THE GREAT DEBATE #2

What is the "Number," of date you should be on before you have sex???  Discuss and no "it's when you are comfortable,"  some people are comfy on date #1 but don't want to look like a ho, unless that was what you were going for....

LOL!!!  in my world.......the first one!  which is probably why I haven't dated in over 3 years LOL

Laugh.....  Typical Guy.....

OH I thought you meant TRICK  ;)

Hmmmmmm......well, I guess it depends on what both parties are after.  If you know up front that it's just gonna be all about the sex, then anything goes, provided you can live with yourself afterward. If it's a person with whom you think you might feel a deeper connection (no pun intended), I always thought it would be wise to wait.....get ready.......2-3 months.  Not that you can really put a time frame on it, but I've found that when you jump into bed too quickly, you lose that period of discovery.  All of your activities center around sex (not that that's a bad thing), but you miss out on really getting to know the person.  Plus, if you're really into the other person, and it's not reciprocated and you have sex too soon, you end up getting your feelings hurt. Of course, I also believe that on Halloween, the Great Pumpkin rises from the pumpkin patch to deliver toys to all the good little girls and boys.  LOL!! Thanks, Jen!! Tia

You are a very wise woman....definetly, feelings will be hurt if you jump in to early!!!  Funny how women and men view this one differently...so if you find a guy who wants to wait longer...does he have more of a girlie side???  LOL

That is so funny you said that.  When I was first dating my husband, he wanted to wait.  Me, not so much.  I kept thinking . . . something's wrong with this man because all of the other relationships I had revolved around sex.  I can only tell you that it was worth the wait.  He told me that he wanted the relationship to be more than about the physical.  Believe me, he is not a girly man.  Been together for 20 years now. I do agree with Tia, there are times where you just want it for the physical attraction and nothing more and as adults that's okay too.

Aw, thanks!!!  Now, if I could JUST apply my wisdom to my own life, I'd be good!!!! I guess, if you find a man who is willing to wait to get to know the real you, then you should hang onto him!!!  If, on the other hand, you find a man who is willing to wait because he's 43, you're gonna be his first and he's scared..................RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  LOL!!! Tia

LOL...oh my gosh...visions of the movie the 40 yr Old Virgin!!!! so smarties....where do we find these men???? 

I think it's totally up to the people concerned. I have never put a number on it and it's been when the two of us have decided when we want to. There are some people who would say that doing it within the first 2-3 dates is wrong and there are others who did it the first date and have been married for 50 years. For me personally? I'll never kiss and tell! LOL