take you as a patient.  How Dr von Rueden  let me know if you want his number. I know you live far but he is worth it.   Dr. Von Rueden never left me waiting when I needed to talk with him and his nurses always get back to me in reasonable time. I hope you get answers soon as to what is going on with you.  It is not fun to feel miserable all the time. Hopefully soon eveything will be resolved and you will feel different about your decision. ((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))) 

I am so sorry that you are going through all this. It's a real shame that you do something to better yourself, your health, and your life and you have been having all these problems. My heart really goes out to you. I agree with both Jen and Cira, since you are not getting anywhere with Dr. M you may want to speak to another surgeon or a PCP that is WLS-friendly. Can you call your insurance company and see who they can recommend? You should be able to eat a lot more than you are able to and not get sick. Your health is at stake as is your total well-being. Keeping you in my prayers that this whole mess gets resolved soon!

I agree with Heather....If the surgeon isnt getting back with you, you may need to call another, plead your case and pray that you get the help that is needed!

OMG that is crazy!!  I'm so sorry that you aren't getting no help.  I agree with the rest of the advice that has been posted and you should look into seeing another surgeon.  I just feel you atleast deserve a call back from him!!!  You also deserve to beable to eat!  Please keep us posted. Teri

Let me ask you a question - why am I talking to you instead of your wife?"  YOUR HUSBAND SHOULD HAVE REPLIED   WHY AM I TALKING TO YOU INSTEAD OF THE  DR? If you don't hear from him tomorrow by all means call a different Dr. Dr. Rueden did my surgury and although I found his bedside manner a little off at times he never ever made me wait to get answers: Dr Mo is overwhelmed I think but thats no excuse for his treatment of you.

darla, i read this post before i left work and didn't have time to reply.  i swear to goodness i was going to post the same thing.  how dare they ask why your husband is calling!  with the divorce rate amonst gastric bypass patients being higher than the average, they should be impressed with a spouse that is this involved.  i am!!  honestly, i wish he would have something like "why do you ask, does your husband not care about your well-being?"

I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I had a lot of the same problems (actually I had nausea and vomiting for months on end, I ended up with TPN for 2 months from 1 week out - 9 weeks and then I had a feeding tube for 7.5 months). It was hard because sometimes I felt soo shrugged off that it depressed me. I've been getting really nasty pains and I called because the ER doc said I might be kinking and unkinking and never got a call back and one night it lasted 17 hours and when I called and had my doc paged she acted like I was a bother for even calling. Talk bout frustrating!!! Anyways it sounds like you may need an endoscopy and get dilated... I hope you get some answers. I do want you to know things do get better (I had an ulcer and was dilated 4 times but the severe nausea and vomiting lasted til I was bout 9 months post op). To this day I still have days I keep very little if anything down and I still take a lot of stomach meds and anti nausea meds (am on Carafate, Reglan, Nulev, Phenergan, Zofran & Tigan). I hope you get to feeling better soon and if you need to talk in private or anything feel free to pm me.

Dr. Averbach was my surgeon, as well. Three days after i got home from the hospital (he kept me an extra day because i was not drinking enough fluids), i began to run a VERY low fever...100.4. Since my instructions said call the doc if u have a fever of 100 or over, i called. He returned my call almost immediately. I live in Germantown...St. Agnes Hospital is in Baltimore ....approx. an hour away from where i live. He told me to go to the nearest emergency room and gave me a list of tests he wanted performed. He then gave me his CELL PHONE NUMBER SO HE COULD BE IN TOUCH WITH THE DOCS AT THE EMERGENCY ROOM at he hospital in my area. I went the emergency room and, of course, had to wait 5 hours to be seen. The docs talked to Averbach and ordered the tests. I had all the tests and it was now 3:00 AM. They then called Averbach with the results. He took the call at 3:00 AM. It was decided, after he spoke to me on the phone in the emergency room that i would go home...rest...and call him first thing in the morning (Sunday morning, mind u). He called me...didn't wait for me to call him. We discussed the next move and decided, between THE TWO OF US, that i would remain home and take my temp and blood pressure every few hours and report back to him rather than going back to St. Agnes, inpatient. That is exactly what was done. I had his cell phone number.....HE WAS ALWAYS AVAILABLE...and we talked multiple times a day. THIS IS THE WAY A DCOTOR SHOULD RESPOND to any potential problems. Averbach is GREAT. Call him!