Still Waiting

So I am going a little stir crazy waiting for the insurance companys approval.  I guess because they do it so often they just seem so laid back about it.   Also just wondering how everyones family was/is after the surgery.   I am not sure how supportive my family will be.  I know i have a couple people that will be very supportive but I am already hearing comments about they dont know why I am doing this.   Thanks guys  Barb

Barb - I know it's tough to wait, and yes, they are laid back about it, unfortunately.  To them, it's just part of their everyday routine, but to you, it's your life.  Did they tell you when you would hear?  If they did, and you haven't heard by then, call them - document everything, too. Fortunately, I have the greatest family (even though sometimes I'd cheerfully sell them!), and they were all very, very supportive, as were all of my friends.  Everyone who knows me knew I did my homework and had determined that this was best for me.   Only worry about your immediate family - you actually won't need as much after care as you're probably thinking.  I was driving within 5 days of my surgery, so hopefully, it'll be like that for you.  As far as the naysayers, just tell them that you've done your homework, have selected a doctor you trust and you'd appreciate their support.  If they don't give it, then to hell with them.  Come here, we're always open and always supportive.   And you're close by, I can always come over and slap them around a little for ya!!!! Tia

I called Aetna on Friday and they said that I am in the pending stage at this point and I will hear something as soon as a decision is made.  Like I said so laid back I wanted to scream lol. My son and I live with my grandparents and have for most of his life since I help them as well as they help me. (financially Babysitting etc).  My grandmother of course at the lovely age of 70 thinks I am fine the way I am lol.  She is the best in the world but OOOOOOOO so hard headed.  I am sure it will all work out fine but just seems she doesnt really want to even know much about the surgery.   Now on the other hand I have a few other family members that I know will be helpfull.   I have already learned so much on this forum and Thanks so much Tia I will remember that!!

Barb, I don't have the most supportive family regarding my upcoming surgery on Friday.  When I try to talk to them about it and explain the surgery, my post op concerns etc., they say "then why you having it" "I don' t  think you should". that is the level of support. I have like you. have been thinking about it for a long time and when I made the decision a few months ago, I  vowed nothing was going to stand in my way.  This forum has been the best! I am so glad I found everyone here, they have been so supportive and it is filling the family void.  Hang in there Terri

Hi Terri  Thanks for letting me know what your going thru too.  I am glad you are keeping positive and I am trying to also.  Yeah this forum sure is great and I love it here too.  Good luck with your journey and talk to ya soon. Barb

I must be one of the very few that didn't even doubt being covered by my insurance. In fact, I got my approval letters after I had my surgery. I also think that at that point in time my surgeons office was a very well oiled ma*****e. It worked very well.  I had little support before my surgery. My family and friends really didn't want me to have the surgery. My brother was very supportive, however. Since surgery, I get a lot more support an encouragement from everyone.  Best of luck to you!

How long has Aetna had your request? Next time you call ask them to read any notes associated with your application? Also, try to get the phone number for the certification office then you can call there directly. My paperwork sat in "pending" status for a couple of weeks before I got someone to read me all the details and we noted they were waiting for some more documentation.  As for family. I'm still pre-op and keeping my surgery pretty private. My parents & two siblings know. After that I have requested that everyone else be told as little as possible up to an including it is a private matter that I would prefer not to have discussed. My extended family is basically nasty about everything and I don't need the negativity. As for my immediate family. My dad is super supportive, my mom is nervous but will be coming to stay for a week or so post-op, both sisters are supportive though one is dealing with some jealousy. I strive to keep the negativity out of my life in regards to most things but wls for sure. If anyone starts in on it I just say my doctor and I have agreed this is the best course of action and I hope they can be supportive.

So funny I just opened the mail and got a letter saying what paperwork they still need and then I came up and read your response.  Thanks for the heads up.  I have to get a letter of med necessity from my PCP.  Yeah I really havent been telling alot of people and I am sure everyone will react differently. We will see.